padme911 wrote:

My POI has an ex that started talking to him and he still has strong feelings for her.  They live in different states and are just talking he says but she has confused his feelings.  He said that he knows she is probably using him as she dumped him and just divorced an abusive man and says that she doesn't want a relationship but likes talking to him in that way.  She told him she still has feelings for him but neither wants a long distance relationship and neither is trying to visit the other. I  having trouble searching the forums but I don't recall there is a way to make someone go away.

Search YouTube for Agnes Vivarelli rubbing out technique. Then stop thinking about her. If you refuse to acknowledge her, she won't exist in your world. Easy as that.

forgetmenot111 wrote:

Ratpack.. I started doing the rubbing out technique the other day. I try to do 2-3 times a day. I try so hard to avoid looking at her Facebook though. What can I do to block her out of my mind? Also, have you used this technique & if so, have you had any success with it?

My overanalyzing brain cannot seem to wrap my head around these simple techniques. They seem too good to be true! I feel like in order for them to work they need to be more difficult or time consuming.

Stop looking at her Facebook. Block her if you must. That's only making it worse. If you need to deactivate your Facebook account for a month, do it. You also don't need to rub out several times a day. That obsessive and counterproductive. You're thinking about her entirely too much. Techniques absolutely do NOT need to be time consuming. Again, counterproductive. You should be doing self-love exercises 70-80% of the time and worrying about manifesting (a person, job, money, whatever) only 20-30% of the time. Whenever you think of her or get the urge to check her Facebook, start telling yourself "I love you. You're a wonderful person. You are so valuable".  Repeat it until you're not worried about her anymore.

No technique will work if you're in a bad emotional state, whether it's obsession, resentment, or anger. I would suggest cutting out all forms of social media and going on a self-love kick. Meditate as often as you can (in the morning and at night bare minimum) and listening to affirmations and Louise Hay on YouTube. Fill your mind with you. That's how you manifest. It's not complicated. It's easy, actually. You just need to be in a good place emotionally.

Personally, I've had a lot of success with many techniques. I dont use the rubbing technique often, but I've had luck with it. Moreso, I have success with my own variations of PW. Not only with romantic interests, but other people in general. To be clear, there isn't a right or wrong way to do any technique. You just have to have confidence in it and yourself. If you feel it's too hard or not hard enough, you're lacking confidence.

My frustration is that I didn't know he was talking to her until I visited him.  So I wasn't focused on her at all but now I am know about her and it is frustrating.  I didn't realize that she was an ex of his either but now she is on my radar.

That makes so much sense! I have to tell you, last night was the first night I slept the entire night without waking up in a panic. I didn't stress after my quick PW session. I felt happy and went to sleep.  It's like your advice caused me to have an epiphany.

This morning I feel very calm and happy. I'm not even stressing about doing a session this morning. I think I finally get it. I thought these past few days that more is better, but you make so much sense. It is showing attachment and a state of lacking. I think it also was much more stressful too. Now I'll stick to one little one daily and get on with my life.

I'm no longer worrying about the other girl in the picture. I'll do a rubbing out once in a while, but I need to stop stressing. I think that's blocking me from manifesting and even bringing her more into the picture.

Thank you for all your kind words. You didn't have to answer, and yet you went above and beyond for a stranger. You've definitely calmed my restless soul.

Here's hoping this sticks and I can practice what I'm preaching right now!

forgetmenot111 wrote:

Okay, so question. I'm sure this has been answered before, but I have to ask. I know this doesn't make much sense, but if I'm not "obsessing" or thinking about my POI as often, will the universe think I've changed my mind about wanting to manifest him back? I mean I'll still do the different techniques daily or whenever I see fit, but I just worry that my being content will give mixed signals to the universe.

Thoughts/ comments appreciated!!

xx

Let me tell you about my bed sheets. I've had the same bedsheets for five years. They were deep red microfiber, the elastic was worn to nonexistence, and they had random stains from god knows what. Kids, am I right? 😂 I was yanking these old cruddy sheets on my bed and said out loud, "I'm getting brand new yellow cotton bed sheets for free. And it is done". I totally forgot about it. Two days later, I got a mystery offer from a large department store. 40% off. I decided to look for bedsheets. There they were. Yellow cotton bedsheets originally $100, marked down to $30, plus my 40% off. I would pick up in store so no shipping. I thought $17 isn't free, but close enough for $100 sheets. I logged into my account and found a leftover gift card from Christmas. Free sheets.

I know this sounds trivial, but what people don't remember is the universe doesn't judge. It doesn't think independently. It just knows and gives what you're asking for, good or bad. It doesn't forget because the universe is you. People don't separate that. Is not some outside force that judges and makes decisions. You make the decisions and attract the choice to you. So no. The universe doesn't forget. The universe opens and closes doors based on you. As long as you subconsciously know what you want and you want it with pure unresistant thought, you're golden. It's not as complicated as people think.