Avaelle wrote:

It sounds pretty normal.  It sounds like you were doing a lot on each day which would hit him pretty hard and take him by surprise

Thanks Avaelle,
I've cut back a bit because I was getting a little tired, so I do PW in the Am and BWD at night . sometimes I just do one.

But it's nice to know this seems to be a fairly normal occurrence.  It also helps me know that I'm getting through to him.  He's a tough nut to crack for sure.  And most certainly has some commitment issues and fears of intimacy due to his last breakup hurting him and I believed some unresolved issues from his past. But I will keep at it and know that he's thinking of me even if it's freaking him out.

I was also wondering if it is possible to use PW and BWD to get him to tell me what his past issues are so I can consider then in my visualization ? If I ask for him to tell me during a visualization would it really be him telling me or me projecting what I think? Perhaps this is something Lanie can answer.

This is what I keep struggling with. On the one hand it makes no sense that someone would run away or block someone out of the blue after they'd done PW or BWD, but on the other hand it's an extremely common occurrence based on what I've read here and on Veronica's board. So I don't know how to gauge whether it's a good thing or a bad thing?

Avaelle wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

It sounds pretty normal.  It sounds like you were doing a lot on each day which would hit him pretty hard and take him by surprise

I'm not convinced this is normal.

I would be more inclined to take an internal look at what sort of energy you were projecting to him.

True. True.  It always can be multiple reasons for something.

That makes sense.

I've definitely approached this from many angles.  As far as my energy goes I've been projecting unconditional love towards him .  All of my visualizations have been positive and very loving.  I practice the law of attraction as well so I try to keep positive when thinking about him and if I have anxiety or feel negative I change the subject to what does make me happy.  I do think my vibration has changed and is higher as I am attracting EVERYONE and their mother since I've been doing this.

My intuition says this is directly related to PW and BWD and he's having a commitmentphobe freak out.  But it is still confusing though because how do we really know the true reason behind the disappearance. I know how stubborn he can be and how he is incredibly fearful of relationships.
This was really why I asked the question, to gain insight on whether or not this was something that happened to others upon beginning PW and BWD.  Thanks everyone for your comments.

Lanie Stevens wrote:

Aliceinwonderland wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

True. True.  It always can be multiple reasons for something.

That makes sense.

I've definitely approached this from many angles. As far as my energy goes I've been projecting unconditional love towards him . All of my visualizations have been positive and very loving. I practice the law of attraction as well so I try to keep positive when thinking about him and if I have anxiety or feel negative I change the subject to what does make me happy. I do think my vibration has changed and is higher as I am attracting EVERYONE and their mother since I've been doing this.

My intuition says this is directly related to PW and BWD and he's having a commitmentphobe freak out. But it is still confusing though because how do we really know the true reason behind the disappearance. I know how stubborn he can be and how he is incredibly fearful of relationships.
This was really why I asked the question, to gain insight on whether or not this was something that happened to others upon beginning PW and BWD. Thanks everyone for your comments.

If you want commitment and he wants someone to play with before moving on the technique will make him THINK about commitment.  That can be enough to scare the living hell out of him.  Wouldn't you rather he run off after a brief time of dating than waste years trying to get him to commit?  I see it as a positive sign.  If he comes back he will have come to grips with the commitment issue and be ready for more than just fun times.  

Thank you Lanie.I really think that that is what is happening here.  I've never even asked this guy for commitment to his face I just went with what we were doing.  From what i can see he can't give a relationship to anyone right now and I think this is from him still being hurt from his last relationship failure a year ago  and a difficult and stressful 60-70 hour a week work schedule. He admittedly told me that's why his last relationship failed.  As a result I believe that he has shut down and now parties a lot trying to numb any feeling he may have. Perhaps PW and BWD has triggered his fear of commitment very deeply. 

As of right now he hides behind Facebook likes to keep one toe in my life.

I will continue the PW and BWD meditations as well as cord cutting and maybe he'll come around when he's ready,  if that ever Happens because he's got some serious blocks up.  I truly do have unconditional love for him and want the best for his emotional well being. 

In the meantime I'm going to live my life and be the best version of myself I can with or without him.