Oasiscalm wrote:

If you have to calculate the length of time you are going to take to reply then you've lost already.

A confident woman doesn't worry about rules and games. It's all about your intention and the energy you are portraying.

 

  
  
Are we discussing Lanie's teachings here on this forum or what?
Because I'm talking about Lanie's theories and what she has
written in her books and you come along saying something else.

Please clarify.

  

 

Indigo wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

If you have to calculate the length of time you are going to take to reply then you've lost already.

A confident woman doesn't worry about rules and games. It's all about your intention and the energy you are portraying.

 

  
Are we discussing Lanie's teachings here on this forum or what?
Because I'm talking about Lanie's theories and what she has
written in her books and you come along saying something else.

Please clarify.

 

What does that even mean.....

What am I not allowed to say something because Lanie said it differently in her books. Is it not my freedom of speech ......

I don't think Lanie is looking to create disciples of her "theories". She is given advice and guidance.

I'm sure she is humble enough to know anything I write on here fully supports her "theories" whether I say it in exactly or slightly different to how she says it.

Indigo wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

What does that even mean.....

What am I not allowed to say something because Lanie said it differently in her books. Is it not my freedom of speech ......

I don't think Lanie is looking to create disciples of her "theories". She is given advice and guidance.

I'm sure she is humble enough to know anything I write on here fully supports her "theories" whether I say it in exactly or slightly different to how she says it.
  

  
  
What it means is are we here to discuss LANIE's books and theories or YOURS???

Or MINE???

Because I'm not trying to be a DISCIPLE, I just happen to agree with most of what
Lanie says.

But honestly, as I've stated before, my form of NC is to let the dude know that he can
just KMA forever and drive on.  Because when I'm done, I'm done.  I personally don't
believe in any of this I'm-gonna-get-my-boyfriend-back business.  It's too many men
out here for me.  If he cheated or mistreated me or whatever, why would I want him
back???  That's my philosophy on that.

So when these ladies post about how they are in NC and how they want to get their
man back, should I just post a rant about what I really think they should do about it
or should I post about what Lanie writes in her books???  Because last time I 
checked this is not the INDIGO forum.

Please let me know what is acceptable here.  
  
  
 

Loooool

Based on what you have just said there shouldn't be a sub section which has links for other resources etc.

This is a forum which Lanie set up so everyone had a place to have support and empower each other with knowledge. It's not solely and only to regurgitate the books verbatim.

In all the time I've been on this forum the discussion has been open. Open to using methods  for ladies to get what thy desire.  To my knowledge there has never been an instance where Lanie came on here said don't discuss that because it's not in my book. In fact I recall the first time we discussed EFT on here long before Lanie's current book and she joined in the discussion and continued to advocate it; and as she has been user of it for so many years it was fantastic that she added it to her new book.

Indigo wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

Loooool

Based on what you have just said there shouldn't be a sub section which has links for other resources etc.

This is a forum which Lanie set up so everyone had a place to have support and empower each other with knowledge. It's not solely and only to regurgitate the books verbatim.

In all the time I've been on this forum the discussion has been open. Open to using methods for ladies to get what thy desire. To my knowledge there has never been an instance where Lanie came on here said don't discuss that because it's not in my book. In fact I recall the first time we discussed EFT on here long before Lanie's current book and she joined in the discussion and continued to advocate it; and as she has been user of it for so many years it was fantastic that she added it to her new book.
  

  
  
So in all the time you've been here, no one has ever been banned???

Is that what you're saying???

So people can just talk about WHATEVER THEY WANT???
  
  
 

Actually to my memory two people have been banned.

And both of them were banned for being argumentative and disrespectful to Lanie & other forum members.

DeDe651 wrote:

But l had ignored him once already and he reached out again. I'm all for not being readily available, but at what point is it game playing?

I wasn't available the first time (4 days prior to him texting) but of course since I do actually want to converse with him I did text back on his second outreach.

I know for myself that if someone texts or calls me twice and I don't get back to them, eventually they may stop calling.

We will have to agree to disagree, but of course thank you for your input and contribution to the thread! ❤️
  

  
  
You are concerned about playing games when the reality is that you are the
one who is getting played.  You are the one left to wonder why he did not
respond and I told you.  If you don't return his calls and he stops calling
then he stops calling.  It's not the end of your world.  What you are doing
is not working otherwise you wouldn't have started this thread.  Anyway,
it is quite alright if you refuse the advice that was given, if not you it
helps someone else and that is all that matters.