Beautiful_1 wrote:

I definitely needed this. I feel bad cause its my birthday and i started crying over my girl. Ugh need a break.

Happy Birthday sweetie! Don't cry, please. Send your girlie some love, take a nice long bubble bath and treat yourself to your favorite sweets. You deserve it  

Thanks blue and everyone else for the positivity in this thread! Really appreciate it!

This is great, Thank you Blue. Keep smiling, we can conquer rough days sister!

Can't wait to see your big post We got this xx

Oasiscalm wrote:

Believe me when I say their stubborness is not a factor.

You aren't battling their stubborness or other issues. They don't matter. All that matters is you. If you want to see obstacles then that's what you will be faced with.

If you want to sit affirming,  that he is sitting there missing me but is too stubborn to reach out , then guess what he will sit there staring at the phone missing you but not reaching out.

Don't give up your power to his whime. When you get your resolve and vibration right it will all fall into place.

This is all about you, not him, her or them. If there is one thing I have learnt on my LOA journey is that the universe responds to you in the exact way you present yourself to it. Act wish washy and u will get wishy washy results.

Oasis, I definitely think stubbornness is a factor. If not, why did it take Lanie's now-fiancé so long to reach out? She was out living her life and she was happy, yet it took him over a year to reach out. Why do you think the reason for that was?

I genuinely believe you can affirm to yourself that they are coming back (because they are, no doubt) and that they miss you. But no matter how high your vibration is and how happy/positive you are - I definitely still believe that their personality can play a factor.

But hey, that's just me - I'm still learning all about LOA and re-reading the books I have so maybe in a few days I'll relate back to what you were saying. As well as when I am done reading Lanie's new book this weekend

Last edited by Blue (1/31/2017 5:46 pm)

Blue wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

Believe me when I say their stubborness is not a factor.

You aren't battling their stubborness or other issues. They don't matter. All that matters is you. If you want to see obstacles then that's what you will be faced with.

If you want to sit affirming,  that he is sitting there missing me but is too stubborn to reach out , then guess what he will sit there staring at the phone missing you but not reaching out.

Don't give up your power to his whime. When you get your resolve and vibration right it will all fall into place.

This is all about you, not him, her or them. If there is one thing I have learnt on my LOA journey is that the universe responds to you in the exact way you present yourself to it. Act wish washy and u will get wishy washy results.

Oasis, I definitely think stubbornness is a factor. If not, why did it take Lanie's now-fiancé so reach out for so long? She was out living her life and she was happy, yet it took him over a year to reach out. Why do you think the reason for that was?

I genuinely believe you can affirm to yourself that they are coming back (because they are, no doubt) and that they miss you. But no matter how high your vibration is and how happy/positive you are - I definitely still believe that their personality can play a factor.

But hey, that's just me - I'm still learning all about LOA and re-reading the books I have so maybe in a few days I'll relate back to what you were saying. As well as when I am done reading Lanie's new book this weekend

The more LOA you will read the more you will learn that you are the one in control.

I can't comment on Lanie's journey, I don't know what was in Lanie's subconscious. There are many ways to look at any story and give it whatever tone you like. Suppose the year Lanie lived her life to the fullest was what she needed. Could it be that in that year she gained more for herself than she would have if he had returned a day after she first PW'd him. Could it be what she had set her intention to have with him required wounds to be heal and old energy to be shifted.  But as I said everyone's story is different. I'm flipping the story to show that the conclusion of Lanie's story doesn't have to be "oh he was so stubborn it took a year for him to come back". Also read the story - consider Lanie herself stated she didn't do PW every single day and had periods where she didn't do it. Could the story had been different if she was doing it everyday. (Sorry Lanie to dissect your story 😂 )

I just know when you turn you attention away from them and focus on you,  your life will open up and u will start to receive all you need to get what you want and need.

If you are sat there saying he isn't contacting me because he is stubborn - you are giving him that feature. You are introducing another obstacle to overcome. It is about the energy around the story you are telling.

For example you send him a message and he doesn't reply. Energy one - is to start saying "oh he is so stubborn he's not replying". Energy Two - he hasn't replied because he is busy.

Attributing stubborness etc to the person you are trying to attracting is tiresome. You are reinforcing within yourself it is going to be an uphill battle.

Forget why he isn't contacting you. All you need to affirm to yourself is that he is mine and through whatever event you and him will be together as you wish. In the meantime you have a glourious life which you will live to the fullest knowing it's coming at any time soon.