Beautiful_1 wrote:

Blue wrote:

That's exactly what you weren't supposed to do. We all spoke about this a few weeks ago.
If you ladies can't appreciate being in your own company, especially on Valentine's Day - then how far do you believe things are going to work out for you? Even when your man comes back, how far do you expect the relationship to go if you don't love and treat yourself, too? I posted a 33 day self love challenge and for this exact reason - so you all would not be moping around like this and go do something special for yourself. Today I bought myself my favorite flowers and sweets and focused on me and my man was sweet enough to reach out. But did I need it? No, because I am perfectly content with myself. Would I have been upset if he didn't say anything? No, again because I didn't expect anything. The world would've kept spinning if he didn't say anything. Because the person I spend the most time with is me and learning how to enjoy your own company is key. 

There are going to be Valentines Days in the future to spend with the one you love, but cherishing yourself in this moment is what is going to make that happen.

 
This woman is speaking truth.

 
This ^^^^ 
I actually had the best valentines with my 2 girlfriends, we watched a terrible horror film that we were in stitches over and got a Thai take away, ate loads of crap and actually called it 'Galentines day' (as in us gals if that wasnt clear lol), after they left I pamepered myself and got in bed and felt really grateful to have amazing friends! Best Valentines I have had in years xx

AnnanWater wrote:

Indigo wrote:

  
  
I did not mope today - no time.  We had a nice dinner out yesterday.
This morning I took delivery of a king size bed I ordered on Amazon
a couple of weeks ago so I've been busy with that all day, moving
my bedroom around, shampooing rugs getting ready to assemble
the thing after I make a quick dinner.  I gave my dear husband a
small box of chocolates (which he can't eat as he's diabetic) with
a little sticky note and he was so happy.  Back in the day when
I was single I spent many V-Days alone for whatever reason, but
I don't recall ever spending the day moping around being miserable
because I wasn't in a relationship.  Take my advice and enjoy your
Me-Time while you can.

And yes, writing down your goals and anything else you want to
materialize/manifest ABSOLUTELY WORKS!!!

And this honking king size bed is the best V-Day present ever!!!
 
  
 
 

Why would you give a reason for not moping yesterday when you are married?
 
 

  
  
Why are you questioning my post???  I was telling you all how I spent my
V-Day.  I didn't have some fantastical romantic day.  That was the point.
Because a person is married or in a relationship doesn't mean things are
mystical and magical for them on V-Day.  I spent all day disassembling
my other bed, shampooing the rug, moving stuff around and putting 
together a king size bed.  Not making goo-goo eyes and getting it on
with my husband, who by the way, is in no condition for any of that
anyway.  But other than that, I had a nice day.  Maybe later, if I am
so inclined, I will post another story.  And perhaps you can learn
something else from me.
  
  
 

I get what you are saying Indigo. I think you were just saying that you had a regular day and you are right that even if you are in a relationship at the moment does not mean you have to be all up under each other on Valentines Day. I do not believe you had ill intentions by you post. Plus I wish I could get a king size bed! I reached out to my POI to wish him a Happy Valentines Day and he responded back immediately but last year he would not acknowledge me or the day. I wasn't expecting a response so I was pleasantly surprised. Do not focus on him focus on YOU then you will get a change in him. Things will get better once you start to see manifestations but you have to keep at it and have faith 

Umm ok? Reevaluate my love for myself?

But like I said..to come on here and say how it was hard to spend Valentines Day alone and without contact from someone you've been working hard towards ..to have someone say " Gee..mine wasnt so bad..I had  a nice dinner with my husband.." is that really going to make anyone feel any better?

But I don't know if Indigo is trying to get him to change with LOA and techniques. She has 27 pages of previous posts I can't go through them and I don't know her story. If it is her story it makes a little more sense.

AnnanWater wrote:

  
I don't get it. Are you using the techniques to improve things between you and your husband? So if you DID have time to mope.. What would it be about?

The OP and I wanted messages from our POIs and didn't get them and felt sad. Why would you feel sad? I don't know your goals and intentions..
  

  
  
My goals and intentions are personal.  But yes, I do meditate on things that I wish to manifest
using Lanie's techniques.  My desire to improve my situation is what led me to Lanie's books
and that is why I am here participating on the forum.  I hope that by sharing our experiences
we can learn from each other.

I have lots of things to mope about but I don't.  I keep myself busy most of the time as I have
a household to run, a husband to take care of, we have adult children, grand-children and even
some great-grand-children as my husband is much older than me and was married before but
his other wife passed.  We also have several brothers and sisters who are all married and they
all have different situations going on and so I feel that I have some insights on relationships
that some of you may not.  And maybe not.  But anyway, that's that on that.