KellyKelly,

The day after I started PW and BWD on my POI who I was seeing he immediately stopped texting me.  I still haven't heard from him! No rhyme or reason for it because we spent Valentine's Day together the week before.  I must assume that it is because of PE and BWD.

There are numerous accounts of people on here who have had a similar thing happen.  The reason I think some of us experience the opposite is that these POIs are sometimes unavailable emotionally or just downright terrified.  So yes they may be feeling all of those lovey feelings and emotions you visualized them having but they freakkkkkkk out.  They can't process it and the feelings seem to come out of nowhere.  For a habitually emotionalky unavailable  person this is going to send them into a spiral.  I suspect that most of us wouldn't be doing these techniques on a partner who was giving us an amazing relationship 100% of the time.  As a result the stories seem to be consistent.

I wouldn't see them not contacting you as a negative thing.  Time and again it sappears to lend more evidence to the fact that it is working and they may be overwhelmed.

I think some POIs fight harder due To their own fears about intimacy.  You may want to dig deep and try to figure it the reason for their inability to give you what you need and want in the first place and renorulate your visualizations to have then actively working on those problems and acknowledge them.  That seems to have helped in my case. At least in giving me positive definitive signs that my messages are getting through .

so what should we do when POIs retreat and become more hostile than before? continue or stop PW? most say to get results, we must keep positive happy vibes, have fun, at all moments and not set any expectations from the PW/BWD.

each session of my PW/BWD becomes increasingly more challenging (compared to when i first started) because the 'reality' is not positive at all, yet i have to visualise that the PW/BWD process is 'real' and working, and that i am not kidding myself.

​i am beginning to feel quite despondent and any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Avaelle wrote:

Take a few breaths and relax.  All of this is a fun experience!  My advice is that you shouldn't give yourself the time to even think about the current reality.

This ^^^ is the best advice that you could get. She is 100% right. That is exactly what helps me with manifesting. You want to stay busy doing things that make you happy, which serves a dual purpose : keeping your mind off of the current reality and keeping your vibration high, which = faster manifesting. It's a win - win

unicornsnrainbows wrote:

Aliceinwonderland wrote:

KellyKelly,

The day after I started PW and BWD on my POI who I was seeing he immediately stopped texting me. I still haven't heard from him! No rhyme or reason for it because we spent Valentine's Day together the week before. I must assume that it is because of PE and BWD.

There are numerous accounts of people on here who have had a similar thing happen. The reason I think some of us experience the opposite is that these POIs are sometimes unavailable emotionally or just downright terrified. So yes they may be feeling all of those lovey feelings and emotions you visualized them having but they freakkkkkkk out. They can't process it and the feelings seem to come out of nowhere. For a habitually emotionalky unavailable person this is going to send them into a spiral. I suspect that most of us wouldn't be doing these techniques on a partner who was giving us an amazing relationship 100% of the time. As a result the stories seem to be consistent.

I wouldn't see them not contacting you as a negative thing. Time and again it sappears to lend more evidence to the fact that it is working and they may be overwhelmed.

I think some POIs fight harder due To their own fears about intimacy. You may want to dig deep and try to figure it the reason for their inability to give you what you need and want in the first place and renorulate your visualizations to have then actively working on those problems and acknowledge them. That seems to have helped in my case. At least in giving me positive definitive signs that my messages are getting through .

This is exactly what I'm trying to figure out now.  I have received confirmation from my POI, who has emotional availability issues, that he loves me and misses me and thinks about me all of the time, but he is terrified that we will just keep repeating history and end up in hell again.  At this point, he is not willing to give us another try, and can't even consider trying to just get together casually.  So I'm trying to find a way to tweak my visualizations that will let down his guard a bit, and give him a sense that there is hope for us.  So far, none of my apologies or taking accountability for my part in our past problems or my optimism about creating a new and better future have really gone over with him.  I'm at a total loss.  But I do think Aliceinwonderland is right about why our POIs retreat even further when we start implementing this stuff.
 

I had a similar issue with an emotionally unavailable ex.  We finally broke up because he refused to try again in FEAR of reliving the same problems.  The root of this fear can stem from many things but one is that many emotionally unavailable men don't realize they are unavailable and are therefore unwilling to change, instead it sometimes is easier to just start fresh with a new person , that way they can remain their same old unavailable selves and don't have to really do any internal difficult work on themselves.  If your POI is like these guys, chances are this may be a major reason.

Also look into his family background and those relationships, from there and his reluctance to chance you'll probably be be able to see more reasons for his refusal to be with you and from here work on a new plan of attach so to speak.