Justine wrote:

Hi ladies

Just a quick message of support. Continue doing what you do.

About 2 months ago I was seeing a guy and he started being really manipulative and mean. Then all of a sudden he ghosted me. It really hurt me. My self confidence hit a wall. I thought I wasn't worthy or good enough.

Whenever I was thinking of him I was either sad or really angry.

I tried to manifest an apology from him. But it didn't make me feel better. So I started doing self love meditations and self love affirmations Daily.

I did the PWM and the whisper technique a few times on him. Not too much though I wanted to keep my energy for creating a new relationship with someone worth my love and worth my time. Although I felt that as long as I couldn't send him unconditional love and forgive him for real I couldnt move on. I had still a lot of "anger"

Last night I had a little bit of wine (oops) and texted him for the first time in two months saying that he crossed my mind and that I hope everything was fine with his house (he had lots of problems at the time).

He answered a long message, we started chatting. And during the conversation he told me everything I visualized. After I was a little harsh with him telling him that I thought he acted like an ass and that I was still really mad at him and ghosting someone was a terrible thing to do... He said he was really sorry. That he really likes me. That he was an asshole. That I deserved the best, that he wanted to make it up to me. Wanted to see me.

I did give him a hard time last night saying everything I had on my heart but he said himself he deserved it :D he even told me he would text me hundred of times just so I could vent  until I forgive him 100% so he can ask me out...

the key is self love my friends. Love yourself unconditionally. You are worthy. You are beautiful. You are loved. Repeat it to yourself hundred of times everyday. And don't let anyone be mean to you or take advantage of you.

I learned my lesson at the time. And now I feel free and can finally move on and let go

Hey thank you so much for this. I am in the same situation & do PW whenever I feel a little better so that I dont do it out of anger. However, I had also texted my poi (my mistake) just to break the ice since it has been 4 months of NC but he did not reply. I was hurt a little but didnt let it bother me too much. Can you give any advice what to do now?

Justine wrote:

At first I didnt want to text him. I strongly believe in NC and I also think not having to contact the other person and knowing they will do so just increase your faith. I did it because I didn't care.

Maybe because i put myself first and don't try to manifest a relationship with this guy things are different? I texted him for me. Let me explain...if he wouldn't have answered it would've been the missing element for me to let go and it would've confirmed that he was an ass.
In the end what I wanted was the opportunity to tell him how I feel to free myself cause I never had the chance to do so. Telling him he should never treat anyone the way he did. That I never deserved to be ignored.

The fact that he was almost  on his knees willing to take the blame and asking for forgiveness is probably also a reflection of the self confidence I built up during the last few weeks. When I was insecure he was totally ignoring me or was giving me the cold shoulder.

I would suggest ho'oponopono, self love, and unconditional love to really forgive and free yourself.
Ask the universe for help in order to forgive the person. Imagine a bright light around them and imagine them vanishing and being taken care of by the universe.
Don't forget that other people are often a projection of what you are. Try to think only good things about them. Transform the things you don't like by things you would like. You want him to be nicer? Repeat yourself that you're really happy he is such a nice person.
You want him to show you his love? Imagine him being this loving person.

When you are filled with love you are a magnet for everything. Do the test. Just try to radiate love and look at the number of strangers who are going to randomly  say hi or smile at you during the day .

Thank you