Sweetheart, if being in contact with him affects your personal growth and progress negatively then NC is needed.
NC is needed for YOUR WELL BEING.
Make yourself a priority, make your well being a priority. Love yourself.
I understand why Veronica says you should respond to them. But sometimes avoiding communication is needed for your own sake. If your situation is like that then stop all communications. Be polite and just tell him that you need to focus on yourself now and hence you need  two to three month.
if your situation does not demand it then you can talk to him.

If you want to answer him, then do not answer right away because you should now be busy improving yourself and your life. When you do reply (which will be only when you get a little free time once in two to three days) do not respond in an excited manner. Keep it polite but short and keep it in a manner as if you are talking to an acquaintance. Don't feel bad while doing all this. You might think it is rude, etc but it's not. And didn't he break your heart by breaking up with you? That is worse than being rude. By breaking up with you he showed you that he doesn't want you anymore.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with barely replying to someone who told you and showed you that he doesn't want you anymore.

'i thought at least a friendship would be important for you - whatever take care '
No more of this talk. No more talking to him this manner. This reeks of desperation. It looks pathetic.
If you cannot mask these type of feeling while talking to him, then it's better you don't talk to him.
You do not want him to see you like this. It goes against you.

Please do not focus on any girl he spends time with. You seem to have an unreasonable and unjustified anger towards her. She has done absolutely nothing to you.
My ex is engaged to someone else. I barely think about her. And yet I have no anger towards her. I feel nothing for her. Whatever I feel I feel towards my ex. The only thing I feel for her is sorry.
The fact that I feel nothing for her was automatic. But you can get to that point if you try.

Do the PW/BWD. No matter how proud he is, you can visualize his pride going away. (Pride goes before fall).
No matter who he spends time with he will think only of you. Visualize everything in your favour.
Love yourself dear.
 

Last edited by Aphrodite11 (9/29/2016 3:35 am)

I was editing my reply above and you replied before I finished editing.

Glad to know that you are feeling better.

"But I got a question! You said I should visualize that he misses me on vacation etc but how should I do that? Usually I visualize myself being with him but how can i pretend him to miss me or be bored without me?"

This is a good question.
​The thing is even I want to know how to visualize such specific things.
I understand certain things only when I am explained in extreme detail with examples.
I though you might know and hence I said that. 
I will see what i can find about that and then I will let you know.
If you find out how to do that then let me know, it will help me as well.

Last edited by Aphrodite11 (9/29/2016 3:43 am)

Of course we can ask 
But you do it because I find it difficult to explain things sometimes (many times actually) and difficult to explain what I want.
In this case someone will have to explain this by giving a scenario and explaining it with extreme details. Only then will I understand.
And yet end up having ten thousand different questions.

Last edited by Aphrodite11 (9/29/2016 4:21 am)

MadMoiselle87 wrote:

Aphrodite11 wrote:

I was editing my reply above and you replied before I finished editing.

Glad to know that you are feeling better.

"But I got a question! You said I should visualize that he misses me on vacation etc but how should I do that? Usually I visualize myself being with him but how can i pretend him to miss me or be bored without me?"

This is a good question.
​The thing is even I want to know how to visualize such specific things.
I understand certain things only when I am explained in extreme detail with examples.
I though you might know and hence I said that. 
I will see what i can find about that and then I will let you know.
If you find out how to do that then let me know, it will help me as well.

Haha okay good to know that i'm not the only who still has to learn .

I'll try to find something about that. But I'm at work right now (German time) I'll look it up when I'm at home. Hope we will find something. Or should we ask in the forum?

 

Hi ladies, I was reading your posts and I agree with Aphrodite - you need to go NC on him and show him what he is missing. Please no passive, aggressive texts or anything, you are the queen, remember?

Also, about visualising him missing you, I am no expert but I would visualise him with you, back from his holiday and telling you how much he missed you, how much he kept thinking about you through his trip and how no other woman could even hold a candle to you.

MadMoiselle87 wrote:

emem80 wrote:

MadMoiselle87 wrote:

Haha okay good to know that i'm not the only who still has to learn .

I'll try to find something about that. But I'm at work right now (German time) I'll look it up when I'm at home. Hope we will find something. Or should we ask in the forum?

 

Hi ladies, I was reading your posts and I agree with Aphrodite - you need to go NC on him and show him what he is missing. Please no passive, aggressive texts or anything, you are the queen, remember?

Also, about visualising him missing you, I am no expert but I would visualise him with you, back from his holiday and telling you how much he missed you, how much he kept thinking about you through his trip and how no other woman could even hold a candle to you.

Yeah we aren't in contact since I don't know last Saturday. He like some stuff on my FB Page but that's it.

This sounds like a good idea! Guess I'll try that until we'll find something else. 

I love the part with the candle haha :D

Hehehe, good luck!