If it means anything to you, I did Lanies techniques on the guys I was trying to attract back earlier last year and in March he got married. I didnt focus on her at all and tried not to think about his marriage. I began wishing them well and said oh well and did the techniques every now and again and in August I got a message from some guy saying my guy wanted me to call him. I told the guy he knew my number and could call me and he did. Through the days he told me he missed me and wanted to see me and as time went on he began telling me his marriage wasnt working out. We are friends now and he has told me he moved out of the home he shared with her.

Dont focus on the current girl. Focus on your love for him. Believe me it works.

Don't look at the outside. I guess to that's why we're not supposed to allow friends who don't know what we're focusing on to influence us. You know things can look one way on the outside but be going in a totally different direction. The story Alikhy just shared is an awesome example. Another example of this would be my old guy that I tested on. From the outside you'd think he and the girl he's with are in madly in love...but when he called me (before I pw and after) that isn't the case by far. Unless telling another woman how much you miss her, how sorry you are and when you think about marriage you think of her (me) is being in love.lol

But your post just inspired me to stop even checking my REAL POI's fb. And just keep going when the feeling is there, and keep working on me in the process. So thanks you too Alikhy.

Last edited by mrstkg (5/13/2017 7:19 am)

My original POI, I didn't realise it at the time, I knew that he got a girlfriend (that was between times of doing PW and BWD on him, I also took a year off anyone!  Well, I found out when things heated up between us in March that he actually got married back then, but it didn't work out!  So, I guess what I'm trying to say is, it doesn't necessarily mean that's it.  ;-) 

Another thing...I believe the reason my POI suddenly disappeared (then reappeared after some weeks) has to do with his ex. I kinda figured it all out later. I pieced it together by looking at both their social medias. Right when he and I started talking (before pw) his page popped up, I viewed it and there were old pics of her (so I viewed her page of course)...lol...I'm assuming since his page popped up mine did on his side as well...cause very shortly after he deleted her pics. Then once I started PW I noticed her moods on her page. Put it this way...in my favor. (u know how us women tell all our biz passive aggressively on social media lol). One reason I don't care is because I'm tired of watching some other woman bring her energy into my situation. Done with that. I win this time. Im (we) bringing in my energy. Past times I'd just say "have him then". this time, different.
I go back and forth emotionally though like most of us. Not looking anymore or even talking to friends about him(though I've only been reinforced to keep going, personally) is probably the best option.

Last edited by mrstkg (5/13/2017 1:26 pm)

mrstkg wrote:

"When things heated up" what do you mean? Did he get married "on" you? Then you found out later?

Tess wrote:

My original POI, I didn't realise it at the time, I knew that he got a girlfriend (that was between times of doing PW and BWD on him, I also took a year off anyone!  Well, I found out when things heated up between us in March that he actually got married back then, but it didn't work out!  So, I guess what I'm trying to say is, it doesn't necessarily mean that's it.  ;-) 

No no no!

They got married when we were not even in touch, except for me sending one email when they were just boyfriend and girlfriend.  We were not in touch, he ended up marrying her, they got divorced, he and I saw each other on a dating app and he told me how they'd broken up.  Later on, he admitted that he'd actually gotten married to her, it hadn't worked out, it was a mistake and he's single again.