DeDe651 wrote:

What kind of resistance have you ladies encountered.

I went no contact with my guy and have been focusing on others. This morning he sent two text messages and went ghost when I asked how he was doing back 😂

Does that ever happen with you all? Or something similar?
  

  
  
That's not resistance.  That's him checking to see if he still has you at his beck and call.
According to Lanie, you're supposed to make him wait before contacting him back, like
a day or two or three.  If you're going to implement NC, do it so that it is effective and so
that you get the end result you want.  Not so that you are left wondering why he did not
respond back to you, because now it seems that he has the upper-hand, not you.

If you haven't read Lanie's books, please do so ASAP.
  
  
 

I've been blocked on social media.  Then called and texted although blocked.

I've had the "beck and call" thing happen to. However,  I make him wait or not reply at all. It's always good to not have it appear that you've been waiting on their call or text.

I've been blocked too and after that his gf started harrasing me

Avaelle wrote:

Ratpack wrote:

I'm confused. I've read a couple of books and I don't recall the no contact rule. Can someone break it down for me?

I think there are a mix of reasons. 

If they've taken a few steps away from you,  contact could make them take even more steps back.

If you're an emotional wreck already, not getting a reply or a negative reply could shake you up even more.

But,  I don't think it's a set in stone rule to not contact them but it is a good idea.

No contact first, so you can get your emotions in check so that when they do contact, you aren't begging and pleading - that's a turn-off. Second, you want them to miss you and think you are fine without them. It's like reverse psychology in a way. 

It's not set in stone, no, but to be honest, if your guy messages you, you should reply back as long as it is not fighting; it should always be positive. I know that when my guy messages me, I will be replying back the same day and not waiting days. 

DeDe651 wrote:

I've read all five books of Lanie's. The last time I responded to him was Sunday so I felt that it was appropriate to text back. I understand waiting a day or two normally but after waiting four days already and he texted AGAIN it didn't make sense to wait an extra day.
  

  
  
If you are in NC, then be in NC.  Why were you in contact if you're doing NC?  
NC is not about you waiting for him, or how many days have passed, or how
much you miss him or how badly you want to hear his mellifluous voice.  It's
about making him wait for you instead of confirming that you are available.
Letting him know that you are sitting by your phone waiting for his next text
so that you can respond momentarily and not really "focusing on others."  
If you want him to come back to you on your terms, and not the other way 
around, then you would want your NC to be effective.  

But first you must understand the purpose of it so that you apply it
correctly otherwise it is pointless in doing it at all.  

Since this doesn't make sense to you, don't take my word for it.
Lanie covers NC in great detail in BU2MU.  Read it and re-read
until you grasp the concept.