Oasiscalm wrote:

No the universe doesn't reserve you.

Your reality reflects your energy and your inner talk.

Think about your energy when your profile was full of matches. Were you more carefree and detached?

I was as detached then as I am now. Probably even more detached to other the idea of dating other men because I have my eye on someone.

thaqueenliz wrote:

If you haven't read my backstory I met my POI the 24th of January and was immediately pretty smitten, however he's busy and blocking the connection he felt between us (by making himself as busy as possible), and I haven't heard from him in weeks.

I used to have tinder and bumble, FULL of matches, dates every night, sometimes twice a day, and although it was fun, none of them really stuck. And going out with friends I'd be approached and bought drinks all night. Literally the same night I met him I was with another guy, and all his guy friends were around me and we were having drinks, I was a bombshell! Then I met "Josh" and all that came to a halt. I still go out, but hardly get approached, I'll be looking around like "who's the lucky guy? Huh? No one? ok" haha. If I do have a drunk or lonely soul wander over and flirt, and give my number out, I never hear from them or it fizzles. I've tried getting tinder again, and get significantly less matches, and conversation never picks up. Same with the bumble app. Seriously talking about going from so many matches I couldn't message them all, to literally three matches! We'll message once or twice then it fizzles! Even today I tried to meet up with one and it fizzled out mid plan-making! 

I've been feeling lonely especially not hearing from him, and tried reconnecting with some old flames, it's not the same, there's no interest on either ends especially with an ex flame that I had been head-over-heels for until after New Years, and now there's just nothing.

Does the universe ever put us on reserve for someone we're meant for? (especially people like me with so much ability to stray)? My psychic described "Josh" as a catalyst for me to go within myself and focus on me. I don't even know what that means, if I'll end up being with him. 

This is just so weird and confusing and honestly? Lonely not having at least someone to distract me while I try these techniques on "Josh." I haven't heard from him in almost 3 weeks now. Thoughts?

Hello, Queen! I'd just like to add to everyone's comments by saying that you ARE the universe, and you make your reality.  I found you a beautiful Rumi quote, about it. 

“Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.”
― Jalalludin Rumi

Hate to disagree ladies!  But this is the answer i found! I framed the question wrong perhaps, but this is from an article called "signs your soulmate is on the way"

"I have lost track of the number of times over the years that I have had a caller or client come to me and say “I have excellent relationships with all my ex lovers. But suddenly, none of them will talk to me anymore! What did I do?” The answer I almost always receive from the angels is that nothing at all is wrong. In fact, I almost always see that the person receiving the reading is growing and blossoming spiritually and starting to release the security blanket of those old, failed relationships. They may not realize it yet, but their higher consciousness has realized that it’s time to let go, that the former lovers are not coming back and that true love is on the way."

Oasiscalm wrote:

thaqueenliz wrote:

Hate to disagree ladies!  But this is the answer i found! I framed the question wrong perhaps, but this is from an article called "signs your soulmate is on the way"

"I have lost track of the number of times over the years that I have had a caller or client come to me and say “I have excellent relationships with all my ex lovers. But suddenly, none of them will talk to me anymore! What did I do?” The answer I almost always receive from the angels is that nothing at all is wrong. In fact, I almost always see that the person receiving the reading is growing and blossoming spiritually and starting to release the security blanket of those old, failed relationships. They may not realize it yet, but their higher consciousness has realized that it’s time to let go, that the former lovers are not coming back and that true love is on the way."

That answer confirms what everyone has replied to you.

Note it says "their higher consciousness has realised..."  Note it does not say the universe.

The general theme through all the answers you have recieved is that YOU are driving the changes on your environment.

I personally believe my higher consciousness comes from the universe. As well as I believe when I met him (not knowing he'd be so special) the universe put almost an aura around me that tells others (especially men that weren't necessarily good for me) "stop. she's taken." Because something i've noticed through my life is that I may not always know what's best for me, but the universe does. I see it as a guiding hand that pushes me and shields me from making detrimental decisions without stopping me from receiving important lessons. I see it as I tell the universe what i want, then it doing everything necessary to make it happen, even things I may not like at the time. A few months ago I asked for my soulmate, defined my list and everything, and now i've met him. So distractions are being eliminated. I'm being forced to focus as well as be alone and look inwardly. No excessive partying, no drunk hookups, none of that! As my psychic said, he's a "catalyst".

At the time I posted this I was confused about how my POI felt for me or if he was even worth it, and was confused and angry when I kept trying to find people to fill my time and occupy my mind only for them to pull a major ass move within a day, or for communication to fall out completely. Basically the universe was like "no, you're better than this just have patience, he's the one."

Lo and Behold when I hear from him again he's constantly thanking me for my patience.

So I truly believe I'm on reserve (maybe there's a better word for it) and it's not a bad thing. It's just keeping my eyes on the prize and honestly stopping me from making a mistake or doing something stupid.