DeDe651 wrote:

As some of you may know, I used the technique on this guy I had been talking to and it resulted in him paying for a ticket for me to come and see him. This all happened within a month. I knew him from college, but we had never done anything.

That was our first time having sex and I must say it was AMAZING. I can't say he's in the top 5, but it was definitely pretty good and we both orgasmed multiple times. The thing is however, when I wanted more he actually turned me down! He even pushed me off of him at one point. Talk about ego crush. I have never had a man do that. I also found out that he multiple multiple women.

But what he did do after the sex was: randomly kiss me, cuddle me and he was a little touchy here and there. I guess I'm confused because 1.) I had been doing both PW/BWD (more PW) 2.) it's like he wanted me but at the same time he didn't. If anything I now feel a tad shitty and like I "lost" so to speak. I've tried cutting the cord but I can't even focus enough to do so.

Idk if I'm really looking for advice or whatever, but I definitely hate feeling like I was played.
  

  
  
If you really want the guy for a long-term relationship I would advise you to read Lanie's PP and
follow what she teaches, as well as her other books.  One thing she stresses is to NOT have
sex until you have formed an emotional bond with him.  As to him pushing away, men can only
do so much in the bedroom, they need to take a break by resting/sleeping to get re-energized.  
That's probably what happened there.  Or he may want to be the aggressor and doesn't want
his woman to initiate.  Regardless of what happened during that episode, you need to be the
judge of whether you had sex too soon (before you formed an emotional connection), if he 
only invited you for sex and if doing that was a big mistake on your part.  

You can recover from this - read the books, practice what Lanie teaches and continue to do 
the meditations.
  
  

 

Indigo wrote:

DeDe651 wrote:

As some of you may know, I used the technique on this guy I had been talking to and it resulted in him paying for a ticket for me to come and see him. This all happened within a month. I knew him from college, but we had never done anything.

That was our first time having sex and I must say it was AMAZING. I can't say he's in the top 5, but it was definitely pretty good and we both orgasmed multiple times. The thing is however, when I wanted more he actually turned me down! He even pushed me off of him at one point. Talk about ego crush. I have never had a man do that. I also found out that he multiple multiple women.

But what he did do after the sex was: randomly kiss me, cuddle me and he was a little touchy here and there. I guess I'm confused because 1.) I had been doing both PW/BWD (more PW) 2.) it's like he wanted me but at the same time he didn't. If anything I now feel a tad shitty and like I "lost" so to speak. I've tried cutting the cord but I can't even focus enough to do so.

Idk if I'm really looking for advice or whatever, but I definitely hate feeling like I was played.
  

  
  
If you really want the guy for a long-term relationship I would advise you to read Lanie's PP and
follow what she teaches, as well as her other books.  One thing she stresses is to NOT have
sex until you have formed an emotional bond with him.  As to him pushing away, men can only
do so much in the bedroom, they need to take a break by resting/sleeping to get re-energized.  
That's probably what happened there.  Or he may want to be the aggressor and doesn't want
his woman to initiate.  Regardless of what happened during that episode, you need to be the
judge of whether you had sex too soon (before you formed an emotional connection), if he 
only invited you for sex and if doing that was a big mistake on your part.  

You can recover from this - read the books, practice what Lanie teaches and continue to do 
the meditations.
  
  

 

Thank you so much for your advice. Definitely taking that to heart girl.