kdra26 wrote:

So I've posted my story here before. My ex and I have been hanging out a lot and sleeping together. He asked me today if he feels I'm taking advantage of me by sleeping with me and if I'm okay with what we're doing. I told him right now yes I'm okay with it but can't be a friend with benefits forever. And I asked him if there's any other meaning to us being intimate. He told me he spends time with me and sleeps with me because he still really likes me, cares for me, thinks I'm sexy and attractive but the feelings haven't changed since the last time we have talked about this (he officially ended it with me back in February and he told me that he just wasn't IN love with me anymore and when I asked if there's a chance that could change he flat out said no) but he doesn't plan on being with anyone else and just wants to focus on himself.
So of course all of this bummed me out and has gotten me very emotional. But after all of that he was throwing out the compliments. "You looked so nice last night" "you looked really pretty today" "every time I see you I still get so turned on" (lol at least I've still got it?

Gah this was more of a vent. I'm trying to stay positive and I'm going to continue PW. Does anybody have any words of wisdom? Or just send me some good vibes over here lol

I can relate to you a bit and would just like to say that since you want more out of it, you shouldnt settle..Carry on PW and see if he can turn around and be with you exclusively. Or else you might end up hurting a lot..Atleast I did

kdra26 wrote:

I really don't want to date other people AND I don't want to settle.
I told him I'm okay with doing what we're doing right now but this can't be forever. And to be completely honest, I can definitely feel like things are changing romantically. Things have become so normal between us (obviously minus most of the typical relationship bits like I love yous and random kisses, hand holding etc.) but he's been warming up to me, getting a bit flirt, and just how he used to be when we were together. And he wasn't like that after we originally broke up back November. We were still hanging out after but he was definitely colder then.
i spent 4 days at his house a few weeks ago cause he wanted me to come and take care of him while sick. While he was sleeping, he would turn over and cuddle with me and then hold my hand and be very sweet but of course would deny t when I told him about it. I honestly think he's just really hiding his true feelings.
His mom and sister while we were at his house were both like "are you guys sure you're not back together because it sure seems like it" lol

Haha that's sweet...it's great that he is opening up, gives me a little faith ..may your situation turn out the way you want!

I've always felt like confidence can change any situation.

kdra26 wrote:

Yes, I'm trying to be confident around him. I think also because i'm more easy going around him now and not so tense and TOO worried like "oh gosh whats gonna happen?!" I think that's also why he's warming up a bit more. 

I don't know. I don't necessarily believe him when he says he's still not feeling anything. Because like I said, he's showing it more. 

I follow another coaches teaching while I do these practices too.  She talks a lot about leaning back and letting the man lead.  It's been helpful to me as well.