Lanie Stevens "Empowering Women" - http://laniestevens.com / Goodbye everyone

**Posted by Issykitten** 5/09/2017 7:53 pm

I give up. Its been months and he STILL doesn't want me after everything I've done . I'm leaving the form and will not be using loa to get him back any longer as It doesn't work for me or what seems like most people. Thank you for everyone's help and I hope you all get your poi back or manifest whatever it is you want.

**Posted by Piper** 5/09/2017 8:09 pm

Issykitten wrote:
I give up. Its been months and he STILL doesn't want me after everything I've done . I'm leaving the form and will not be using loa to get him back any longer as It doesn't work for me or what seems like most people. Thank you for everyone's help and I hope you all get your poi back or manifest whatever it is you want.

I'm sorry you've decided to leave. We ALWAYS attract what we fully believe, and if we have doubts and are impatient, it pushes our desires back. Good luck .

**Posted by hellokitty** 5/09/2017 9:14 pm

I've been working on a guy since June and if he wanted me, he for sure would've let me know.I got tired of waiting for over 1/2 a year.

I had to seek him out and catch his attention by messaging him, otherwise he would not have contacted me. We met once and he disappeared. I think most guys have lots of options and feel it's senseless to reach out to someone from their past when there are many options in front of them .

I've also noticed many women say their ex came back, but they were indeed the first one to reach out to them, I doubt that's how this is supposed to work; however, I will remain hopeful.

Make sure you update this post when he return

best of luck to you

**Posted by Lj** 5/10/2017 5:31 am

http://www.mustsparkjoy.com/30-MIRE/

Read this (it's quite long). And if you still want to quit, then quit.
Best of luck.

**Posted by mrstkg** 5/10/2017 1:05 pm

You know what, I've also noticed a lot of people reach out first. I've wondered about that. They (Poi) should be the ones so overwhelmed emotionally they HAVE to reach out.Thats one area that I won't bend on though.

hellokitty wrote:
I've been working on a guy since June and if he wanted me, he for sure would've let me know.I got tired of waiting for over 1/2 a year.

I had to seek him out and catch his attention by messaging him, otherwise he would not have contacted me. We met once and he disappeared. I think most guys have lots of options and feel it's senseless to reach out to someone from their past when there are many options in front of them .

I've also noticed many women say their ex came back, but they were indeed the first one to reach out to them, I doubt that's how this is supposed to work; however, I will remain hopeful.

Make sure you update this post when he return

best of luck to you

**Posted by Glovergirl** 5/10/2017 3:21 pm

Issykitten. I betcha he will show up soon. The magic happens in the letting go. ❤

**Posted by hellokitty** 5/10/2017 9:06 pm

"mrstkg, You know what, I've also noticed a lot of people reach out first. I've wondered about that. They (Poi) should be the ones so overwhelmed emotionally they HAVE to reach out.Thats one area that I won't bend on though."

Exactly, a lot of success stories, including mine involved the manifestor reaching out first, and in my opinion, that's not a success story. That's a woman chasing after a man, and if a man wants sex or to use the woman to his advantage he will respond to her chasing positively. After all if a man wants anything to do with a woman he will let her know. There's no such thing as a shy man.
I will never reach out first again.

**Posted by mrstkg** 5/10/2017 9:52 pm

I 100% agree. Plus I think reaching out first breaks the tension and now he has the upper hand (again) whatever he was feeling might cool a little. Whereas if he calls he's on pins and needles, trying to figure out what to do or say. Just my thoughts.

hellokitty wrote:
"mrstkg, You know what, I've also noticed a lot of people reach out first. I've wondered about that. They (Poi) should be the ones so overwhelmed emotionally they HAVE to reach out.Thats one area that I won't bend on though."

Exactly, a lot of success stories, including mine involved the manifestor reaching out first, and in my opinion, that's not a success story. That's a woman chasing after a man, and if a man wants sex or to use the woman to his advantage he will respond to her chasing positively. After all if a man wants anything to do with a woman he will let her know. There's no such thing as a shy man.
I will never reach out first again.

**Posted by AnnanWater** 5/11/2017 6:59 am

hellokitty wrote:
"mrstkg, You know what, I've also noticed a lot of people reach out first. I've wondered about that. They (Poi) should be the ones so overwhelmed emotionally they HAVE to reach out.Thats one area that I won't bend on though."

Exactly, a lot of success stories, including mine involved the manifestor reaching out first, and in my opinion, that's not a success story. That's a woman chasing after a man, and if a man wants sex or to use the woman to his advantage he will respond to her chasing positively. After all if a man wants anything to do with a woman he will let her know. There's no such thing as a shy man.
I will never reach out first again.

Nope me neither. If he wants me he nows how to reach me.

**Posted by Claire_Bear** 5/11/2017 5:02 pm

Sometimes you have to contact them first, but possibly that is in a situation where they are not an ex who has dumped you. I know I have had to make the first move in my situation, because I was the one with the contact details. (Mine is not an ex-back or emotional scenario so I can't liken my story to yours) - I would say that IS a success story. Also I was the one to make the first contact with my university boyfriend after many years and we're now very good friends. He was delighted I did. I see that as a success and not me as a failure because he didn't contact me first. We are adults and equals.

I can see that if someone has been hurt and rejected, or cheated on, it is quite a different tale, though.