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So, lately my guy hasn't been very talkative. Last week our conversations were great and we even saw each other for dinner earlier in the week for the first time in a year. Not only that, but my guy and I initially met in college and the other night he sent me a photo of the classroom we both met in. He wrote "recognize this??" on the photo. About an hour after that I told him that he and I should jam sometime soon! (We both play guitar). I figured this was okay to ask since he mentioned going for dinner again and also sent me that photo... anyway he sort of didn't give me a direct answer to that question and I realized maybe it was too early to ask for us to hang out like that. A couple of days later, during the night he sent me an old video of us playing guitar together from last year. Since then, he hasn't been as talkative. I have been doing PW every day and I've really been enjoying doing it. I haven't done BWD because I wanted to focus more on the emotional connection rather than sexual. I am wondering if he is pulling away because he feels those emotions strongly and is wanting to move slower? I am really unsure. What are your thoughts?
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I didn't feel anything wrong here. He's being nice with you & reminding you about the time you spent together, so there's nothing to worry about. I guess he's busy, give him time to get back to you. I suggest not to trap in unnecessary worries. 😊😊
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Faith wrote:
I didn't feel anything wrong here. He's being nice with you & reminding you about the time you spent together, so there's nothing to worry about. I guess he's busy, give him time to get back to you. I suggest not to trap in unnecessary worries. 😊😊
Thanks for your reply Faith! I guess I just notice that he isn't as talkative and isn't being as warm with me as usual. My mind automatically thinks because he never gave me a direct answer about playing guitar together that it was too soon of me to ask. We texted last night, but it was very minimal. Nothing of substance I guess.
I will try and not trap myself in unnecessary worries. You're right. It is just overthinking I guess.
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Yes 😊. Ignore his current behaviour. Him being not very talkative may have other reasons, I can't say exactly but you can say him in PW SESSIONS for being a bit more talkative with you. I'd tried this when my V was less talkative...& he's now more talkative 😊.
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Faith wrote:
Yes 😊. Ignore his current behaviour. Him being not very talkative may have other reasons, I can't say exactly but you can say him in PW SESSIONS for being a bit more talkative with you. I'd tried this when my V was less talkative...& he's now more talkative 😊.
So, in a PW session, do I visualize myself asking him to be more talkative or do I visualize him telling me that he loves talking to me and wants to talk to me, etc?
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Faith wrote:
I just imagined him in front of me as we do in PW sessions, and I whispered in his ear to be more talkative with me, then I hear him saying that he miss me & wants to talk to me alot.😊
Thanks faith!!! 😊😊
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Faith wrote:
I just imagined him in front of me as we do in PW sessions, and I whispered in his ear to be more talkative with me, then I hear him saying that he miss me & wants to talk to me alot.😊
Thanks faith!!! 😊😊
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