Thequeenliz, I urge you to look into Neville; the number one 'rule', if you like, is to forget 'reality.'

Whilst you're focused on what's in front of your physical senses, you won't change the situation.

You can literally move mountains if you BELIEVE you can. Two months is no time at all. One of my targets hasn't spoke to me in over a year – he's the hardest nut to crack. Because I think he is. ;)

It's coming from me. Your situation is coming from you. I DO NOT look into the tough nut's life. ANYMORE (used to; obsessively. Look where it got me). I now create it in my head, as I want it to be (plus I've got other targets!).

You can't give up at the first hurdle. This is like a ripple of old thought patterns; change your beliefs, and thus your reality will too, change.

You believe in these obstacles, so they are currently solid. READ NEVILLE!

Stay – it's too soon to give up! Don't make any effort to contact him and ignore what appears to be going on: it's crucial. X x x

thaqueenliz wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

Did you leave information out of this?

I know several military men. They all go out sometimes, even when aboard. I'm just confused on how you were able to conclude that he had been lying about being on missing and had been free each minute.

If you are frustrated, by all means take a break. You should feel good about these techniques, not feel like its a job.

i dont know if i left anything out! I just summarized. i know military men (other pilots) and am a military vet myself.

basically, a few weeks ago I was at the bar we met at (it's literally a three minute walk from his place) I texted him and said he should come out for ten minutes and say hi. He said he can't because he found out he had to fly a rescue mission and had a lot to prepare before leaving at 5am. But was all "I'll be back soon!" So I trusted and took it as truth and gave him space. I told him I'd touch base in a week or so. Which I did, no answer, then again no answer, I texted him an update (I told him in person I would do so). So it's not like I've been blowing him up. It's like *picture of my new car I told him about* then a week later a phone call, then a week later phone call and just an innocent voicemail.  then tonight a few hours after my call was ignored is when I accidentally called from my other number. Not knowing it was me He answered immediately party noises in the background. I think he recognized my voice more than I recognized his because I tried calling back to ask who I'd called by accident and was then sent to voicemail. Aka he's guilty. then it hit me how google voice works and it was him. (Sorry if this sounds confusing). So the message is pretty loud and clear. not even sure if I'd want to use spiritual energy trying to attract someone who plays games like this anyways :/

If you didn't leave anything out, how do you know he had lied?

You said that after you PW, BW and or visualize, the immediate feeling you have is that it didn't work due to lack of evidence. I'm sorry but that isn't what you're supposed to do. You should know that it works and get busy living.

Also, you pointed out that you weren't blowing his phone up. Again, I'm sorry but from what I read you were calling him a lot while not getting replies. Even though you used a second number by mistake, it is a common big no no to do that or have a friend use their number to call. When we are the chasers, it could push the guy a way.

It is evidence on this forum alone that PW , BW and the spell connects you to your target. Your calling could have pushed him away, or scared him.

If you feel discouraged and are overly upset, by all means take a break.

I didn't tell you all this to make you feel bad but to give you areas to change when you decide to start back.

Lj wrote:

thaqueenliz wrote:

You all have been so supportive and helpful I appreciate this board and Lanie and her books/meditations. 

I met an amazing man in January who matched my soulmate list to a T. I was immediately smitten. Only to find out that he's unavailable. He's a military pilot and so extremely busy. I've only seen him twice in two months, barely texts, talked on the phone twice. I tried to be patient and open, did the techniques, made the dream board, everything. He's thanked me for being patient with him plenty of times. My psychic has even told me to be patient, that he's slow to open up etc etc. But I've finally faced the fact that I need to move on. Clearly his career is very demanding and takes up the bulk of his time and attention, leaving me in a constant state of confusion and insecurity. These past two months I feel as if I've disillusioned myself. Imagining and visualizing this relationship I want with him, doing the techniques and imagining him saying all these wonderful things, then reality would hit when I'd wake up to no text, no phone call, silence. 

We had a date planned that he sounded so excited for, expressing sadness that we had to wait so long. The week of he cancelled--having seen my texted attempt to confirm days before as well as my missed call but not letting me know till I called again a few days later--because he had to work over the weekend, although I'm now wondering why him working Saturday would prevent him from at least a one hour dinner date or something simple such as that.

He ended up going on a mission the following week and I haven't heard from him since despite a few attempts to contact him, my final one being today.

Reality has finally settled in that things with him will just not work out no matter how much I visualize, script, charge water, see psychics, PW or BWD technique (verb form lol). I've been obsessed. And even if it is working behind the scenes, I'm embarrassed to put so much spiritual effort into a man that can't even text me a good morning because he's so consumed with work and his career.

I cry as I type this because of course I'm disappointed. Years of dating shitty men, being heartbroken over and over again yet remaining vulnerable and I thought I'd finally found someone and had it figured out, I thought all signs had pointed to him. I thought he was the one. But I have no more effort left in me to live like this week by week waiting for him to contact me, every night visualizing my ideal relationship, doing PW on him morning and night. I'm tired. (of course I'm doing things like class and seeing friends and my own projects but face it, they're still ever present in the backs of our minds). 

So unfortunately this is my final day on these boards. I wish you all luck in your journeys! Please keep up your positive spirits and don't allow my failure to deter you from following your hearts! 

I don't know how or if you can post a picture here.
But I'll describe instead then 😉
I saw this picture one day on my IG.

It was of a man pushing on a wall and the text said "the moment when you want to quit, is the moment when you need to keep pushing".

I know it's hard and I totally know what you're thinking and feeling.
We all run into these obstacles and feel like it's impossible to overcome.
I haven't heard from my poi in 4 months and she's with someone new. Only a month after we broke up.
But I believe that things will change. Coz it's what I want and desire.

"Just because it's not happening right now, doesn't mean it never will"

It's totally up to you if you wanna give up.
I understand if that's how you feel.
But maybe you were meant to call the "wrong" person and get in contact with him?
Maybe he was just out with his mates, because they had a break?
Maybe it was nothing big.  Everybody is entitled to spend their free time as they want. Don't let that bring you down.
Focus on being happy. Smile when you think about him.  Not on what he's doing and who he's doing it with. Keep your energy high and spread your love to him.
Meditate and take long walks. It clears your head.
Don't see this as a failure. It's not over yet 😊👌

You're right when you said everyone's entitled to spend their free time how they want. I didn't think of that. Didn't expect to take up his free time though. Just that he'd give me a call when he came back. Who knows how long he's been back screening my calls and texts  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. This is very helpful though. I'm not at a stage of smiling when I think about him, I feel very betrayed, but I will be working on rebuilding my energy and perhaps attracting someone better.

Avaelle wrote:

thaqueenliz wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

If you didn't leave anything out, how do you know he had lied?

You said that after you PW, BW and or visualize, the immediate feeling you have is that it didn't work due to lack of evidence. I'm sorry but that isn't what you're supposed to do. You should know that it works and get busy living.

Also, you pointed out that you weren't blowing his phone up. Again, I'm sorry but from what I read you were calling him a lot while not getting replies. Even though you used a second number by mistake, it is a common big no no to do that or have a friend use their number to call. When we are the chasers, it could push the guy a way.

It is evidence on this forum alone that PW , BW and the spell connects you to your target. Your calling could have pushed him away, or scared him.

If you feel discouraged and are overly upset, by all means take a break.

I didn't tell you all this to make you feel bad but to give you areas to change when you decide to start back.

I only called him maybe twice or three times in a 3 week period with maybe one text in between. That's hardly blowing anyone up to the extent I have seen or have had my phone blown up by someone interested in me. And I think him being scared because I followed through and called like I said I would is a little pathetic. But it's not like he'll have to worry about that after the way he made me feel last night lol. And I didn't call him from my other number in purpose. I was testing it on a friend and the app is really fritzy so I called him from it by accident and was like "who is this man answering?!" Didn't realize til I hung up that it had been him.

My general rule of thumb is that if I ask a person a reasonable question and they don't answer me, I don't contact them anymore. In my eyes, asking someone to confirm a date is a reasonable question. It looks like you called him several times afterwards.

Then when he left, you called several times. You have to keep in mind that PW and BW is contacting him too. It is not that he is being pathetic but he is taking steps back. PW and all creates a subconscious connection, they can feel any urgency or eagerness which many men aren't attracted to. I'm sure he thought that second number thing was on purpose

Again, I'm not trying to mirror things back to you and have you feel bad but showing you things that have been known to push things away. Falling back could be a good thing, just the thing that makes him come to you if you keep your mind open to it

haha no there's just a lot of missing pieces I didn't explain because I didn't want the post to get too long. I can message you about the actual timeline and details if you want! But he was definitely a delicate situation I'd guess but I still can't take all the blame. Had he simply informed me he was back I would've had clarity. Because when we first met we ended up going on a trip and I actually contacted him a bit and when I finally got a hold he apologized profusely and explained that his trip lasted longer and he had no signal so he didn't get my texts or calls but he'd brought me back a gift and thanked me for my patience. i assumed the same thing had happened and acted the same as I did before.

But truth of the matter is I'm just really not interested in someone who takes two to three weeks to contact me, who I see once a month whether it's due to work or just a lack of interest. Honestly typically I end up ghosting these types but he'd woo me so much in person I'd fooled myself into thinking he'd be worth all this effort. And definitely I'm not into someone who shies away from an innocent phone call lol. I do appreciate the positive words but I'll be quitting PW. Maybe I'll meet someone who more aligns with my needs to practice it on lol.

Avaelle wrote:

I do understand that some people don't get calls etc when they are out of the country. However, even if you thought that could be the case - why would you still contact him quite a bit? That would put him in the position of a flood of texts and notifications coming through once his signal was good.

It's obvious that you've focused so much on timing. You should be too busy to notice such things.

you don't really know what happened and you're making it sound like I flooded him with desperate texts and calls daily. I'm not quite sure your point in trying to guilt me in a situation you know nothing about but I'm disregarding your comments. I appreciate everyone else's positive comments however. Thank you all!