Hello, I'm gonna give my advice you can take it or leave it. But lashing out and calling him probably won't solve anything, I understand you are hurt and you want him to either understand or fix this but odds are it won't work. Definitely focus on yourself and don't worry about him, I suggest writing it all out. Write a letter or an email and just let everything out, every last detail of how you feel about this whole thing. But don't send it to him.

I only suggest this so you're able to release this anger without actually causing problems.

I do feel like you should be able to communicate with him and tell him the way you were treated hurt you and that you want more respect. And I believe one day you'll be able to have that conversation, but for right now I feel you should just let it out and not give it to him.

Yes you might still be angry but it should help you a bit with anger. You shouldnt feel this way.

You will be okay, everything will be fine. You gotta stay focused on what it is that you want. If you do this, after just take a break to yourself, meditate, have a nice bath, go out drinking whatever it may be. Then focus on your end goal and what it would feel like and stick to it. None of it matters, you are in control, you just have to let yourself.

I hope this helps or someone else gives you better advice. I wish you the best!

Let it ALLL out in the letter, get all this anger out and go wild in the letter. Keep going until you can't no more. But again do not send it to him. If you feel that burning it will send it out into the universe the destroy it another way. Rip it up, shred it, which ever you feel best.

I understand you don't want revenge but you do not enjoy feeling this way. And stooping to his level and being angry and not level heading and verbally attacking him won't help, even though it might feel good in the moment.

You dont have to forgive him for what he's done but you do need to come to peace that it has happened. That he can't take it back because it already happened. So after you've let it all out you're going to have to accept that it's happened.

You want him to realize what he has done, apologize even, so after every you're going to have to focus on him apologizing to you, him realizing how badly he fucked up and hurt you, that he himself can't believe he actually did that to you. You can PW or anything else that helps you, but I highly suggest you come to peace with it first.

It's very clear you're upset, and you have every right to be, but when you focus I suggest being clear and calm about it. You definitely don't want to send the energy of him apologizing or realizing what he did you with negative or hurt energy. I would say do it from a place with love since it's the strongest thing in the Universe imo, but you might not feel that way.

But really just let it all out until you are satisfied, take a break for yourself and treat yourself, make sure you yourself are okay, then focus on him coming to his senses.

Either he'll come to you and apologize or something will happen that the Universe will bring you two together and you'll be able to convey your feelings and how you felt with out lashing out on him and he will apologize.

I'm really sorry this happened to you, I really do wish you the best and hope everything works out for you

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Last edited by Sam (12/06/2016 3:54 pm)

Hi Aphrodite11

I stumbled across this excerpt from someone replying to another person with a similar situation and I thought it could be helpful to you, it articulates the way I feel on this matter better then I could put into words. The ladies have given great advice but this is just another perspective to think upon.

You feel that he has hurt you though you haven't done anything wrong. This means that you are resting the power to hurt you in his hands. You may feel victimized and wronged But you also have to acknowledge that only you can create/attract things in your life, and it was you who attracted the negative behaviour from your guy in the past. Just acknowledge that and forgive yourself too, for attracting it in the first place. Now that you know that you are only responsible for all your experiences, you should feel powerful rather than feeling victimized. Feel powerful because since you attracted negativity in the past, you can definitely attract positivity in the present. He is not responsible for your feelings, only you are. This realization takes the power from his hands and restores it into yours. You'll realize that you no longer need to worry about the past because it was just your own creation, so you can definitely change it. With this powerful state of mind, you can find self-confidence and you'll see yourself in a much better place. Now just stop thinking that he did anything wrong to you. Instead promise yourself that you'll never again feel like a victim. Know that no one can hurt you without your consent. Feel at peace with yourself and with life. You'll detach without any effort.

I know it is hard to hear that we created this hurt and negativity towards us, how could I have asked for this!? but if it is said we create our own reality and we can manifest our desires the same has to be true about the things that happen to us that we don't want. Somewhere somehow we were a vibrational match for this behaviour and attracted it in our lives. The good news is that we are enlightened beings who have access to this information and we now can change the course of our lives to reflect the reality we DO want and the partner we DO want to have and the job we DO want to have etc.
It is a wonderful power to have control over your life and your feelings. Love yourself, take care of yourself and do whatever makes you happy and raises your vibration, never let another person take your power away.

Love and blessings to you

Hi Aphrodite11, i  can vouch for writing to get these things off your chest, it really helps. Also, if you use the PW technique on him, communicate with him via that; call him to you then let loose all the anger you are feeling.

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