Thanks for this, Oasiscalm. Sometimes I worry about posting a thread since I know it sounds just like everyone else's, since we all worry!

My guy and I were emailing really consistently for a long time (at least 6 mknths) but over the past several months he's emailed progressively less frequently and now it's been 5 weeks since I've heard from him. This is the longest he's gone without emailing me. So naturally I worry that he's decided he doesn't want me anymore, etc etc.

I've been doing PW and BWD for several months although not every day, so maybe I should increase the frequency and do CTC afterwards.

But I don't know how shake the fear and worry that his next email will be a goodbye one. I know I have to stop worrying and let go so I don't actually manifest that negative outcome but as so many other women have pointed out here, it's so hard not to panic.

jellyb wrote:

Thanks for this, Oasiscalm. Sometimes I worry about posting a thread since I know it sounds just like everyone else's, since we all worry!

My guy and I were emailing really consistently for a long time (at least 6 mknths) but over the past several months he's emailed progressively less frequently and now it's been 5 weeks since I've heard from him. This is the longest he's gone without emailing me. So naturally I worry that he's decided he doesn't want me anymore, etc etc.

I've been doing PW and BWD for several months although not every day, so maybe I should increase the frequency and do CTC afterwards.

But I don't know how shake the fear and worry that his next email will be a goodbye one. I know I have to stop worrying and let go so I don't actually manifest that negative outcome but as so many other women have pointed out here, it's so hard not to panic.

Hi sweetie.

Just think of it this way: he may have a lot on his plate and him thinking of you constantly may be confusing him for the time right now. While we may think and believe certain things about people - he could be putting up resistance or trying to figure out how/when/why to contact you.

Keep doing your meditations and believe! But go out and live your life hunny. He will be back soon! Trust, believe and KNOW he will be! The Universe handles the details.

Maybe write a rough draft of an email from him to you and write what you want him to say! That way you can look back at it, get that feeling and remind yourself that he is coming!!

Oasiscalm wrote:

princessgirl87 wrote:

It's been a week since we've seen each other or spoken to one another. 7 days straight of doing the technique...non stop. Im really dedicated on working on this and letting the universe take care of it.

The last of my tears was two mornings ago...but for another reason. I was rubbing my sides and it hit me that I don't love myself enough. Before that, last Sunday, I woke up from a happy dream I had about her, missing her, and crying more than two mornings ago...
But since then, I've been okay. This morning...all morning I was calm.
Right now, I feel okay, just a bit lonely at times.
I recall her telling me that once I think I'm over her (1 or 2 weeks' time), contact her as friends...
Part of me wants to, to see how she is, but the other part of me doesnt want to break No contact, so I'm kinda confused as to how to proceed?
(Though I saw something she posted I wanted to like on Facebook lol...I'll probably do that tomorrow...)
I will continue with my techniques for the rest of this week.

Shift your focus

 Just focus on the techniques you mean?

I worry about him never wanting me again since the way hes dealt with me is like hes just done. he says he talks to his other exs so why wont he talk to me? Plus we're long distance...

What You Believe

The entire world is unconditionally demonstrating your beliefs. There is no such thing as unconscious beliefs because life is constantly and consistently manifesting your beliefs. Everyone who shows up in your day is reflecting your personal beliefs, about life, about you and about them. If you believe the world is a hostile place, you get hostile people. If you believe most people are kind, people will demonstrate kindness.

How You Feel

How you feel, at any given moment, sends out a vibratory energy that life immediately reflects back to you. This is the law of attraction. If you feel happy and light hearted, others will reflect that, and if you feel down and depressed, others will reflect that, as well. Shift your reality to  the reality you want to experience.

What You Expect

What you expect in any situation directly influences what you will experience. Have you ever found yourself saying, “I knew that would happen”? Have you considered that it was your knowing that actually made it happen? People cannot show up any better or different than you expect them to. Most of the time, we base our expectations on how we judge someone or how they have shown up in the past. What we fail to understand is that our expectations and judgements actually lock in those negative aspects of that person.

How You See Someone

How you see a person at any given moment calls forth that version of that person. This means if you are judging someone or focusing on the things that you do not like about that person, you will experience exactly that. If you want to know how you see someone, notice how they show up for you.