I just wanted to post because there seems to be a lot of angst going on with many people who are not able to let go yet.They are feeling obsessed with the situation and their POI. I understand this VERY well. I lost my relationship in Feb of '16; and found Lanie's books in May '16. I practiced the techniques for MONTHS.I did see some result; but in my case, I was dealing with an abusive narcissist and I was very much in a trauma bond. I managed to manifest him calling me more, and he stopped being so angry at me over text messages. He's now progressed to calling me and complimenting me on things he said he never appreciated about me before; and also now ends our calls the way we used to when we were together. He has said he will always love me. Now that I have some distance; it's best we aren't together right now because he has some issues that I don't  know can be addressed from my end -but that's a whole other LOA discussion.I know that if I do enough changing of belief on * my* end; I might be able to manifest a better version of him, but I'm not sure I want to yet, and that's a whole other 'project'; if you know what I mean. I'm enjoying getting to know myself again right now, I'll decide if I want to tackle that later. He's a trainwreck right now, anyway...lol. Also, he's 5 states away.

About April or May of this year; a good guy friend and I started getting closer. So I started using PW and BWD on him, and things got really intense on the psychic level...I could *feel* him getting really interested in me, and he was over here at my house ALL the time. He finally made a move. I had to stop him before it got past kissing because he had said earlier that if we slept together it would ruin the friendship; and when he kissed me he was very drunk, lol. I wanted him to make the decision to kiss me when he was in his right mind. This caused a bit of awkwardness - as you can imagine - but he is still coming by at least twice a week and our friendship remains steady and intact. I don't mind taking it slow with this guy, he's kinda skittish as it is and I'm very patient.

ANYway, my point with both of these stories is that I just *naturally* found myself, after months of obsession over my ex; being able to let the feeling of *having* to do something to get him back, go. I didn't have to FORCE myself to do so. I think this is a natural result of having practiced not only the PW and BWD meditations; but the CC one and concentrating on self-love and self-care. My ability to emotionally release the strong feelings of need and want just evolved organically out of the constant practice and attention to my well-being and what I deserved. I have to say that support from this community and my strong community of friends helped immensely also. I have completely immersed myself in the Abraham teachings - I subscribe to several YouTube channels that put up new clips from their workshops *every day*, and I listen to them in the mornings while I am getting ready for work or whatever else I have to do. I try to listen at night before bed too. I also subscribe to a couple podcasts about Abraham and LOA, and I use Lanie's EFT and Faster EFT when I feel especially upset or sad. OH! And Agnes Virelli (Sp?). LOVE her. 

So as much as all the advice to 'let it go' and 'concentrate on yourself and self-love' and 'stop paying attention to them and what they are doing' is ABSOLUTELY correct; I want to say ALSO: GO EASY ON YOURSELF. PLEASE do not beat up on yourself if you have tried and tried; and you just CAN'T let it go. You WILL. I have faith you will, and you need to also, but beating up on yourself for not being able to isn't going to help either, and it isn't self-love. Just do your best to turn your attention gently; softly; to something else. Don't internal talk like" Dammit, I'm thinking of them again! I need to stop! It's not helping! Why can't I let go??" Just *notice* that you are; then just look at something else. Literally LOOK if you have to- out a window, at a pet; at the tv; whatever you can. Then find something else. Then something else. Appreciate a friend, call them. Small steps lead to big steps. Keep doing what meditations you are drawn to; but definitely do the CC one as often as you feel a need. I do it whenever I find myself getting upset about what *either* of my POIs are doing. For those of you wondering if it means they will never come back; don't worry...they do. 

And the simplest and most important thing you can do: Breathe. I'm serious. Slow, deep breaths cure a multitude of ills and are more effective at balancing your emotions than you realize. It's hard to accept that such a simple thing can be so effective, but it does work.

We are all hard enough on ourselves. I don't want any of us to be hard on other people here who are struggling. You'll get there when you get there. And you WILL get there.Trust yourself.I am at peace now with whatever happens, and I have faith that the Universe has my best interests in mind. But whenever I feel it's appropriate to give either of my POIs a little kick; I use Lanie's methods.