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Re: Meeting a mutual friend
Oasiscalm wrote:
You've given a very detailed explanation of the past events and how this girl relates to you and your ex. But
I'm not sure whether you posted the story to simply off load or wanted some specific advice about something.Sorry! its confusing and I guess it was a bit of both.. I was curious to see others opinion on this, I thought maybe I could get some closure from her based on her observations of my guy when they were in America together as he never really articulated why he changed his mind so dramatically.. I guess this is wrong of me to do and I should just let it go.
There is only two people in then world who can give you closure. Either him or you. Expecting to get some "insight" into what happened around your break up from this girl is a fruitless mission. She will be giving you her version of the events she observed. And that just adds another layer of confusion to the drama.
As you were previously friends it's up to you whether you meet up with her. For me personally I wouldn't not meet someone just because they are a mutual friend of your ex. But I would try to exercise some control and not bring up your ex, especially if you think it's going to upset you.
Okay.. deep down I know this to be true, I think I got way out of alignment when I heard from her as it was so unexpected.. maybe part of me took it as a sign from the universe that my manifestation is close.. I like to think of it like that anyway.. as you say, it would just be her observation and there would be no real gain from her insight on what she thinks might of happened, it doesn't change anything.. this helped, thank you.
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Thanks Indigo, I wasn't expecting to ever see this girl again as she lives on the other side of the world! and her contacting me to meet up put me in a bit of a tailspin and brought back all these emotions and questions which caused me to offload on here and come across confusing! I am trying to attract a loving committed relationship with him using lanie's techniques, I have been using them for a year but so far he has only come into my life wanting a friends with benefits situation which is why we are currently in NC. If I do see her I think its best to not talk about my guy at all as it could get back to him, I'd rather her say how awesome and happy I am if she does talk to him!
I hate those around the world friends coming to visit me unexpected and disturbing my groove!!!
Okay. So don't bring him up and if she does, cut her off and let her know you're not interested
in the least about him. Pretend you have a pretend boyfriend. Better yet, hire a hunk of burning
love or get one of your male friends to escort you so she can tell him all about how you have
another man. That'll teach him.
Haha! Amazing, thanks Indigo I might just bring myself some arm candy.. or have him be there before us and 'bump' into him! 
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What happened??? I'm dying to know 
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What happened??? I'm dying to know
It went really well! until she casually brought him up before I could stop her and then it was not so good.. she had no idea we had only just stopped talking to each other 3 weeks ago, she thought it had been over and done with for a year.. she was pretty shocked to find out he was talking to me everyday while he was on holiday with her in America, she basically said he was acting 100% single and flirting with all her friends when he was there and that he seemed really happy and carefree. Not gonna lie that hurt, but I remained cool as a cucumber and she was definitely on my side and said I deserve way better and he is an idiot for letting me go. She said if he asks about me she will gladly tell him that I am looking amazing and doing really well with no mention of talking about him, so that's good but I'm just left feeling really hurt and angry at him. I deleted him off snapchat and facebook..then regretted doing that but sticking to it! So at least seeing her gave me the push I needed to cut him out of my life but it still doesn't feel very good.. 
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That's a bummer and I'm sorry it happened to you, but you wanted to go see
what was up. I personally don't have a great deal of trust in women, she will
probably go tell him that you're not over him, I can almost guarantee that's
what will happen. Besides, you can't get over someone you love in a couple
of weeks so when your heart got stuck in your throat, she could tell.
I'm not into getting your ex back, but if that's what you want to do then read
Lanie's books (and other books) about how to make that happen.
I really hope you will be alright.
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That's a bummer and I'm sorry it happened to you, but you wanted to go see
what was up. I personally don't have a great deal of trust in women, she will
probably go tell him that you're not over him, I can almost guarantee that's
what will happen. Besides, you can't get over someone you love in a couple
of weeks so when your heart got stuck in your throat, she could tell.
I'm not into getting your ex back, but if that's what you want to do then read
Lanie's books (and other books) about how to make that happen.
I really hope you will be alright.
Yeah it sucked.. but it was a possibility I knew could happen and I chose to go anyway. So you are not attracting back an ex with the techniques? I have read all her books and have most of the MP3's. I do still want him back.. I am probably crazy and right now I am not in the right head space to get him back because I'm angry and hurt by him.. I should just let him go and move on
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I'm so sorry Bliss
It's up to you to decide whether or not to continue the techniques.
I don't know if you've been doing the love spell. If you have, finish it and then decide if you want to start again.
If you do, do it without any expectation. If you want to let him go, that's okay too!
Remember though...they all come back. As soon as you're doing amazing in your life, I guarantee he will be back.
Just know that yes, you do deserve 100% better than that and you will find someone who treats you right.
I'm here if you want to talk sweetie. Please don't let this get you down too much!
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Yeah it sucked.. but it was a possibility I knew could happen and I chose to go anyway. So you are not attracting back an ex with the techniques? I have read all her books and have most of the MP3's. I do still want him back.. I am probably crazy and right now I am not in the right head space to get him back because I'm angry and hurt by him.. I should just let him go and move on
I am an old woman married to an even older dude. But I was single for the majority of
my adult life and I have beaucoup experience with men. My dad was in the military
and I was employed by federal govt on an Army base and it was NOTHING BUT MEN!
And plus I used to meet guys in the city, I used to run personals ads in the newspaper
back in the day. Do I have some crazy a$$ stories to tell!!! But I won't.
Was saying I'm not into getting the ex back because if a man mistreats me or cheats
or whatever, why in the dickens would I want him back? I don't want his butt after he
has slept with a boatload of women when I can just as easily get a brand new one
with no history and no baggage. But if a woman wants to get back with an ex, that's
her business.
You can decide whether you want to pursue him once you get past this latest upset.
If you think you can get him back and he's worth the hassles of doing so, go for it.
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I'm so sorry Bliss
It's up to you to decide whether or not to continue the techniques.
I don't know if you've been doing the love spell. If you have, finish it and then decide if you want to start again.
If you do, do it without any expectation. If you want to let him go, that's okay too!
Remember though...they all come back. As soon as you're doing amazing in your life, I guarantee he will be back.
Just know that yes, you do deserve 100% better than that and you will find someone who treats you right.
I'm here if you want to talk sweetie. Please don't let this get you down too much!
Thank you Blue, I really appreciate the support. I finished week two of the spell last week and Lanie says to wait two weeks before attempting again if you see no results so I'll definitely be waiting and seeing how I am feeling, I do prefer the love spell over PW at the moment just because of how I am feeling, the love spell MP3 is more about filling ourselves up with love and joy so I really enjoy that. I know the techniques work, he has come back so many times I just cant get him to commit.. need to just take a break and get myself back into alignment, I can't let him keep having so much power over me.
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Yeah it sucked.. but it was a possibility I knew could happen and I chose to go anyway. So you are not attracting back an ex with the techniques? I have read all her books and have most of the MP3's. I do still want him back.. I am probably crazy and right now I am not in the right head space to get him back because I'm angry and hurt by him.. I should just let him go and move on
I am an old woman married to an even older dude. But I was single for the majority of
my adult life and I have beaucoup experience with men. My dad was in the military
and I was employed by federal govt on an Army base and it was NOTHING BUT MEN!
And plus I used to meet guys in the city, I used to run personals ads in the newspaper
back in the day. Do I have some crazy a$$ stories to tell!!! But I won't.
Was saying I'm not into getting the ex back because if a man mistreats me or cheats
or whatever, why in the dickens would I want him back? I don't want his butt after he
has slept with a boatload of women when I can just as easily get a brand new one
with no history and no baggage. But if a woman wants to get back with an ex, that's
her business.
You can decide whether you want to pursue him once you get past this latest upset.
If you think you can get him back and he's worth the hassles of doing so, go for it.
Your advice and support is much appreciated! Your life sounds so colorful and interesting! I can only imagine the stories! He has never cheated on me or mistreated me when we were together, but his behavior the past 6 months is not acceptable, keeping me at arms length and only seeing me when it suits him and not committing just doesn't work for me anymore.. but I am hoping I can attract him back as the man I deserve or perhaps I am destined to be with someone else.. I just know in my heart right now he is the one and I want, just need to be strong and not reach out to him. I truly appreciate you taking the time to read my posts and give advice
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