Lanie Stevens wrote:

Mikaela wrote:

Thank you so much Hellokitty and Lanie!
Actually, the various posts that you have wrote Lanie about how you can't let a man have his cake and eat it too are what gave me the strenght to make this decision. You're abosutely right, I just realised he's been going back and forth for the past month. And trying to talk him out of it doesn't work, I've had enough!
If I really mean that much to him as he claims, he will come back to me once he realises I'm really moving on without him. He said he thinks about me moving on all the time but still that doesn't move him (of course how could he think I'm moving on when I let him know I miss him too everytime I get a text from him to see where he stands, so stupid of me ).  I think he needs a wake up call. 

I didn't know the technique connected us to them all day everyday! That's actually so important because then they can feel our daily vibe! Thank you Lanie you gave me hope I'm staying strong and not giving up on the technique, but moving on and healing a bit too.

Many times men will throw out a crumb to test the waters and see if you're still anxiously waiting. Just don't be so quick to be "all in". I remember my fiancé telling me, because I played it pretty cool, that he would dial my number and then put the phone in his pocket as if he had accidentally called me. Of course it was when he was out having fun at a club or with a group of people. He wanted to see my reaction.

 Make him desire you like he did in the beginning.   Men love to prove they are good enough to win your affection and love  And yes, you are connected to them in a special way so your thoughts affect them and theirs may affect you. :-)

Thank you so much for your insight Lanie! Gosh I wish I had known that sooner. I feel I would already have him back by now if I had just acted cold everytime he throw a crumb at me or everytime he flipped when he thaught I had someone else. I was afraid to let him know I was talking to other guys but I should have done just that! But I didn't have enough self confidence... Lesson learned, I will just continue to burn him up with PW as he has already confessed he thinks about me all the time. I feel like if he meant it then it's a matter of time before I crack him for good. Definitely going to get my dignity back for the first time in my life LOL. I really feel empowered by all of this, even is he doesn't come back I've made the right decision.

By the way Lanie you mentioned you and your fiancé were apart for one year. I don't know if you've already answered this question, but how did you deal with all the hurt and inevitable negative thoughts like him being with someone else possibly? Sometimes I think about how I would have never put him through so much and I get angry. Then I remember he is "me pushed out" and I feel able to forgive..