- Marz
- Manifesting Genius
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Re: Being with a guy that isn't your goal
Em wrote:
Wow...so Marz was on this thread insulting people and crossing lines before being called disgusting? Shame on you Marz...shame on u for giving your opinion about your views on women that have casual sex...SHAME. Okay...let me stop with the theatrics...i think what Marz is saying strikes a nerve with some ppl because od their own subconscious views on the subject. Marz didn't say anyone was the whore of babylon or anything like that...she gave her opinion and ppl went in to try to dispute HER opinion...
Honestly, yes, I think the comment she made about hoping some of us don't have daughters because our views differ was crossing a huge line, and was a disgusting comment to make.
I stand firmly by that comment. You'll just have to live with that. Thanks.
- Oasiscalm
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Re: Being with a guy that isn't your goal
And OP has learnt to detach so that will be fine.
If she isn't sure then she should avoid it altogether.
As they say, if you are confused, then don't do anything.
Also if a man cannot admit and respect and accept the fact that women have their needs then he can walk out of her door as she doesn't "need" a loser like that. She is better off without a judgmental bastard.
If at all she should do anything with a loser like that, then she should just use him for her pleasure and drop his pathetic, sorry, misogynist ass without him having any pleasure and satisfaction at all. Such men deserve it. And they deserve nothing better.
And really where do we "need" men? That too such men?
We can earn our money, feed ourselves, have anything we want on our own, we are complete all by ourselves. But for a straight woman, sex is the only place where she needs men.
This is a odd position to take on men.
I'm not understanding how if a man didn't want to have casual sex with her he would be judgemental or a loser.
I don't get the male bashing here. Don't get feminism mixed up with male bashing or a need to preach "we don't need men". In this life the only people that "need" anyone is a baby needing a mother or guardian.OC, a man/woman not wanting to indulge in casual sex is fine. But thinking that someone who indulges in it is a bad person is a loser mentality. That's what I mean.
If he doesn't want casual sex, fine. But judging a woman for that isn't.
The irony is that the judgement of women having casual sex is more likely to come from other women.
If there are all the men out there having casual sex them there has to be a pool of women having casual sex too
- Lanie Stevens
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Re: Being with a guy that isn't your goal
Hi guys
Debated a long time if to post this but today i decided to go for it.
So, i haven't been with a guy for about 5 years..just some touching here and there and i miss it..i am human and have urges.I feel like a reborn virgin
If i sleep with a guy who isn't the guy i desire just to release some sexual tension will that send mixed signals to the universe?
Honestly, I have wanted my guy to be my first after so long..and he nearly was when he separated but it had to be that time of month 😕.
What to do?
Thanks
It seems that this simple question has taken the entire post downhill after reading the comments by members. Not your fault Collie but I would like to comment and clarify things since this has turned into a huge debate.
First of all, we are here to empower women and that means that we don't judge others for what they choose to do or not to do regarding sex or any other topic. We are here as each member's support system and while we may offer our opinion it is not to be forced down someone's throat if they are doing something that we may not approve of. We only have control over our own lives and our opinion is just that "our opinion" and not gospel. Let's honor differing opinions and not be confrontational.
To the statements about how I feel about casual sex since it has been brought up on this forum that I am opposed to it. I do say in my books that it is not a good idea for women to have casual sex if she wants to have a deep attachment from her man. That's not a judgment on someone's morals, it is just a recommendation since I want women to attract and keep love in her life. I have counseled thousands of women who used sex to get a man and only rarely did that work out well. There are some women who just love sex and do not get attached to the person but that is uncommon. I do not approve nor disapprove of casual sex because I believe it's each individual's right to choose and do whatever they want. It is your body and your life and it is not my place nor my desire to place restrictions or judgment on what you choose to do.
In my experience in relationship counseling men are more intrigued and interested in a woman who holds herself in high regard and doesn't give her attention and affection to just anyone. Selective women are a bigger "catch" because they are not easy to catch and hold onto. Men seem to place a higher value on women who value themselves and what they have to give. Having said that if you choose to have sex with thousands of men then it is not for me, or anyone else, to judge and condemn. What I desire in my life may not be the same thing that you desire and that's fine. That's what makes the world wonderful! The fact that we can respect and embrace each other's differences.
So I ask my precious members on this forum to please respect each individual and do not pass judgment on others. This forum is a safe haven for all members to post whatever they feel like posting without ridicule or judgment so please respect all members. I love my sisters and I am so blessed that so many of you have come together from all parts of the world and all walks of life. Let's encourage, empower and love each other. Thank you!
Big Hugs & Love,
Lanie
Big Hugs, Lanie
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