I had been trying to attract the guy I thought I loved back to me. He came back but he went back to his old ways of only flirting and txting when he was horny all of which I brushed off anx told him I wasn't feeling it. We haven't spoken in a few months and I honestly don't feel a loss or anything. Well last month a good friend of mine texted me and started flirting with me. He's so handsome and like a best friend to me. When we worked together I had such a blast and I was attracted to him however he's married. I found out from him and other ppl that him and his wife are separated. I didn't entertain the flirting and I told him that was a line I couldn't cross no matter what because even though they're separated, they're still technically married. Since that night I can't stop thinking about him or the situation. I evaluated our friendship and it turns out hes almost the perfect guy I've always wanted....but he's still technically married with children and he lives in my old town and I live 2 hrs away.

I'm so sad and upset. The guy who I can see myself with is married and has children. I don't understand why this happens to me or what the universe was trying to prove by sending that convo my way but its created nothing but confusion and hurt for me. I will never cross that line because I respect the values of marriage so that will never go anywhere but now I can't stop thinking of that convo and him.