Ok so I don't know if this should be in success stories or not.  I'd call it more if a definitive sign that PW and BWD work.

In my PE sessions which I've done daily with a couple days off for a month and a half, I started off just envisioning my POI saying how much he loved me.  However I slowly realized that with his commitment issues and fear of intimacy being so strong I may not hear this for a very very long time and it would more than likely scare him, which it did..  Instead I took a different approach which was mentioned in the "inception" thread where I identified his deep issue and his motivation behind why he was reluctant in the first place and played on it.  So I started by having him admit (in my visualizations) the deep rooted issue preventing him from truly connecting with me and why he is so scared to take things to the next level and also how he is working towards changing the problem and working trough his issues and that soon he is coming to me and will admit all of it.

Anyway the point is ive been sticking with this visualization in PW and releasing him in unconditional love.   After a couple weeks of this new visualization he posted on social media how the demise of his relationships are his fault.  The post was supposed to be funny but it was written VERBATIM as to what I envisioned him sayjng to me about him messing up his relationships due to feeling scared and isolating himself but wanting them so badly. It was exactly what I had envisioned him saying to me over and over again.  Now to admit this on social media is kind of a big deal since he primarily uses his fb and instagram for his job.  Why on earth would he even post this? I'll tell you why,  because PW and BWD work. 

Ive mostly detached from the outcome wth him because coincidentally I'm seeing someone else....and of course as it has been stated on thes boards time and again once I did detach the signs all started popping up that it has hit him. We'll see what will happen when he finally comes back and whether or not I even want him anymore.

My point is this: stick with PW and BWD. Even if you aren't seeing definitive signs.  Some people - especially the ones who have issues with emotional unavailability or some deep issues regarding intimacy, or people who value their outward persona and how they look to others , or just straight up cowardly people who are terrified of being rejected if they reach out after months of no contact may put up a pretty good fight.  But you should know that the messages are getting through. And they can't fight it forever.

Last edited by Aliceinwonderland (3/27/2017 8:48 am)