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Hey ladies!
I'm new here, but I used to read the forum from time to time. I just wanted to share my story with you guys. Hope it isn't too long!
So, I first came across LOA/Lanie's techniques a little over a year ago. My POI and I have had a rocky relationship but we can't deny the love is there. Around May last year, we broke up for what seemed like for good. Of course I was hurt, but I came across Lanie's technique and started doing it. I started dating 2 other guys for about 3 weeks (who turned out to be complete losers, but whatever. Free food/dates for 3 straight weeks!) and then my POI came back! We started officially dating again around that September.
Then, March of this year comes around. My POI starts acting like his ol stubborn self. Not giving me the love, attention, and effort that I was giving him. I was drained and unhappy. Finally, I said enough. I wasn't happy and I was tired of faking it. I broke it off and haven't talked to him since. Still, I started missing him shortly after. Even began to feel guilty for breaking it off with him. I started using PW to bring him back. Like I said, I haven't talked to him since, but a few things have happened that let me know he's still *there* if I'm making sense. For example, the stubborn ass won't like/acknowledge my pics or posts on social media, but he'll like OTHER pics/posts my friends make about me.
Just to bring everything together: I've been also struggling looking for a job (I recently moved after graduating). When I get overwhelmed with PW, I do the money meditation and other empowering meditations to focus on me. But, I couldn't shake the loneliness sometimes. I did put a lot of stock in him, so now I'm starting over in a sense. I did the love spell the other night for the first time.
Today is when things got interesting, and it had absolutely NOTHING to do with my POI. I woke up this morning like, "wth? What are YOU doing? You're still putting all of this effort into him, when that's the reason you left him in the first place!" I literally began laughing at myself. I got up and said I'm treating myself today. Went to the spa, got my nails and eyebrows done, got a massage. One of my guy friends called while I was there and wanted to go to lunch. Knowing that I still hadn't found a job, I knew I could pay for lunch, but I knew I shouldn't lol. So, I had a quick thought "he'll pay for my food." Sure enough, when we finished eating, he said, "just tip the waitress, I'll cover the bill." It didn't even hit me until I left, that I had literally asked for him to pay and he did!
Not only that, but soon after we left, I heard back from not one, but TWO jobs that I applied to. I can't tell you guys how thankful I feel.
Moral of this (long) story, work on you as well. I tried fooling myself that I was "detached" but it didn't hit me until this morning just how "attached" I still was. It was bringing me down. Once I realized that and let go, so many other things fell into place at once I almost got overwhelmed. Your desires are waiting, you just have to ask and let go! I don't even know if I feel like continuing the love spell anymore. Still no physical confirmation from him, but please. I'm driving him crazy and I know it because I used to pick up on his connection. Literally, I'll be fine, then I'll be hit with all these emotions like regret, sadness, loneliness, etc. To the point where I would cry. I didn't realize that I could also pick up on his emotions, but when I did, I started protecting myself and my energy.
Much love and peace to you ladies!
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Your post is awesome and it is so similar to the things that I have experienced.
You mentioned knowing that you were driving him crazy because you could feel his emotions, I too, would suddenly feel overwhelm out of no where. Sadness and a complete ache in my heart. At times I wondered if it was me or not but knew that it wasn't. I was so focussed on me and being in my beautiful vibe that I knew it wasn't.
I am back in contact with my POI which has been lovely, I continue with the PW etc. I still feel him at times!
Thanks for sharing, it's a great reminder that this is about us, and feeling good for us first.
Much love. ❤
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Thank you! Yes, it used to drive me crazy. I remember one time, I was getting ready to go out to a concert and have drinks with my friends. I was doing my makeup and had the PW meditation playing in the background, then bam. All of a sudden, I felt sooo sad! I even called my friend and told her I didn't think I could go. She was like "yeah right, too bad, we're outside." Lol! A few times of that happening, it finally hit me what was going on. I thought man, this is really powerful! I almost felt sorry for him because I literally knew how I was making him feel. Much love to you as well!
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Hey ladies!
I'm new here, but I used to read the forum from time to time. I just wanted to share my story with you guys. Hope it isn't too long!
So, I first came across LOA/Lanie's techniques a little over a year ago. My POI and I have had a rocky relationship but we can't deny the love is there. Around May last year, we broke up for what seemed like for good. Of course I was hurt, but I came across Lanie's technique and started doing it. I started dating 2 other guys for about 3 weeks (who turned out to be complete losers, but whatever. Free food/dates for 3 straight weeks!) and then my POI came back! We started officially dating again around that September.
Then, March of this year comes around. My POI starts acting like his ol stubborn self. Not giving me the love, attention, and effort that I was giving him. I was drained and unhappy. Finally, I said enough. I wasn't happy and I was tired of faking it. I broke it off and haven't talked to him since. Still, I started missing him shortly after. Even began to feel guilty for breaking it off with him. I started using PW to bring him back. Like I said, I haven't talked to him since, but a few things have happened that let me know he's still *there* if I'm making sense. For example, the stubborn ass won't like/acknowledge my pics or posts on social media, but he'll like OTHER pics/posts my friends make about me.
Just to bring everything together: I've been also struggling looking for a job (I recently moved after graduating). When I get overwhelmed with PW, I do the money meditation and other empowering meditations to focus on me. But, I couldn't shake the loneliness sometimes. I did put a lot of stock in him, so now I'm starting over in a sense. I did the love spell the other night for the first time.
Today is when things got interesting, and it had absolutely NOTHING to do with my POI. I woke up this morning like, "wth? What are YOU doing? You're still putting all of this effort into him, when that's the reason you left him in the first place!" I literally began laughing at myself. I got up and said I'm treating myself today. Went to the spa, got my nails and eyebrows done, got a massage. One of my guy friends called while I was there and wanted to go to lunch. Knowing that I still hadn't found a job, I knew I could pay for lunch, but I knew I shouldn't lol. So, I had a quick thought "he'll pay for my food." Sure enough, when we finished eating, he said, "just tip the waitress, I'll cover the bill." It didn't even hit me until I left, that I had literally asked for him to pay and he did!
Not only that, but soon after we left, I heard back from not one, but TWO jobs that I applied to. I can't tell you guys how thankful I feel.
Moral of this (long) story, work on you as well. I tried fooling myself that I was "detached" but it didn't hit me until this morning just how "attached" I still was. It was bringing me down. Once I realized that and let go, so many other things fell into place at once I almost got overwhelmed. Your desires are waiting, you just have to ask and let go! I don't even know if I feel like continuing the love spell anymore. Still no physical confirmation from him, but please. I'm driving him crazy and I know it because I used to pick up on his connection. Literally, I'll be fine, then I'll be hit with all these emotions like regret, sadness, loneliness, etc. To the point where I would cry. I didn't realize that I could also pick up on his emotions, but when I did, I started protecting myself and my energy.
Much love and peace to you ladies!
What an awesome post! I am so glad you have moved your attention and focus from him to yourself. In doing so you will find all kinds of wonderful things happening in your life. XO
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Hey! Update time
So, nothing from my POI, but I'm okay with that. I still think about him from time to time in passing, but I haven't done PW on him or focused on him like I used to. I used to try to find signs that he was coming back (seeing his name everywhere, hearing songs we used to like, etc) but I stopped doing that because I was feeling myself becoming obsessed, as if seeing his name meant I would instantly get a text or something. There was one time when three people (my mom, sister, and best friend) had all randomly asked in different conversations at different times of the same day if I'd talked to him. I just figured that meant that we were really connected that day and kept it moving.
On to the good stuff. I can't believe how long I've been underestimating my power. The universe has brought four other guys to my attention. Two of them I've dated briefly before, one has been one of my closest friends since we were kids, and the last guy I haven't talked to since we graduated high school 5 years ago. The two guys I've dated before both have new girlfriends, but you wouldn't know that from how they are around me, lol! Guy #1 came over to my house last week and we ended up having a pretty deep conversation about relationships. Out of nowhere he says "I'm always gonna have feelings for you, okay? Nobody can take that away. I love you. Even though I have another girl right now, I'll always be in love with you." My face almost hit the floor! I just smirked and told him that was sweet. I'm keeping my expectations low but we've been talking every day since then and we even have plans this weekend.
Guy #2, we dated very, very briefly a couple of years ago but we decided to be friends. We used to talk every day. Since he got a new girlfriend about a year ago, we don't talk as much. The last time I talked to him was probably 3 months ago. I randomly thought about him the other day. Just wondering how he was doing. The next day, he called and then FaceTimed me. He was smiling the whole time and kept saying "damn you look good, I've missed talking to you, it's so good to hear your voice." Again, I just played nice and said thanks I'm not expecting too much from him either since we live in two different states now, but who knows?
Guy #3 is my close friend, and I don't want him! I think he just got caught up in my PW crossfire lol. We've been friends since we were like 10 or 11 with no attraction whatsoever. All of a sudden, he calls me every day and wants to hang out/see me. One time, he even made up a story to get me to go out with him alone, saying that some of our other old friends would be there. When I got to the restaurant, it was just him! He paid for my food and everything. I jokingly said, "you know, this doesn't count as a real date if you don't take me to get ice cream afterwards." He said "you're right," and took me to this new ice cream shop! He's my friend and I enjoy his company of course, but I don't see him in that way.
Guy #4 is the guy I graduated high school with, and I've been focusing on him lately. I haven't talked to him in 5 years. He was always goofy and immature in high school so I never paid him much attention. We were good friends though. One day about two years ago, one of my friends showed me a pic of him. I was shocked at how cute he'd gotten! Still, I never contacted him on social media or anything. I just thought about him from time to time. Two weeks ago, my sister and I were in the mall. I was looking at my phone when I could feel someone staring at me. I looked up and it was him! We locked eyes but I looked away. My heart was beating so fast, I couldn't believe it! He was with another friend and they turned to go up the escalator. My sister even commented, "who's that guy staring at you?" I started to kick myself for not saying anything, but I know another opportunity will present itself soon.
Other that than, I'm feeling good! My money situation is so much better, I have more friends (reconnecting with old ones and making new ones), and I'm getting ready to start my first year of med school. Now I'm patiently waiting for my love life to come together as well