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DJ · 4/02/2017 5:12 am

Long story short, I havent been able to make up my mind whether I want my ex back or not because of the way he treated me. I have thought a lot about it and I dont want to take all the blame of our failed relationship.
However, I do need an apology to get some closure since he just ghosted me 4 months ago and has no contact with me and I dont wanna be the one to text him first. I tried to forgive him but I would like to hear from him that he made mistakes too. Please tell me how do I use PW to manifest this? Thanks

ThisIsActing · 4/02/2017 8:06 am

You could visualise him texting you an apology or even visualise him coming upto and saying he is sorry. Just try and feel connected with him and not get too attached to the outcome ;)

Manifestation Maven · 4/02/2017 11:28 am

Maybe have him tell you he wants to be a better person and to fix things with you. In my experience trying to instil guilt in your target can make them defensive and push them away further. Try to visualize not just an apology but him coming back as a changed person, the best version of himself.

DJ · 4/02/2017 11:34 am

ThisIsActing wrote:
You could visualise him texting you an apology or even visualise him coming upto and saying he is sorry. Just try and feel connected with him and not get too attached to the outcome ;)

Thanks! I am currently doing that..

DJ · 4/02/2017 11:48 am

Manifestation Maven wrote:
Maybe have him tell you he wants to be a better person and to fix things with you. In my experience trying to instil guilt in your target can make them defensive and push them away further. Try to visualize not just an apology but him coming back as a changed person, the best version of himself.

Wow..Really? But thats the thing, I am not sure if I want him back as I read in the Pussy Power book that if someone takes me completely for granted then why should I think about getting back with him especially since I dont feel that innocent love I had for him at the moment..Can I atleast visualize him saying sorry and being friends? I have seen people's exes apologising to them and get some closure..

DJ · 4/02/2017 11:58 am

unicornsnrainbows wrote:
Manifestation Maven wrote:
Maybe have him tell you he wants to be a better person and to fix things with you. In my experience trying to instil guilt in your target can make them defensive and push them away further. Try to visualize not just an apology but him coming back as a changed person, the best version of himself.
This seems like pretty good advice to me. I think guilt is partially the reason my ex has disappeared again. He'd rather not feel that, so for him it's easier to just pin blame on the "relationship" and stay away.

Yeah I can relate to that..but dont you think it's unfair on their part but when it comes to women, we are so quick to reflect on whats wrong on our part? Just wondering..

Piper · 4/02/2017 2:02 pm

I've learned that wanting or expecting an apology is a more ego-driven desire - it gives us the feeling that we were right and don't have to take any responsibility for anything in the situation. It's passed off as closure, but really it's like winning for some. I've learned this the hard way and have changed my beliefs accordingly. Instead of wanting an apology, maybe it's best to just forgive yourself and him and move on if you don't want him back, imho.

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DJ · 4/02/2017 2:14 pm

Piper wrote:
I've learned that wanting or expecting an apology is a more ego-driven desire - it gives us the feeling that we were right and don't have to take any responsibility for anything in the situation. It's passed off as closure, but really it's like winning for some. I've learned this the hard way and have changed my beliefs accordingly. Instead of wanting an apology, maybe it's best to just forgive yourself and him and move on if you don't want him back, imho.

Maybe but I do admit that both of us were wrong in some way and I believe that deserving an apology is based on finally getting some peace and self respect & not ego..especially since the other person just leaves you without any explanation..it really messes the other person up

mrstkg · 4/02/2017 2:54 pm

I manifested one with my ex. I posted about the whole thing. I just visualized him being regretful and apologizing. I also said "you'll regret it" openly to him, years ago. I got the apology recently after the visualizing.

DJ wrote:
Long story short, I havent been able to make up my mind whether I want my ex back or not because of the way he treated me. I have thought a lot about it and I dont want to take all the blame of our failed relationship.
However, I do need an apology to get some closure since he just ghosted me 4 months ago and has no contact with me and I dont wanna be the one to text him first. I tried to forgive him but I would like to hear from him that he made mistakes too. Please tell me how do I use PW to manifest this? Thanks

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Piper · 4/02/2017 3:00 pm

DJ wrote:
Piper wrote:
I've learned that wanting or expecting an apology is a more ego-driven desire - it gives us the feeling that we were right and don't have to take any responsibility for anything in the situation. It's passed off as closure, but really it's like winning for some. I've learned this the hard way and have changed my beliefs accordingly. Instead of wanting an apology, maybe it's best to just forgive yourself and him and move on if you don't want him back, imho.
Maybe but I do admit that both of us were wrong in some way and I believe that deserving an apology is based on finally getting some peace and self respect & not ego..especially since the other person just leaves you without any explanation..it really messes the other person up

I get it - someone I cared deeply for did the same thing to me and although I took responsibility for whatever roll I played in the situation, it was not enough for me at that time. It drove my bananas because I felt like I deserved an apology. But, I didn't. That person was in no way responsible for appeasing MY ego and apologizing to me. I made the effort and forgave them (took a while) and also myself for my part of the situation. I let go of it and felt so much lighter afterwards and haven't looked back since, and it's helped me be a better person.

Of course, you are free to handle the situation as you see fit, but I hate to see people waste precious time wanting an apology from a person they don't want a future relationship/friendship with. Life is too short.

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