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Ladies I feel like I'm going mad!!
I need to post my story and see what your opinions are on this because I'm either spot on or I'm going insane.
Late September I sent my guy a couple of messages on Facebook saying to stop waving and beeping at me because it was leading me on and to block me on Facebook.
16th December he actually read these messages,didn't block me (I DIDNT KNOW HE'D READ THEM TILL XMAS EVE WHEN I HAD A LOOK)
22nd December (I broke all rules) I sent him a Xmas card.
27th December he text me (I've been blocked on his phone since August) saying "thankyou for the card x"
I replied "your welcome x"
30th December.
Me:hope you have a good new year x
Him:you too,I hope you've met someone nice x
Me:I'm still single,me and (my little girl) against the world x
Him:is (little girl) with you now?
Me:Yeah shes fast asleep
Him:thought she went to her grandparents on a weekend?
I phoned him,he answered.we had a little catch up he asked about my day,my daughter,how was I doing etc. He thought I was seeing someone.
I asked has he found the city girl he wanted? (apparently I wasn't what he wanted and he wanted a city girl)
He said yes!! He's been seeing her about 3 weeks!!
I said well why are you talking to me if your seeing someone??
Because I sent him a Xmas card and he had to say thankyou.
The conversation was mental after that.he wanted to tell me first before I heard it from anyone else because that's how he found out I'd met someone else ages ago when all this started.it was only a meal and a few drinks with the girl he's seeing, he doesn't even really like her, then he thought it might go somewhere with her and have a future, then he's too busy for a relationship and he's not seeing her it was only a drink.then did I expect him to stay single for ever and never meet anyone.then well now I know how much I hurt him when I met someone else.
This went on back and forth back and forth saying he wasn't seeing her but then he is.
Anyway I lost it completely and I told him he's broke me and I hate him,I hope my name haunts him till he dies and he's dead to me know.
I haven't heard from him since.
My question is tho why unblock me after nearly 6 months just to say thanks for a Xmas card,why ask where my daughter was for the night and if he is actually now seeing someone why do all this to me,why not just keep me blocked.
Please ladies,I think he was testing the water with me to see if I'd actually reply and see if he could get me jealous and a reaction out of me
Sorry it's so long
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Sound like he still have some quind of feelings for you and wants things to be OK.
He have move on and he seems relaxed about it.
The best way to do is stop the contact him. If he truly be invested on you he will try to have you back.
Stay away he just want to try new meat which is the new girl.
Don't give him attention which sound he just want this from you at this moment in time.
This is why Lanie say best do this in Nc
You don't want to ask this questions when you use the thecnique
It will unfold at the right time
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One Visualisation i have been doing when I am sad or any other emotion it's transport my body to my ex body.
They say not to visualise when we are down but I find that it help me heal the negative emotion I am feeling.
He cries for me and look at my photo missing me.
I feel so much better and in the end I don't have no tears in my eyes and I feel relaxed and content. Ha ha
Try it out heal your self by transfer all your frustration to him.
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Last edited by Linda (12/31/2016 12:22 pm)
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MissFlip wrote:
Anyway I lost it completely and I told him he's broke me and I hate him,I hope my name haunts him till he dies and he's dead to me know. I haven't heard from him since.
There's more to Lanie's method than just doing PW/BWD - you've got to do ALL of her teachings and by saying these sort of comments to him it isn't going to benefit you. Surely you don't expect to hear from him after you told him you hate him and hope he dies. If you get angry and you know that you're about to go off on your man, unless you just don't want him anymore - please refrain and excuse yourself from his presence whether it's in person or on the telephone. Don't spill your guts to him ever. I know it's hard but that is what PW is for. Anyway, either meditate on him or move on - there's too many men out here to frustrate this way over just one - that's my thinking.
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I really don't mean to sound condescending but I don't think there's any point in going over why this or why that, reading between every line and trying to make some kind of puzzle up for yourself. You sent him an xmas card and he did the adult thing by politely thanking you because that's the nice thing to do wether this guy still has feelings or not. Don't torture with everything in between. Him replying at all is still a stepping stone so accept it for what it is right now and see it as a positive. Just because he politely responded to a gesture that you initiated doesn't automatically mean he is going go profess undying love for you at the drop of the hat. That can always come later ;)
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See that's the thing about reaching out first. You just never know what head space they are in, you could totally be on his mind driving him crazy but as soon as you call...he's satisfied. You break the tension. The good tension. But it's done. My only advice is to apologize, go No contact again and decide if you want to continue. After all its just a girl he had drinks with.