I thought this was a place to feel safe and ask questions. I have had a very long history with this man. I was asking for clarification bc of all the different ‘advice’that is out there. There is no need to be curt. I was just asking for some help. I would love to calm down....I’m trying to and thanks to Lanie and her meditations it is slowly working. Thank you for the reminder tho.

blocking someone simply because you havent spoken in 4 days is crazy...i suggest you read lanie's book about breakup to makeup and not acting crazy like that. there is no need to cause issues between you two all because you havent spoken in a few days..people get busy and need to live their own lives

FitnessMomVA wrote:

There are a TON of questions I want to ask, my story to share. but I want to collect my thoughts before I start writing about any of that. Needless to say,the ex and I broke up...again. I have been reading a lot, trying to mend my heart. for some reason this last break up took an awful toll on my heart, my energy and ME!!
​But then I found Lanie and her AMAZING techniques. My questions: I have had no contact for the past 4 days. when I say NC, I have not begged pleaded, texted emailed NOTHING. I accidentally sent an emoji NYE...purely innocent. he responded the next day with the same (kisses) and then nothing. I responded with a smile and left it. I have heard about blocking your ex on social media which helps with the recovery part. Any thoughts on this? I start to get very bad anxiety when I press the block  button.
​I love this man. he and i are destined to be together. he just has to get his head out of his ass before it is too late..lol

It's hard to know what to do in the beginning of a breakup and staying calm is difficult.  Trust me, even though I have used the technique for YEARS, and know without a doubt that it works, I still occasionally have anxiety.  I would not overreact by blocking him.  I believe it's best to act as if you don't even realize it's been 4 days, 24 minutes and 7 seconds .  

No contact just means that you are not the first to initiate the contact (unless you were the cause of the breakup).  When he contacts you then you should respond.  Not in a cold manner or a "where have you been" manner but in a lighthearted and sweet manner.  When you act opposite of what he considers "normal" for you then it will pique his interest.  He will wonder why you aren't going crazy that he isn't contacting you.  

Hope this helps!  xoxoxoxoxo