1 - thaqueenliz
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Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
You all have been so supportive and helpful I appreciate this board and Lanie and her books/meditations.
I met an amazing man in January who matched my soulmate list to a T. I was immediately smitten. Only to find out that he's unavailable. He's a military pilot and so extremely busy. I've only seen him twice in two months, barely texts, talked on the phone twice. I tried to be patient and open, did the techniques, made the dream board, everything. He's thanked me for being patient with him plenty of times. My psychic has even told me to be patient, that he's slow to open up etc etc. But I've finally faced the fact that I need to move on. Clearly his career is very demanding and takes up the bulk of his time and attention, leaving me in a constant state of confusion and insecurity. These past two months I feel as if I've disillusioned myself. Imagining and visualizing this relationship I want with him, doing the techniques and imagining him saying all these wonderful things, then reality would hit when I'd wake up to no text, no phone call, silence.
We had a date planned that he sounded so excited for, expressing sadness that we had to wait so long. The week of he cancelled--having seen my texted attempt to confirm days before as well as my missed call but not letting me know till I called again a few days later--because he had to work over the weekend, although I'm now wondering why him working Saturday would prevent him from at least a one hour dinner date or something simple such as that.
He ended up going on a mission the following week and I haven't heard from him since despite a few attempts to contact him, my final one being today.
Reality has finally settled in that things with him will just not work out no matter how much I visualize, script, charge water, see psychics, PW or BWD technique (verb form lol). I've been obsessed. And even if it is working behind the scenes, I'm embarrassed to put so much spiritual effort into a man that can't even text me a good morning because he's so consumed with work and his career.
I cry as I type this because of course I'm disappointed. Years of dating shitty men, being heartbroken over and over again yet remaining vulnerable and I thought I'd finally found someone and had it figured out, I thought all signs had pointed to him. I thought he was the one. But I have no more effort left in me to live like this week by week waiting for him to contact me, every night visualizing my ideal relationship, doing PW on him morning and night. I'm tired. (of course I'm doing things like class and seeing friends and my own projects but face it, they're still ever present in the backs of our minds).
So unfortunately this is my final day on these boards. I wish you all luck in your journeys! Please keep up your positive spirits and don't allow my failure to deter you from following your hearts!
- AnnanWater
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Re: Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
My guy, who I am still working on, didn't reach out the first time until after 5 months. I think you are giving up a little too soon!
I thought he was the be all, end all guy to the years I had spent being heartbroken, dumped, and alone too while friends were getting married. I've yet to find out but I felt the same way.
"I am not throwing away my shot!" - Lin Manuel Miranda
- Piper
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Re: Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
I agree with Annan and maybe you need to work it a little longer. Of course it's your decision whether to stay or go. If you choose to go, I wish you luck and happiness 
- thaqueenliz
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Re: Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
just an update.
I just got a google voice and was messing around trying to cal a friend. His name is right below hers and I accidentally called him, and was legitimately confused when he answered. i'm expecting a girls voice and it was him. I could heard the background of a bar and all. so these past few weeks he's had me thinking he's on some mission, I'm sitting waiting (figuratively) for him to get back so we can connect and set up a date, and he's actually here going out. (Also this entire time he's been free weekends and I didn't even know). So I take this as a sign that this is definitely over.
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Thread Starter- eleven
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Re: Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
thaqueenliz, we are powerful and magical beings. Our mind power is POWERFUL and this stuff really does work, without a doubt. I can feel that you are feeling hurt by hearing what sounded like background noise from a bar in your phone call, but you cannot know for sure and trust me, I have been one to jump to conclusions often, only to find that it was nothing like what I thought. I agree with Annan and Piper. If you still feel like you can continue a while longer, then do so as people have had their targets contact them months and sometimes even year(s) later. When I was in no contact with my guy, he contacted me after 7 months. It seems like you and your person were going in the right direction. Try your best to remind yourself of how powerful your thoughts are and that when you do the technique, it is always reaching him.
I know it can be difficult when you are feeling down in the dumps and when one thing goes wrong, it can be hard to refocus. Here is a little something that has been helping me. I have been doing a lot of research and listening to people's stories on near death experiences (I feel like EVERYONE should watch these; especially the people on this forum using the techniques) and it has really opened my eyes and has reminded me how powerful we truly are and that love is everything. I made a post about near death experiences and explained how one girl said that god (the universe) told her that there are a multitude of things we can do through the power of thinking and that we should believe in the power of God (the universe) to fulfill our creations and desires. It's powerful stuff and it is encouraging
We believe in you!!!! <3 <3 <3
- Avaelle
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Re: Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
Did you leave information out of this?
I know several military men. They all go out sometimes, even when aboard. I'm just confused on how you were able to conclude that he had been lying about being on missing and had been free each minute.
If you are frustrated, by all means take a break. You should feel good about these techniques, not feel like its a job.
- thaqueenliz
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Re: Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
Avaelle wrote:
Did you leave information out of this?
I know several military men. They all go out sometimes, even when aboard. I'm just confused on how you were able to conclude that he had been lying about being on missing and had been free each minute.
If you are frustrated, by all means take a break. You should feel good about these techniques, not feel like its a job.
i dont know if i left anything out! I just summarized. i know military men (other pilots) and am a military vet myself.
basically, a few weeks ago I was at the bar we met at (it's literally a three minute walk from his place) I texted him and said he should come out for ten minutes and say hi. He said he can't because he found out he had to fly a rescue mission and had a lot to prepare before leaving at 5am. But was all "I'll be back soon!" So I trusted and took it as truth and gave him space. I told him I'd touch base in a week or so. Which I did, no answer, then again no answer, I texted him an update (I told him in person I would do so). So it's not like I've been blowing him up. It's like *picture of my new car I told him about* then a week later a phone call, then a week later phone call and just an innocent voicemail. then tonight a few hours after my call was ignored is when I accidentally called from my other number. Not knowing it was me He answered immediately party noises in the background. I think he recognized my voice more than I recognized his because I tried calling back to ask who I'd called by accident and was then sent to voicemail. Aka he's guilty. then it hit me how google voice works and it was him. (Sorry if this sounds confusing). So the message is pretty loud and clear. not even sure if I'd want to use spiritual energy trying to attract someone who plays games like this anyways :/
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Thread Starter- ThisIsMyUsername
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Re: Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
just an update.
I just got a google voice and was messing around trying to cal a friend. His name is right below hers and I accidentally called him, and was legitimately confused when he answered. i'm expecting a girls voice and it was him. I could heard the background of a bar and all. so these past few weeks he's had me thinking he's on some mission, I'm sitting waiting (figuratively) for him to get back so we can connect and set up a date, and he's actually here going out. (Also this entire time he's been free weekends and I didn't even know). So I take this as a sign that this is definitely over.
Or you can look at the other side of the coin and realize that he meant to pick up yeah? Why would he do that? Certainly it wasn't an accident
- thaqueenliz
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Re: Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
just an update.
I just got a google voice and was messing around trying to cal a friend. His name is right below hers and I accidentally called him, and was legitimately confused when he answered. i'm expecting a girls voice and it was him. I could heard the background of a bar and all. so these past few weeks he's had me thinking he's on some mission, I'm sitting waiting (figuratively) for him to get back so we can connect and set up a date, and he's actually here going out. (Also this entire time he's been free weekends and I didn't even know). So I take this as a sign that this is definitely over.Or you can look at the other side of the coin and realize that he meant to pick up yeah? Why would he do that? Certainly it wasn't an accident
because he thought it was anyone but me :/
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Thread Starter- ThisIsMyUsername
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Re: Unfortunately, I have given up, and this is my goodbye.
just an update.
I just got a google voice and was messing around trying to cal a friend. His name is right below hers and I accidentally called him, and was legitimately confused when he answered. i'm expecting a girls voice and it was him. I could heard the background of a bar and all. so these past few weeks he's had me thinking he's on some mission, I'm sitting waiting (figuratively) for him to get back so we can connect and set up a date, and he's actually here going out. (Also this entire time he's been free weekends and I didn't even know). So I take this as a sign that this is definitely over.Or you can look at the other side of the coin and realize that he meant to pick up yeah? Why would he do that? Certainly it wasn't an accident
because he thought it was anyone but me :/
He saw your name! He clicked "accept". It sounds like a positive to me
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