bambi wrote:

I debated writing this post. I wrote then delete and then delete again.
So, I know its my nervous system. I don't want to dis-encourage anyone because the technique definitely works. It brought my Love back to me.

I have been wrecked with doubt, insecurities, and low self-esteem.
My negative thoughts have turned down and I have now blocked the man I Love because I feel hurt.

I broke things off with him a week ago because of his continuous time on a dating app. 2 days later I began missing him and called telling him how I felt because I did not initially, and explained that I felt insecure but I enjoyed what we were building and wanted to continue again. He said ok.

He was out of town but told me we would go to dinner when he got back. But the next day he called me excited telling me he was on his way to the airport to come back home. I said ok. When he landed he texted me to ask me if he could see me. I said sure. I am 1 hour and 30 minutes away from the airport. He was so excited he called me every 20 minutes to tell me which exit he had passed. He then passed my exit and seemed confused about turning around to my correct exit. Not sure why, because he had been to my exit before many times. So, he asked me to meet him one exit up from my original exit and jump in his car to go to dinner. I agreed.

We had dinner, talked and laughed. He said he was glad that I called him and wanted to keep growing our friendship. He said he was having trouble concentrating at meetings from thinking of me. We became intimate and after he asked me if he could just lay on my chest to hear my hearbeat, and did so for a while. Then he just held me for an hour before I left him.
 
Well the next day. I did not hear from him. Day 2 I did not hear from him. Day 3 nothing again. I texted him and told him it would be really nice to get a call from him. He text me back saying hello beautiful I was just thinking of you. I hope your day is going well. But he did not call. Well a few days after that nothing, but he was spending more time on the dating site. 

Well I got frustrated and insecure. And text a ton of insecure questions. He did not respond. I waited hours for him to respond nothing but he was still on the dating app. I called. He did not pick up. So, I left a message basically saying I was done. He had time to chat with women but would not even now talk to me and that I did not deserve that treatment. I told him I was deleting his number and I was moving forward with my life and I wish him happiness for his future. 

Well, the next day he text Good morning. I didnt reply. He then called 5 times and left several messages asking me to call him. I ignored him. I saw that on our usual night -Sunday he was on the dating site until 2am. I felt sad and called on Monday and asked him to call me. He didn't call or text. So, I left a few text messages telling him he is a jerk. I don't know what he wants. Why he was being distant and ignoring me now. And a few other nasty little things and just blocked him. He is now blocked.

I have a girlfriend who is telling me he is afraid. He has found himself emotionally deep and I had beefed up the technique to 2 times a day whispering and hearing him say he wants to marry me. I am wondering if that has caused him to get extremely scared. I have never seen him like this. The last night we were together, I had never seen him act that way. He hugged me so tight I could not breathe. I asked him if he was okay, and he said he just missed me. 

Yet 2 other girlfriends say forget him and don't turn back. But that is easy to say but hard to do when your heart is involved. 

So, he is blocked now. I have stopped the technique. I went out on a date yesterday with an Amazing man who wants a serious relationship and has asked for an exclusive relationship. I asked him to give me some time. But, I know that although he is amazing and has all of the qualities I want in a man, he is Not my Love.

I want to start the technique again, but I am at a lost as to where to begin. I am going to take the marriage piece out. At this point, I want to just move on with my life. We have been back and forth for a year now and either I run from him or he runs from me and this is getting OLD.  I have been blessed to have met some amazing wealthy men and there are 3 of them who want my time and attention. I am going to date for now and see where it leads to with these men. But, I want my Love to CRY for me! I want him to feel and think of me throughout his day that it makes him sick! I know that is bad to say but I really want him to FEEL that he lost a good thing!

Any tips? Or should I just stay clear of the technique and work on my insecurity of feeling like not being good enough?

I am sorry this is happening, you have been doing so well.
I absolutely love your success. I know it's hard but why give up now. Date others is a good thing.

You have the right to wanting to be exclusive but unfortunately we as a woman need to be composed.
You made the mistake to chase him this way.
I understand as I did this too but yoy cannot give up now, your success it's prove that this stuff works you want to carry on doing the thecnique so it became  permanent.

I thinking ask for exclusivity will be good thing.
Nothing you can do now but care on with your technique anf sit back in control again.

Last edited by Linda (11/01/2016 4:51 pm)

Thank you for the Hugs.
I had some Calm tea and was able to relax and just meditate quietly.
I have decided to just walk away and not do any more techniques on him. I will date the other guys and enjoy myself. 
It is truly his loss and I will be just fine.
 

Hi Bambi,

I'm sorry to hear about your situation.  It's difficult in the midst of everything but if you bear in mind that you are drawing out of him what you expect then this situation could only ever have played out the way it did.

Your default standpoint when it comes to him is "doubt, insecurity and low self esteem".  When he called to invite you to dinner, I'm sure this abated somewhat. When he called said he was at the airport, your vibration rose to a much higher  level. That is why you had a wonderful time.  Sleeping together then probably put you back to your default standpoint (doubt, insecurity and low self esteem"), because we are women and equate sex with love and  perhaps your beliefs about him, sex,  other women coupled with your own insecurities came to mind -  and your vibration lowered.

The next day evidenced this, because you took action from this place of insecurity (the bombarding of texts)  He didn't match that low vibration you were on and so you didn't get a reply.  Finally the Universe gave you a further gift of your lack of alignment - seeing him being on a dating site.

It really doesn't matter why he's on the site or why he won't commit. What matters is how you perceive him and the relationship, because you get what you think about and expect.  If I were you, I would get myself back to a place of empowerment just for me.  I would really get clear about the relationship and version of him that I want and then I would visualise that from a strong and powerful place. You sent out scattered energy and you got scattered results, but on the plus side you have proof that the law works without exception. 

Change your default standpoint to a positive one and if you can keep your focus consistent, you will get a consistent version of him.

I know how this all feels though - and it's not always easy xx

Last edited by Jag123 (11/02/2016 8:03 am)