Craigd88 wrote:

Greetings ladies,

I am not a female but I was recommended this book by some lovely ladies at Veronica's forum. My intentions are with 100% love. I want my girl friend back and I wish to marry her. I have been using Lanie's Pussy Whip method for 2 days now. 

I see my girl off in the distance, she comes to me at my call (very fast, sometimes runs to me and hugs me before I say a word), I stare her in the eyes and we have a conversation much like we would in real life. I dont feel much emotion (I do feel some but not crazy) during our interaction. She tells me she misses me, that she loves me and wants me back in her life. She tells me im the one for her, etc. 

However, lately I can sense some fear in her. I think she may be scared to reach out to me and contact me again. I think she may still be conflicted inside due to her friends and family's opinion of me vs her true desire for me. She tells me she is scared to get back with me again because she doesnt want it to fail and be hurt all over again. Is there anything I can do to help her out or is this coming strictly from MY subconscious?

And is there anything I can do to "boost" my emotion during this? Its as if I keep hearing her tell me what I already know so it doesnt really surprise me or make me incredibly happy (esp if done several times a day, it gets repetitive).

Thank you all so much! 

Welcome Craig.

Put a smile on your face when doing the technique, this gets you to a good feeling place. I read once that it works my tricking the subconscious mind to believing that you are happy. Then to feel emotions have her say things that you want to hear.
It's worth sitting and thinking about what is it your really want her to come and say to you. I know when I was in the process of clearing negative emotions with my guy, one day it just clicked that actually all I really need to hear from him was xyz. And that's what I put in my PW sessions. Everyone has a different thing so get to there and then use that in your visualisation.
 
You could also boost emotions by spending a few moments before she starts to tell you whatever just being with her, maybe hugging, stoking her hair, kissing that will start to warm u up.

In regards to her confused state, you need to not pay attention to that. Reframe the situation, change the story. You need to see her as being clear on your relationship and that there are no outside factors limiting it. If you keep sensing fear you are just going to be faced with more of it. Once you remove that belief from your mind there will be nothing for you to do, with time the subject will stop coming up.

Take care of you

Craigd88 wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

Craigd88 wrote:

Greetings ladies,

I am not a female but I was recommended this book by some lovely ladies at Veronica's forum. My intentions are with 100% love. I want my girl friend back and I wish to marry her. I have been using Lanie's Pussy Whip method for 2 days now. 

I see my girl off in the distance, she comes to me at my call (very fast, sometimes runs to me and hugs me before I say a word), I stare her in the eyes and we have a conversation much like we would in real life. I dont feel much emotion (I do feel some but not crazy) during our interaction. She tells me she misses me, that she loves me and wants me back in her life. She tells me im the one for her, etc. 

However, lately I can sense some fear in her. I think she may be scared to reach out to me and contact me again. I think she may still be conflicted inside due to her friends and family's opinion of me vs her true desire for me. She tells me she is scared to get back with me again because she doesnt want it to fail and be hurt all over again. Is there anything I can do to help her out or is this coming strictly from MY subconscious?

And is there anything I can do to "boost" my emotion during this? Its as if I keep hearing her tell me what I already know so it doesnt really surprise me or make me incredibly happy (esp if done several times a day, it gets repetitive).

Thank you all so much! 

Welcome Craig.

Put a smile on your face when doing the technique, this gets you to a good feeling place. I read once that it works my tricking the subconscious mind to believing that you are happy. Then to feel emotions have her say things that you want to hear.
It's worth sitting and thinking about what is it your really want her to come and say to you. I know when I was in the process of clearing negative emotions with my guy, one day it just clicked that actually all I really need to hear from him was xyz. And that's what I put in my PW sessions. Everyone has a different thing so get to there and then use that in your visualisation.
 
You could also boost emotions by spending a few moments before she starts to tell you whatever just being with her, maybe hugging, stoking her hair, kissing that will start to warm u up.

In regards to her confused state, you need to not pay attention to that. Reframe the situation, change the story. You need to see her as being clear on your relationship and that there are no outside factors limiting it. If you keep sensing fear you are just going to be faced with more of it. Once you remove that belief from your mind there will be nothing for you to do, with time the subject will stop coming up.

Take care of you

Thanks for the tips Oasiscalm!

Are there any signs I need to look out for during the visualization that would let me know if we are really connected or not? Lanie talked about a "its just not meant to be" scenario and I need to know if I encounter that or if there is a shot with my girl. I intend to do this as long as it takes (reasonably that is).

You are connected if you're doing the technique.  There is no way you can't be if you're directing your thoughts and feeling to her.  Don't worry too much about "right or wrong" because there really isn't.  Try sending with your heart instead of just your brain because men tend to stay in their heads a lot anyway.  Take a minute to open your heart before beginning the technique.  It can be as simple as remembering something about her that makes your heart overflow with love.  Her head on your shoulder, her hand in yours or something special you remember about her.  Then send all that love to her after you call her to you.  I hope you will read other's stories on here and you will see that it works.  My own story of it taking a year of no contact is on here too.  xoxoxoxoxo

From a ladies perspective, should I reach out to her after a couple weeks of doing the technique? Or should I expect her to reach out to me?

Generally I have always believed that guys are supposed to make the move but I wanted your guys opinion. She initiated the break up and the NC was kinda mutual. Neither one of us told the other to not speak to them ever again etc. We just...stopped contact..so I am not sure if I am supposed to reach out to her eventually or let her get to the point she cannot stand it and reach out to me?

Thanks! Wonderful advice so far!

Craigd88 wrote:

From a ladies perspective, should I reach out to her after a couple weeks of doing the technique? Or should I expect her to reach out to me?

Generally I have always believed that guys are supposed to make the move but I wanted your guys opinion. She initiated the break up and the NC was kinda mutual. Neither one of us told the other to not speak to them ever again etc. We just...stopped contact..so I am not sure if I am supposed to reach out to her eventually or let her get to the point she cannot stand it and reach out to me?

Thanks! Wonderful advice so far!

I believe it should be the guy personally but only do it when you're strong and do not place too much importance on the outcome.  If you're feeling insecure it wouldn't be the best time.  Keep it light and friendly with no mention of the breakup.  xoxoxoxoxo

Yes, I think the man should make the move, but like what was said earlier, don't have too much attachment to the outcome.