carly100 wrote:

I've just started using the "secret technique" on my POI for about a week now a couple times a day, and no results so far. I know you have to be patient. 
But I'm confused. The method is stated to work every time? But if that's the case why are there many who lack results? That means it doesn't work every time surely. 
She then goes on to say that you can't do it wrong, but then shortly after states that you have to believe. 
So in a sense that means you can do it wrong,(if you don't believe) and it doesn't work every time, because if it did, everyone would have results surely. 
I have faith that the method will/can work, but I suppose I'm a little bit sceptical, maybe because I'm too attatched to the outcome. Sorry for coming accross as negative, maybe just need some reassurance 

This has been talked about a lot here. I would definitely suggest going through the threads and reading all that you can. There are also some awesome resources here, as well.

But, I'll say this - if you expecting results in a couple days, your expectations are a bit too high. It does work every time, but you may not see it physically; it's working in the background. You also have to believe it's working or else it won't. So, questioning it is not helping you get results. Keep at it and live you life as normal.

carly100 wrote:

I understand what your saying and will try not to question it. But I thought the whole point in the technique was that you could change their thoughts by what you imagine them saying to you etc. Like for example in my visualisation if I hear them saying " i really love you" and " your the only one I want", how could they decide not to reach out? 
Again I'm not trying to be negative and I think It works, it's just I think the book confused me in some regards. 
I'll keep practicing and get on with my life though

You can, but change happens through YOU, if that makes sense. It's a very simple concept, but requires work on our end to accomplish it. Live in a state of having what you want, do the techniques, and then let-go of the outcome, which is a bit contradictory to living as-if, I know, but that's how it works. If you are so focused on him not telling you the things you want him to, doing the work won't matter. If you don't love yourself, it won't matter because then the same issues will come back into the relationship. 

I would take some time to read some Neville and Lanie books. There are also a lot of other books that can help you understand everything better than I cannot possibly explain. If you are in a desperate state of mind (not saying you are, but a lot of people are), you will not attain your desire until you move from that mindset. Perhaps using the technique on someone you interact with often will help - just use it for something simple on your mom, sibling, or best friend. I find that is a great way to build up faith that it works.
 

Piper wrote:

carly100 wrote:

I understand what your saying and will try not to question it. But I thought the whole point in the technique was that you could change their thoughts by what you imagine them saying to you etc. Like for example in my visualisation if I hear them saying " i really love you" and " your the only one I want", how could they decide not to reach out? 
Again I'm not trying to be negative and I think It works, it's just I think the book confused me in some regards. 
I'll keep practicing and get on with my life though

You can, but change happens through YOU, if that makes sense. It's a very simple concept, but requires work on our end to accomplish it. Live in a state of having what you want, do the techniques, and then let-go of the outcome, which is a bit contradictory to living as-if, I know, but that's how it works. If you are so focused on him not telling you the things you want him to, doing the work won't matter. If you don't love yourself, it won't matter because then the same issues will come back into the relationship. 

I would take some time to read some Neville and Lanie books. There are also a lot of other books that can help you understand everything better than I cannot possibly explain. If you are in a desperate state of mind (not saying you are, but a lot of people are), you will not attain your desire until you move from that mindset. Perhaps using the technique on someone you interact with often will help - just use it for something simple on your mom, sibling, or best friend. I find that is a great way to build up faith that it works.
 

Great advice I was writing my comment while you posted this so I'm sorry for basically stating the same thing!😂😂😂
 

Mcleanie77 wrote:

Piper wrote:

carly100 wrote:

I understand what your saying and will try not to question it. But I thought the whole point in the technique was that you could change their thoughts by what you imagine them saying to you etc. Like for example in my visualisation if I hear them saying " i really love you" and " your the only one I want", how could they decide not to reach out? 
Again I'm not trying to be negative and I think It works, it's just I think the book confused me in some regards. 
I'll keep practicing and get on with my life though

You can, but change happens through YOU, if that makes sense. It's a very simple concept, but requires work on our end to accomplish it. Live in a state of having what you want, do the techniques, and then let-go of the outcome, which is a bit contradictory to living as-if, I know, but that's how it works. If you are so focused on him not telling you the things you want him to, doing the work won't matter. If you don't love yourself, it won't matter because then the same issues will come back into the relationship. 

I would take some time to read some Neville and Lanie books. There are also a lot of other books that can help you understand everything better than I cannot possibly explain. If you are in a desperate state of mind (not saying you are, but a lot of people are), you will not attain your desire until you move from that mindset. Perhaps using the technique on someone you interact with often will help - just use it for something simple on your mom, sibling, or best friend. I find that is a great way to build up faith that it works.
 

Great advice I was writing my comment while you posted this so I'm sorry for basically stating the same thing!😂😂😂
 

Lol, I did that earlier....

I think it's important to post even if it's similar to what has already been posted because maybe I or someone else did not explain it well enough for the OP :D