Hi sweetie, in the first place i dont think he is genuine with you. So you shouldnt feel bad, he needs to know where you stand and what you wont tolerate. Id suggest keep up the PW  but let him come to you, dont force an encounter and try to apologize first. Thats his responsibility.

sarahjayne wrote:

Thank you so much. I just feel bad because I left him to do the trip on his own and he is alone for Christmas. 

Maybe I over reacted, but despite him saying he loves me and wants to be with me, I just don't think he is ready for commitment. 

I told him Im ready to share my life with a man now and not have another guy friend ,,, 

anyway he is only in Europe for next 2 weeks so I hope he reaches out and we manage to see each other at least while he is here. will continue with PW for now and try to move on

Whilst you are concerning yourself with his feelings and trying to show him love, who is filling you with love.

Stop focusing on him. If he isn't ready he isn't ready.

Focus on yourself. Focus on filling yourself with love and confidence.

Have you seen the scene in Best Friends Wedding, where she is chasing him,chasing his bride. And her friend says to her "he is chasing her you are chasing him who is chasing you?"

I always remember that scene and use it every so often to remind myself that I don't need to chase anyone. When you are ready to be chased you will be chased. It's that simple.