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Aphrodite11 · 12/31/2016 4:30 pm

Oasiscalm, I have wanted to move on since so many days. I have been trying really hard. It has been do difficult. I want that "I don't care" stage. I want it for my well being.

Oasiscalm · 12/31/2016 4:34 pm

Aphrodite11 wrote:
Oasiscalm, I have wanted to move on since so many days. I have been trying really hard. It has been do difficult. I want that "I don't care" stage. I want it for my well being.

Great, so let that be your focus.

Try and keep trying to do all you can to move on from the hurt of the whole situation.

Aphrodite11 · 12/31/2016 4:38 pm

I am waiting for that stage. This is not how I thought I would be spending my New Year's Eve. I noticed I had been feeling somewhat sad since a few days. My friend invited me for a night out but I declined it yesterday. I decided to spend it with my mom and my brother. And I fucked up that as well. I can't even throw up!!!!!

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Oasiscalm · 12/31/2016 4:41 pm

Aphrodite11 wrote:
I am waiting for that stage. This is not how I thought I would be spending my New Year's Eve. I noticed I had been feeling somewhat sad since a few days. I can't even throw up!!!!!

You can spend a lifetime waiting for that stage.

You get to that stage by making the desire and effort to get there

Blue · 12/31/2016 4:43 pm

Oasiscalm wrote:
Aphrodite11 wrote:
I am waiting for that stage. This is not how I thought I would be spending my New Year's Eve. I noticed I had been feeling somewhat sad since a few days. I can't even throw up!!!!!
You can spend a lifetime waiting for that stage.

You get to that stage by making the desire and effort to get there

Exactly this. Also, remember Neville said that you need to only focus on the outcome. Put all your love, energy, RS, faith, etc. into your desired outcome and the universe will make it happen when the time is right. No matter how much we want, time is a factor in our manifestations. Remember Lanie loved her man and she knew he would return - she didn't focus on when or how, she just knew. And he did. She never stopped believing and we can learn a lot from her.

Oasiscalm · 12/31/2016 4:50 pm

Blue wrote:
Oasiscalm wrote:
Aphrodite11 wrote:
I am waiting for that stage. This is not how I thought I would be spending my New Year's Eve. I noticed I had been feeling somewhat sad since a few days. I can't even throw up!!!!!
You can spend a lifetime waiting for that stage.

You get to that stage by making the desire and effort to get there
Exactly this. Also, remember Neville said that you need to only focus on the outcome. Put all your love, energy, RS, faith, etc. into your desired outcome and the universe will make it happen when the time is right. No matter how much we want, time is a factor in our manifestations. Remember Lanie loved her man and she knew he would return - she didn't focus on when or how, she just knew. And he did. She never stopped believing and we can learn a lot from her.

At the risk of sounding like a party popper I would advise Aphrodite to focus squarely and solely on herself right now. Let this new information be the catalyst to finally turning to herself and filling herself with love and self worth.

The universe will always give you what you want, but the way in which it is delivered is the Unknown. And sometimes what you need can be delivered like a big slap in the face especially if you have failed to see the previous offerings from the universe.

All of the processes are based on focusing on ourselves. Get back in touch with your inner being and remove all the hurt. Then your desires will start to unfold b

Oasiscalm · 12/31/2016 4:56 pm

Blue wrote:
Oasiscalm wrote:
Aphrodite11 wrote:
I am waiting for that stage. This is not how I thought I would be spending my New Year's Eve. I noticed I had been feeling somewhat sad since a few days. I can't even throw up!!!!!
You can spend a lifetime waiting for that stage.

You get to that stage by making the desire and effort to get there
Exactly this. Also, remember Neville said that you need to only focus on the outcome. Put all your love, energy, RS, faith, etc. into your desired outcome and the universe will make it happen when the time is right. No matter how much we want, time is a factor in our manifestations. Remember Lanie loved her man and she knew he would return - she didn't focus on when or how, she just knew. And he did. She never stopped believing and we can learn a lot from her.

This is a good mindset to adopt.

Aphrodite11 · 12/31/2016 4:58 pm

Sushi wrote:
Aphrodite11, from one person with ADHD to another, really dear, what kind of life do you think you would have had with this man? He wants you to adhere to a strict schedule of when to wake up, go to bed and stay on tasks. He wants you to be someone you're not. He's in the military so this would make it even worse, because it reinforces a very rigid type of scheduled lifestyle that is to the opposite extreme of someone with ADHD and after a few years they start to think that their type of insanity is normal. I know, I had one like that. It is not worth the energy you would expend trying to make sure his socks were folded correctly. There are many men out there who would love you just the way you are. There are men who would be supportive and help you stay organised instead of just criticizing you. The universe will bring you a man better suited to you. Have faith.

You have it too ??? I actually like a disciplined lifestyle even though I have never been able to do it. I like all that waking up in time sleeping in time, etc. Strange thing is, when he is on leave here, he himself doesn't sleep and wake up in time. My mother's colleague is a retired army colonel and to this day he follows a good disciplined lifestyle. And this fellow is just 25 and already has a belly sticking out, although he is in Air Force so perhaps things are somewhat different than Army. But I have ex army men in my office and the way they dress, walk, talk, carry themselves, etc, it is all very classy, appealing, proper. They have a confidence. For some reason my ex never had that classiness or the confidence. Although I was told only after the break up that these military people are somewhat nuts. A friend even said to me "Who asked you to get involved with an Air force personnel?"

Blue · 12/31/2016 5:01 pm

Oasiscalm wrote:
At the risk of sounding like a party popper I would advise Aphrodite to focus squarely and solely on herself right now. Let this new information be the catalyst to finally turning to herself and filling herself with love and self worth.

The universe will always give you what you want, but the way in which it is delivered is the Unknown. And sometimes what you need can be delivered like a big slap in the face especially if you have failed to see the previous offerings from the universe.

All of the processes are based on focusing on ourselves. Get back in touch with your inner being and remove all the hurt. Then your desires will start to unfold b

Not a party pooper at all, Oasis xo.I agree.

Aphrodite: Please use this experience to focus on you. Meditate, find the thing you love again, go out and get a manicure. Date yourself right now, find what makes you truly happy and before you know it - your man or a better one will show up. But don't focus on love or anything right now. YOU are the woman who matters! YOU are a GIFT and you need to remind yourself every day when you look in the mirror that you are! You are a GIFT, a BLESSING, you are smart, beautiful, intelligent and strong! You WILL overcome this. We all believe in you and are here to support you always. All the things you want in life will manifest, but only when you love yourself and are at a high level of love and happiness and your faith and belief is unshaken. The Universe always, always, always listens to our vibrations and frequencies and gives us exactly what we wish for.

But you are hurting right now and this is going to attract more hurtful circumstances to you. If you can, re-read Lanie's books where she talks about going out and living her life. Take deep breaths, write in a gratitude journal every day, self-talk is SO important and you need to establish a healthy self-talk within yourself. You CAN do this. We all believe in you!

Tomorrow is January 1, 2017. It is going to be an amazing year for all of us - believe me when I say it. Although things seem cloudy right now, they will get brighter. Go treat yourself tonight love. Go get some wine or your favorite chocolate, surround yourself with positive and supportive people. We all love you!

Oasiscalm · 12/31/2016 5:02 pm

Ok so you have a few hours left of 2016.

Stop dragging up all the past stories.

Let it go. Let it go. Let it go.

You have the power within you. It won't be easy but it will get easier.

But let's wrap up the posts now about all that has happened with him in the past. It is of no benefit to you or anyone else.

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