ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Happyjan wrote:

Hi all!
I love this forum & Lanie for putting us all together this way!
What a blessing!
Anyway I just have a question about the technique everyone uses.
How does everyone feel connected to their guy/girl during the visualization?
Does everyone see themselves in the scene like watching it on a movie screen or just your significant other? From what I've learnt about loa I have to see it through my eyes so I don't see myself. Sort of like he's standing in front of me. Do you visualise his whole body or just his face?
I would love the opinion of others & what they see. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Thankyou! xoxo

A warm welcome to you Happyjan. People like myself are not really good at seeing images clearly in our minds. The most important thing is to focus on the feeling. And you have to put yourself in the picture. Do look at it like you are watching a movie. You have to present as if he is standing right in front of you, face to face. Or cheek to cheek. Anyone body else can chime in with their answer.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

I believe the best way to view the person is as if he is standing 2 feet in front of you.  You will focus on them from about their shoulders up.  Mainly the face, the eyes, the hair, etc.  If you are seeing the two of you standing there together then you are not "in" the scene.  You are visualizing the scene.  Put yourself in it as if it were happening now and in the moment.  So you will not see yourself in the scene.

Hope this helps!  

Big Hugs,
Lanie

PS:  If you believe you have a hard time "seeing" take this test.  Most people "see" better than they think they do.  Close your eyes and visualize your living room.  As clearly as you see it is as clearly as you should see your man.  The most important is feeling the connection and allowing your heart, body and soul to connect.  He will feel it literally like a jolt out of the blue.

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Lanie Stevens wrote:

I totally agree!  All the negativity and doubt affects everyone!  You cannot continue reading negative thoughts OR hearing negative thoughts and have them not affect you.  

I had a friend for years and I had to give her an ultimatum.  I hated to do it but her attitude was affecting me and there was no advice that she heeded.  Eventually I told her that I could no longer be friends with her.  I would say prayers for her well-being but to be contacted daily with her latest "negative update" was too much for me to deal with.  Her negativity cost her a long term relationship, her health, all her money....everything!  I explained to her that as long as she continued to focus on what she didn't have and not appreciate all the many blessings she did have she would continue to experience what she was manifesting.  You cannot live life without appreciation.   She ended up losing everything she could possibly lose and then couldn't figure out WHY that happened to her. 

I did acquiesce and continue being her friend but I limit my exposure because she refuses to "see the light".  If someone is dragging you down you need to cut the cord.  For your sake as well as theirs.  

Wait a second here, you had a friend who never took your advice and wisdom to heart? I wished I had at least one friend like you since eons ago. I would be so far ahead of my game today.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

Yes, we all have friends that we cannot help no matter how hard we try.  She would rather wallow in self-pity than take a  step toward emotional freedom.  She even manifested what she wanted with my guidance but she would slip back into the "poor me" state.  Being a victim is habit forming for some.  It allows them to be totally and completely without blame for anything that happens to them in life.  I have a male friend who wants on the forum because he claims that my guidance has worked miracles in his life.  Two attitudes that are polar opposites.    

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Anna1408 wrote:

Hi AwesomeSauce88,

Firstly I do think it is very understandable that you feel bad about what your guy is doing. These kinds of things can be terribly painful and they really can make you go crazy, speculating about what may or may not be happening, etc.

But whatever happens (and it probably won't be as bad as you think it is in the end) I think you need from now on to put the topic of the cabin trip out of your mind. What's done is done and that can't be changed, but if you keep your mind focused on it, then all that will happen is that it will snowball right in front of you. Stop putting your energy into this upsetting stuff and start working out a plan for yourself that will lead to getting him back.

So let's just turn over a new page now. Please believe me when I tell you that Lanie's methods are incredibly powerful, and if you apply them regularly, they will work for you. There is just something that happens when you do them that makes the guy want you like crazy. I don't know what it is, but it's happened to me and it's happened to a whole lot of other people, too. So try to relax now. Dry your tears, if you have them, and hold your head up high. Remember, you are a queen. Do the techniques and then let it go and put the subject of him out of your mind, if you can. Try to focus on things that you enjoy doing and if he does pop up in your thoughts, remind yourself that he is already yours and it's just a matter of time before you see this in your reality. Forget the past and have faith in these methods, because you really can mould your future with this guy exactly the way you want it to be. That's the bottom line, and that is really all that matters.

Thank you for your input Anna1408. I think she has calmed down now. But honestly when something else happen and least face it, life love to throw curve balls at us, she will go right back to not controlling her thoughts and her emotions again. I really want her to take this lesson seriously and do the techniques and leave the rest behind her.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

Yes Shana, I agree. That's a very good point you've made here. This could happen again and again, but it doesn't have to. In my own expereince, when I fret about the guy being away, what he's doing, etc, etc, then he stays far away. Whenever I just drop all of that,get on with the visualizing, and forget him for the rest of the day, that's just when he comes back. Awesome needs to detach herself from everything and just to be confident that the techniques (PW and BWD) do both work. 
 

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Anna1408 wrote:

Awesome, really, if you think about all this, you have SO MUCH going for you. Obviously you're frustrated about how things are going right now, but really you can turn all of this around. Use Lanie's methods on your friends too. Maybe...have them come to you in your mind and say what a great friend you are and how they love your company, for example. Anything that you want them to say, imagine it clearly and feel all the good feelings of getting such a compliment. The PW technique is so short that you could imagine calling several different friends over to you, one after another, and each one telling you something especially nice that you would love ot hear and that would make you feel more a part of the group again.

In my opinion, and that's all it is, I think she should place more focus on herself and loving herself more and more each day. Her friends and other people will be naturally drawn in by her light. Even the guy she wants. Take it or leave it.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

What you say here is so true Shana: Thank you for this because I need to focus more in that area myself! :-):  "I think she should place more focus on herself and loving herself more and more each day. Her friends and other people will be naturally drawn in by her light. Even the guy she wants. Take it or leave it."

 

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awesomesauce88 wrote:

Hey I have a quick questions. I am in some sort of panic but its like i know there is nothing i m panicking about? I use to take anti anxiety meds but stopped a year ago. I have not had a chance to read the EFT technique thing yet. So in the mean time at work anyone know how to deal with just flat out panic that you know has no reason to be there right now? I m sorry if this offends anyone..i m just asking for anything to use at the current moment before i look up EFT. Or any quick EFT pointers?

I also suffer from anxiety. I used to take Ativan, but I started becoming too dependent on it. I take a supplement called GABA as needed (it can make you sleepy) and I deep breathe. As I breathe I imagine inhaling love and healing energy and as I exhale, I blow out everything that's negative and causing my anxiety. Feel better!