unicornsnrainbows wrote:

I understand what you're going through, as I'm in a similar position.  My only advice is to keep up your practice, live from the end, and find ways to love and adore your life whether or not you ever see him again.  Flow as much love to yourself as you do to him.   And when you think of him, imagine his heart opening up like a floodgate, and a gushing river of love flowing from his heart straight to you.  Put yourself on the pedestal.  Tell yourself that he is crazy about you over and over.  Stop worrying about what you did or didn't do wrong.  If you were loving and friendly to him, that's never wrong.  He's the one with the problem.  So, create an updated version of him without the problem, a version who just can't get enough of you, a version that you almost have to tell to cool down a bit and give you some space to breathe!

Thank you so much for your reply, it's immensely helpful. It's so funny when you know all this, have put it into practice but then slide back down the ladder, forget all of this and feel stuck. I needed your reminder.

Thank you x

Jen wrote:

We're human and it's reasonable to make a plan and be going well with it only to be faced with a road bump or two along the way.

But that's all it is... A road bump.

So pick yourself back up, dust yourself off and get back to that plan of yours where all the magic is created.

Thank you so much you've raised my spirits today. Unfortunately all my friends saw me very upset and dramatic about it all, and now are being negative about the whole situation which of course is bringing me down.

Which is why I posted here as I knew you ladies would have some positivity and more importantly understand me.

It's difficult but I will have to distance myself a little from my friends too, to prove I'm not crazy... (even though I am sometimes lol) and to create better versions of them too.

It's my birthday next week too... the big 30.. so that might be influencing me a little too.

Lots of love
Xxx

Noeshe wrote:

rosetinted wrote:

It's my birthday next week too... the big 30.. so that might be influencing me a little too.

 
Don't worry about that, I am turning a big 43 next tuesday and I am still alive 😄
Just think of it as your personal new years day, the start of a wonderful new decade with lots of love ❤

And please do not let your friends get you down, if they think you are crazy it is just because they have not found the key to life yet, and you have.

Haha that's a lovely way to look at it thank you x

Jen wrote:

Don't distance yourself from your friends.

Just keep this area of your life to yourself.

All of my friends know everything of what I've been through but I share very little about how things are going with my guy and haven't told any one of them about the techniques I'm using.

🙊

Yeah, you're very right, I think I need to utilise this forum more for talking with like minded people about this stuff. They just see me sad and get frustrated (which is why I usually manage to hide those down days) I'm definitely going to be more secretive about how I'm feeling. I think they just want me to move on, I'm not deliberately not doing that, I'm just a lone wolf kind of girl anyway! Always have been 🐺