Posted by LetItBe  1/04/2018 6:28 pm | #1 |
I also posted this on another forum, so my apologies if this is a repeat for anyone.
First, a little background (I'll try to be brief, so I don't bore you!) I am married, but I have not been happy for a number of years, and I stay mostly out of sympathy. My husband has a lot of mental issues, and I know my leaving will not help those, but I also know I can't sacrifice my happiness forever. I have a male friend, quite a bit older (I'm 38 and he's 61) that I have very strong feelings for, and I do want to be with him. I've tried visualizing myself and him together, happy, while my husband is out of the picture and content elsewhere (presumably divorced from me, and in a new, loving relationship.)
So my first question is, do I need to be visualizing the ultimate end result or should I be trying to manifest smaller pieces of this puzzle, like my divorce, or my friend revealing that he feels the same as me, etc. Or is that putting too much focus on the "how it will happen?" My second question is, how much of this do I need to be handling in my current life? For example, do I initiate the divorce or try to manifest it coming from my husband? Or, do I reveal my feelings for my friend (who I doubt has any idea that I'm feeling as I do for him), or try to manifest him coming to me? I don't want to pick the fruit before it's ripe! I also find it hard to live in the end with so many steps needed to make this end result happen, which is why I was wondering if I needed to focus on the steps in between more.
Any guidance you could give me would be greatly appreciated!
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Posted by Lanie Stevens 1/04/2018 9:57 pm | #2 |
You don't need to focus on the steps. In fact, that will hinder your progress in manifesting. Why? Because that's logical thinking and YOU trying to solve the problem and not living in the end result.
Before making major changes in your life it may be a good idea to see how your male friend feels about you and your relationship. When you are in a loveless relationship it's easy to become very emotionally involved when you're shown love, kindness and passion. And that's understandable. Many people would say just visualize that your friend will fall for you and there will be a happily ever after. But I believe it's best to be on the same page, especially when you have so much to lose.
You're right, you can't sacrifice your happiness forever and I hope you don't. If you are not happy your husband may not be happy, either. I would visualize him finding peace and happiness because it will make it so much easier for all involved. xoxoxoxoxo
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Posted by LetItBe 1/05/2018 6:05 pm | #3 |
Thank you getting back with me, Lanie! I appreciate your help, and I love your books!
I've decided, when the time is right, to separate from my husband, regardless of what happens with my friend. I figure if it's not supposed to be my friend, the universe will provide someone better (though I really want it to be him -- he's a wonderful person and I just adore him!)
So I guess my follow-up question is, can I manifest a divorce? I'm a very non-confrontational personal, and I would prefer not to be the one to "pull the trigger." I know my husband is unhappy -- he recently told me, it seems like he loves me more than I love him 
He's not wrong.
I'm not sure if I'm brave enough to tell my friend how I feel. It's the old "don't want to ruin the friendship" scenario. Should I just continue to visualize a happy ending with him and try to live as if I have him? Thanks again!
