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9/21/2016 6:46 am  #21


Re: Woke up, need help

With your wanting you just create more wanting.. 

9/21/2016 7:13 am  #22


Re: Woke up, need help

We are all here for you and we have given you the best possible advice both from a LOA and general relationship advice perspective. I know it might not seem it sometimes because a lot of the time it's not what you want to hear, but believe us, it is what you NEED to hear.

You haven't really been obedient in the past, I can't recall you being out of touch for longer than a couple of weeks or so. You really need to get help with moving on from her (for now). It doesn't matter if she starts seeing someone else. Even then it's not the be all and end all. Nothing is ever set in stone. Yes, it's painful to deal with but you need to stop living in this fear. Her speaking to someone else could even make her see that these other people don't compare to you. You need to give it time, and accept that there is no way in hell you are going to get her back RIGHT NOW with the way things are with YOURSELF. Take her off that pedestal and put you on it instead. Hell, see yourself as being TOO GOOD for her. That helps me a LOT when I miss my ex (who I don't actually want back anyway anymore.)

Last edited by Em (9/21/2016 7:29 am)

9/21/2016 7:15 am  #23


Re: Woke up, need help

ThisIsMyUsername, how old are you?

Perhaps, you should take a break from all this.
Your no contact is fresh, so it will take some time for you to get that initial grip on your emotions.
Go out and make some friends.
Do you have neighbours? If yes, then befriend them.
Do you go to office, school, college? Befriend people from there and tell them. Because no contact is toughest when it fresh and you will want to talk about her all the time. So find some friends and talk about her. Gradually your desire to constantly worry and talk about her will reduce.
I don't eat my friend's head anymore by talking constantly about my ex. I did that during the initial weeks.
And then we decided to avoid bringing my ex up during our conversations.
Now, I directly talk to my ex in my mind using the technique. 


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9/21/2016 7:20 am  #24


Re: Woke up, need help

Em is right. Take her off of the pedestal. Never put anyone on pedestal. 
You should be the only person on your pedestal.
I am not asking you to be selfish.
But make yourself a priority.

A friend of mine said to me the other day "Have passion in life. But never make another human being the passion of your life"


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9/21/2016 7:22 am  #25


Re: Woke up, need help

We all have been through pain, suffering and sorrow. Some of the ladies here had marriages that fell apart, have children, and we all survived.
You know my story. My situation wasn't easy and you know that but I realized during the first stages that my thoughts created the breakup. And if I created that mess, I can create a positive outcome. How? By thinking differently. I've been told that my man wanted to date this girl. That wasn't true and everytime that thought crossed through my mind, I focused on my end result.
I meditated for hours, read everything about the LOA and the power of your subconscious mind, I listened to audios. I focused on me! I began to love myself again, I sent love to me! And after a few days feeling better and at ease by myself, he came back! He saw a different person last Sunday, he saw the person he fell in love with in the beginning. The old me, the insecure one, is no longer here and he can sense it.
We've been talking all day, everyday, we are making plans, and we are going to get back together in a matter of days. I know it. Actually I feel like we are in a relationship NOW.
It's the truth: you have to love yourself first to attract others. And nobody can do that job for you except YOU.
Forget about LOA, forget about her. Focus on you.
A breakup is not the end of the world, a breakup is not cancer, and even cancer could be reversed using the power of your thoughts.


He is on his way. It is inevitable. 

9/21/2016 7:38 am  #26


Re: Woke up, need help

Jim Chien Beige is right. Love yourself.
Meditation will help you a lot.
Stop listening to sad songs and stop watching those stupid romantic sad movies. Those movies are unrealistic anyways.
Don't stay at home the whole time and definitely not in bed the whole day. Force yourself to go out. It's not easy to force yourself to do things during such a time but you have to.
Ask someone to grab you and take you outside if needed.

Last edited by Aphrodite11 (9/21/2016 7:42 am)


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9/21/2016 7:41 am  #27


Re: Woke up, need help

You know, id love to get out of the house. It's so depressing here. But I don't have a car and my house is away from evetything.

Also there's a difference between a breakup and the girl you love telling you that there's absolutely, ABSOLUTELY no romantic feelings thete, no attraction, physical nor emotional. And that we'll NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER be in a relationship, EVER.

How am I supposed to look to faith when everything screams, "hopeless."?!

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9/21/2016 7:47 am  #28


Re: Woke up, need help

I don't think you want to hear this right now but I will still say it.

TRY AND BRING YOUR FOCUS BACK TO YOURSELF.

You have to do that.
You really need a grip on yourself.
I understand you are sad but you have to do this.
Once you get that grip, you won't feel that sad and you will feel better.


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9/21/2016 7:49 am  #29


Re: Woke up, need help

How old are you by the way?
mid twenties?


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9/21/2016 7:50 am  #30


Re: Woke up, need help

With LOA, there is no such thing as hopeless situation.
But right now I think you should stop that on her and use it on yourself

Last edited by Aphrodite11 (9/21/2016 7:55 am)


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