Yes I agree . So glad you didn't respond because that's exactly what he wants ! Probably hoping you would "beg " and plead with him. If you do decide to respond, show that it doesn't bother you or that you didn't even notice the "unfriending" lol  Also, very glad you aren't letting this upset you ! If he's doing all of this (paying attention to when you're online, & taking screenshots) then everything you're doing is clearly working.

Even though he is being a bit immature lol no offense...

Golden wrote:

Yes I agree . So glad you didn't respond because that's exactly what he wants ! Probably hoping you would "beg " and plead with him. If you do decide to respond, show that it doesn't bother you or that you didn't even notice the "unfriending" lol Also, very glad you aren't letting this upset you ! If he's doing all of this (paying attention to when you're online, & taking screenshots) then everything you're doing is clearly working.

Even though he is being a bit immature lol no offense...

Lol. Yes I'll just pretend I didn't notice! 

Well I could get upset about it...but on the other hand, he seems to be thinking about me a hell of a lot and doing all kinds of desperate things. So after the initial shock of it all...I feel that I have now turned the tables on him and that I'm the one in control here. 
 

BettyBlue wrote:

Hi again everyone,

So I made a thread recently that this guy I had been doing the love spell on was sending me love songs (after we had fought and broken contact). Also he began initiating contact again but was terribly cold.

Well yesterday he sent me another bunch of love song videos, and he had translated them all for me (they were all in his language) they were basically all "I never felt true love until I met you" "you are my whole life" and "I can't live without you" - all that kind of thing. All very very romantic and I responded sweetly to them (I thought). We talked but he avoided any loving words and was still very hard and cold. I felt confused. The songs were saying all this incredible stuff but he was not backing down on his cold hard act at all. I tried to entice him a little bit into being warmer but he just wouldn't budge. He just kept on sending me more intensely romantic songwords. I began to feel overwhelmed by what was happening and I told him that I felt shy and that he was making me blush. He apologised but I said  "no no I like the feeling". He told me then that if I felt hot I should go to find someone to have sex with. That annoyed me but I just finally said I was going and that was that.

This morning I found he had left me the theme music video of Titanic with the subtitles. Well everyone knows that one. I don't need to go into that. I thanked him and told him he had so got into my heart. Then there was still another romantic one in his language but again apart from the words he was so formal to me. 

Finally I had to go. I told him I was going and I said that he was so special to me. He suddenly said "Don't make me special. I don't wanna be special. Got it?" I said "ok sure. So take care" (being dry).

Well this afternoon I came online and found he had unfriended me. He had left a final message saying "Don't lie to me. Don't pretend different if you don't wanna talk. Ok I'm gonna unfriend you. Bye"

I messaged him saying I didn't know what I had done or why he was angry and that if I hadn't been communicative it was because I felt shy of him. Etc etc. He immediately sent me a friend request. I asked him what i had done to upset him but he said "nothing. It's ok" But he said "From now on we are friends only. Nothing more". He asked me briefly about general stuff, gave me a bit of general advice, and that was it. 

Uh..I don't get it at all. Why the Hell is he behaving like this? 

My routine is Love spell, and pw mixed with BWD, but I do slightly longer sessions of around a half hour, twice daily. But I'm feeling that things are getting out of control.

 

I hate to say it but he sounds a little over-the-top dramatic! I hope this doesn't turn out to be "be careful what you wish for". Just keep your eyes open and if the weird behavior continues I would reconsider the relationship. Remember, we have created something in our mind that may not fit into reality. I'm not talking about the technique itself, but just people in general. We have a vision of how a person is based on our limited knowledge of them. I don't want to dampen your spirit about the relationship but I do want you to recognize warning signs.

Lanie Stevens wrote:

BettyBlue wrote:

Hi again everyone,

So I made a thread recently that this guy I had been doing the love spell on was sending me love songs (after we had fought and broken contact). Also he began initiating contact again but was terribly cold.

Well yesterday he sent me another bunch of love song videos, and he had translated them all for me (they were all in his language) they were basically all "I never felt true love until I met you" "you are my whole life" and "I can't live without you" - all that kind of thing. All very very romantic and I responded sweetly to them (I thought). We talked but he avoided any loving words and was still very hard and cold. I felt confused. The songs were saying all this incredible stuff but he was not backing down on his cold hard act at all. I tried to entice him a little bit into being warmer but he just wouldn't budge. He just kept on sending me more intensely romantic songwords. I began to feel overwhelmed by what was happening and I told him that I felt shy and that he was making me blush. He apologised but I said  "no no I like the feeling". He told me then that if I felt hot I should go to find someone to have sex with. That annoyed me but I just finally said I was going and that was that.

This morning I found he had left me the theme music video of Titanic with the subtitles. Well everyone knows that one. I don't need to go into that. I thanked him and told him he had so got into my heart. Then there was still another romantic one in his language but again apart from the words he was so formal to me. 

Finally I had to go. I told him I was going and I said that he was so special to me. He suddenly said "Don't make me special. I don't wanna be special. Got it?" I said "ok sure. So take care" (being dry).

Well this afternoon I came online and found he had unfriended me. He had left a final message saying "Don't lie to me. Don't pretend different if you don't wanna talk. Ok I'm gonna unfriend you. Bye"

I messaged him saying I didn't know what I had done or why he was angry and that if I hadn't been communicative it was because I felt shy of him. Etc etc. He immediately sent me a friend request. I asked him what i had done to upset him but he said "nothing. It's ok" But he said "From now on we are friends only. Nothing more". He asked me briefly about general stuff, gave me a bit of general advice, and that was it. 

Uh..I don't get it at all. Why the Hell is he behaving like this? 

My routine is Love spell, and pw mixed with BWD, but I do slightly longer sessions of around a half hour, twice daily. But I'm feeling that things are getting out of control.

 

I hate to say it but he sounds a little over-the-top dramatic! I hope this doesn't turn out to be "be careful what you wish for". Just keep your eyes open and if the weird behavior continues I would reconsider the relationship. Remember, we have created something in our mind that may not fit into reality. I'm not talking about the technique itself, but just people in general. We have a vision of how a person is based on our limited knowledge of them. I don't want to dampen your spirit about the relationship but I do want you to recognize warning signs.

Thanks, Lanie. 
Yeah, lol, he is a little over dramatic and wants my attention a lot. As it is he has "unfriended" me on facebook and right now we are not speaking. I certainly won't be contacting him. So let's see what happens.
 

jellyb wrote:

I actually have a question about that, Lanie--in PW and other techniques we try to influence the guys to behave in a certain way, but you explain here that we may be trying to create something that doesn't fit with reality. Should we not be trying to work on them altering their behavior through PW then? I think I'm confused!

Honestly I would say if you're not happy with someone's personality or basic characteristics then they are not the person for you. The technique is not about changing their personality.

The technique works to get them to love you, desire you, put you first… But not to change their personality. If they are doing things to hurt you, that they have control over, it can certainly change that. So the behavior I'm talking about changing, in my books, is how they treat you. How to get them to make you a priority.