Oasiscalm wrote:

Blue wrote:

I've been trying to help so many users here but I honestly feel like there's no hope for some of you who have this victim mentality.

Laine took the time to write these books and to help us and so many of you are still not doing what she has told you. She didn't sit and cry her eyes out over John. She knew in her heart that after everything, she was going to be with him. She KNEW it, she didn't cry and beg and plea. She did what she wrote and she moved on and lived her life. And guess what? When her and John reunited - he told her EVERYTHING she visualised, he was the man she needed finally. Sometimes people need space from each other in order to grow.

You need to do the techniques, let go and go out and live your lives. Stop checking for messages, progress, what he says or does. GO OUT AND LOVE YOURSELF. Start sewing, baking, cooking. Go learn how to snowboard or ski. Go read books, learn about something new you love. Watch documentaries, write stories. But stop feeling sorry for yourselves and crying and begging all the time.

Stop being so desperate and worrying about these men. Your negative attitudes have contributed to your issues and nothing else. Neville has taught us time and again that imagination, not the outside world, it the only thing that matters. Therefore, you need to stop thinking everything negative and start living and imagining the life you want.

I'm going to use my Neville imaginational acts and pray this is heard and followed by many.

Funnily last night I was thinking about the forum and when it first started there was a very upbeat vibe. More humour, more positive expectancy. Whilst everyone had the same current situation of the their guys not being there they were collectively pushing through with a "can do" attitude. Yes there we days when a member would have a bad day but they would come here and would be uplifted.

Unfortunately there has been a change in tone (hence my recent thread about enabling) to a collective pity party and constant focus on him not doing what they want.

It's hard to get the message across, but there is no value is sitting around moping and focusing on the unwanted. And that is regardless of LOA. The only question we need to keep asking is how can "I" make myself happy?Don't focus on the crumbs, you want the whole cake so why lower your focus to crumbs (I.e. Texts & likes on Facebook).

Hopefully in the New Year the tone will change. Everyone will start slaying with confidence and come here for empowerment advice and leave the despair at the door.

 
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Indigo I so so agree with u !! Some of them are really silly and it's true the group was so amazing in the starting and I loved loved loved to be a part of it cos everyone was always talking about the progress and the attention was on doing and having the confidence of things being done unlike what it's mostly now always about cribbing and cryin and every small thing is magnified !! Not like one shouldn't express but here there are so many women coming to get encouragement if the ratio of positives are lesser to the negative ones I reckon no one will be too enthusiastic to come here and read and get motivated !! Maybe a thread should be made only for venting and ONLY ONLY for that and the rest of the threads can be about stories where the true encouragement and other things happen !! 😊

Yes Laine so I was right about it that John wasn't ur guy ! Blue I guess was confused with the whole thing so I mentioned t to her and thanks for reinstating what I told !  Ur the bestest !! 😘😘😘😘😘

AnnanWater wrote:

Lanie Stevens wrote:

I am queen wrote:

Blue ur awesome and ur absolutely right about it !! I'm glad u posted this ! Oh and by the way John wasn't the guy she wanted to get back to ! He was th guy on whom she tried the technique on,and he replied back to it immediately right when she was next to him ! 😊 the guy whom u are referring to is probably her present guy but his name is not John !! 😝Just saying 😘 Thanks for the post babe ur amazing !!

John isn't the guy I ended up being with HOWEVER he has never forgotten me and cannot move on because of the technique.  In fact, he contacted me yesterday!  LOL  I wouldn't ordinarily wish bad things on someone but John is a total narcissistic prick and he deserves to suffer because of all the things he did when we were together.  So what if it has been 7 years?  ;-)

The guy I am engaged to is the one I wrote about who had no contact with me for a full year.  I used the technique but also dated like crazy while we were apart.  Why?  Because although I loved him I also recognize that the universe is sometimes much smarter than I am and there was a possibility of meeting a man even more perfect for me.  And, whether I did or not I am not going to sit around crying about someone when they have moved on.  I knew without a doubt that when I wanted him to think of me and miss me all I had to do was use the technique on him.  

This thread has made me laugh.  Let's have a goal in 2017 of being more positive, looking at the bright side of things, remembering that we have a sense of humor and being strong enough to move on.  I would love it if we had posts of positive, uplifting and laugh out loud things instead of pity parties.  The more negativity you focus on the more you attract.  Let's make it a kick ass year whether it is with a mate or happily independent.  

 

 
What did he say to you yesterday? He still wants you back?

I'm wanting the techniques to have the same effect on my target as they did on John towards you.

Ann, try this - I think this is what Lanie did:
https://laniestevensblog.wordpress.com/2016/02/11/claim-your-man-with-your-mind/