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Re: Quit trying to fix the reflection and fix YOU instead
Cotton wrote:
Hi sweethearts
I have been receiving a lot of private messages regarding the subject of attracting ex back. And while im not annoyed at all by them i cannot respond due to 2 reasons
1. i just don't have the time to respond to each and every individual separately
2. i will just be repeating myself over and over again
I understand how frustrating it can be to look at all the success stories and wonder why the fuck cant i get it? I want this just as bad she she probably wanted it. I remember being in this position and wanting to ask the successful ones how they did it? what is the missing piece to the puzzle? where is the golden key? whats the magic word?
The answer to all that is your magic wand, word, key, missing piece to the puzzle is to just KNOW.
All these processes are just there to help you align. There is no power in and of itself. They are different approaches to make you release resistance, destroy your doubts, make your subconcious believe in your desired reality and eventually get to a point where you just know.
It doesn't matter what your story is. You are the only cause. His behaviour is a reflection of the beliefs you hold inside. So if he isn't the cause, and by extension his girl friend isnt the cause, his stubbornness isn't the cause, his ego isn't the cause, his mom and friends aren't the cause, his busy schedule isn't the cause, his self discipline isn't the cause, his being a "man of few words" isn't the cause, then WHY should we even bother with them in the first place? Why keep repeating the story over and over again as if it is the outside reflection that you must rearrange and fix? Does it not make sense then to only bother WITH the CAUSE - which is?.....YOU
So if you really want to change, then first things first we must stop telling the old story! we do not care how he has been and is being. He couldn't be any other way. His behaviour is in OUR control and so is everybody else's when they interact with you. So lets just let everyone off the hook and start holding ourselves responsible. Doesn't mean we are to blame ourselves. Just start taking responsibility.
IF everyone is on board with me upto this point then we can move forward and i can share a couple more things for us to work on. It does produce results because it is LAW. My life and story is proof of that.
Also, as a p.s lol i feel like i always have to ask for an apology just incase this offends anyone but that's my way of dealing with this shit - that's the way i had to speak to myself to get myself to wake up and start getting results. And it is all out of love!
Thank you for this, Cotton! It's truly superb advice! Priceless. Also, congratulations on your successful and inspiring outcome! xxxxxxx
'Truth depends upon the intensity of imagination, not upon facts.'
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- Nirvana3
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Hey Cotton and all ladies,
I am onboard for this.
I am back from a 2 week solo trip which has helped me spend a lot of time with myself. I did have moments where I pondered about the present and me missing him badly almost feeling lost on a solo trip and times where I wish he was with me at the trip.
I promised myself that this trip would be life changing and didn't define what life changing would be but now that I am back home, I do realize the changes in me. I am more calm and more brain shut to all shit around me ;almost deaf to it!! I do not know how long I can sustain being this badass but I guess it should be enough to help me reach my goal of having him in my life.
So I suggest maybe all of you ladies start with a short trip all by yourself to help you get yourself back!!
Regards,
Nirvana
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Awesome! I am excited for all of you and for my own journey ahead aswel
Im sorry i am unable to write a detailed post right now (perhaps later tonight) as i am busy but i want to leave you all with a quote from Neville (my main source of inspiration) to simmer in your heart and minds. Please meditate on this....sit down and think and reflect on this quote and let the feeling permeate your soul.
"Your beliefs, your fixed attitudes of mind, constantly modify consciousness as it is reflected on the mirror of your mind. Your consciousness, modified by your beliefs, objectifies itself in the conditions of your world. To change the world, you must first change your conception of it. To change a man, you must change your conception of him. You must believe him to be the man you want him to be and mentally talk to him as though he were. All men are sufficiently sensitive tive to reproduce your beliefs of them. Therefore, if your word is not reproduced visibly in him toward whom it is sent, the cause is to be found in you, not in the subject. As soon as you believe in the truth of the state affirmed, results follow. Everyone can be transformed; every thought can he transmitted; ted; every thought can be visibly embodied."
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Thread Starter- isabellemarienoelle
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Re: Quit trying to fix the reflection and fix YOU instead
Hi Cotton,
Just wanted to say that I've been following both of your threads and have found them very inspiring.
I have been really up and down about this whole attracting your ex/attracting a specific person thing.
Sometimes I feel totally empowered, and other times I feel it's toxic to cling to this kind of hope. BUT - for a long time, until this past October, I had very split energy on this subject. Not only were my own desires going back and forth, but I have come across so many spiritual teachers that have flat out said you can't attract a specific person, it's against their free will, or...even if you do and you can, it won't really be what you want. In other words, the saying that is beaten into almost every person on this earth's brains - be careful what you wish for.
Needless to say, it's stirred a lot of doubt. Even though I believe that you can attract someone, even in the LOA community, we've been told so, so much that you can't.
But with posts like yours, and Lanie sharing her awesome story about manifesting her ex back (which I barely read the other day - I had been trying to avoid that section), it is so helpful and so inspiring...and more importantly, it's comforting and gives people hope.
I ave been doing that a lot too & he is engaged to someone else.
Now, I am going to focus on me & figure out what I really want. I am completely healed from my fall & ready to start my marathon training so that will put me in a good frame of mind.
Thank you Cotton for the wise words.
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Thank you Cotton
Your posts are so encouraging
I agree that others stories are comforting and give hope. We are sisters from different corners of the globe and life and yet we can manifest so much good for our lives
The hope I feel is seeing how different every story is. Stop telling the old story!
Blessings and love to you and all the sisters reading this thread
xoxoxo
**In pu$$y control and lovin' it! Feeling blessed **
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Thanks Cotton! Count me on board too
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There are two truths I've learnt in life and that's where you are currently standing is because
(1) you need to be there or (2) you want to be there (consciously or subconsciously).
The key to easy flow is to work out which it is and move your vibration to keep life flowing onto what you want.
For me personally it was that i wanted to be there. I wanted to pity myself because thats who i was poor little meee nobody loves meee life isnt fair to me its HIS fault etc.
And it was a brutal process for me to accept that and then change it. But its amazing now 😍
Going out for a walk now will post back later! Who is on board???????? Lets do this!!!
Words!!! Love it Cotton, thanks for sharing with all of us. Yes, we need to move forward and can't wait to read more of your stories
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