Sarasma wrote:

Hi. I'm new here. I broke up with my guy six weeks ago. Been using PW and BWD for only one week and have also completed the LS yesterday. N/C with my ex since the breakup.

I did a PW on him yesterday before going out to work. I was feeling upbeat, had just completed the Wonderful Powerful You meditation as well. I suddenly felt really sad, almost bereft out of nowhere. I have obviously been feeling this due to the breakup, but the last few weeks have been much better, and the feelings felt "off", like I shouldn't be having them and there was no reason as I was feeling really good and positive about things.

It occurred to me that they might not be my own feelings, so I inwardly said "I'd like to feel only my own feelings." And the sadness and grief feelings just disappeared instantly and I was back to how upbeat and positive I'd been feeling before.

Just wondered if others had had this experience, or if I'm kidding myself about having picked up on my ex. 

    

 
Sweetie are you doing Lanie’s CTC mediation? That is critical to your PW’s because they feel that disconnect and it draws them closer to you! At first I didn’t do it because I didn’t want too but then it got really hard for me to disconnect because the psychic cord was really strong and it wasn’t good for me because I felt every mood he was in or I thought he was in. Actually my relationship took a hit for that and now I make sure I do it every time and everything is soooo much better and it definitely drew him closer to me!😍

echo wrote:

cutting the cord destroys the connection you have with them it does not draw them closer to you. trust me. a lot of the people on the rs server i am on have experienced this where once they cut the cord some of their pois dont even contact them anymore. dont do ctc. 

 
That’s interesting! Honestly it comes down to your belief everything comes down to your beliefs 😀💞

Mcleanie77 wrote:

echo wrote:

cutting the cord destroys the connection you have with them it does not draw them closer to you. trust me. a lot of the people on the rs server i am on have experienced this where once they cut the cord some of their pois dont even contact them anymore. dont do ctc. 

 
There’s an article that tells you a few things you can do like picturing a cord and like you unplugging it and you can plug it back in as you please so I think there’s multiple things you can do I guess it’s up to the person 💞

yes i suppose that is a good picturing. i know many people only use ctc to get away and break off from their poi. when they use ctc for other purposes it can often result in your poi leaving you.

Mcleanie77 wrote:

Sarasma wrote:

Hi. I'm new here. I broke up with my guy six weeks ago. Been using PW and BWD for only one week and have also completed the LS yesterday. N/C with my ex since the breakup.

I did a PW on him yesterday before going out to work. I was feeling upbeat, had just completed the Wonderful Powerful You meditation as well. I suddenly felt really sad, almost bereft out of nowhere. I have obviously been feeling this due to the breakup, but the last few weeks have been much better, and the feelings felt "off", like I shouldn't be having them and there was no reason as I was feeling really good and positive about things.

It occurred to me that they might not be my own feelings, so I inwardly said "I'd like to feel only my own feelings." And the sadness and grief feelings just disappeared instantly and I was back to how upbeat and positive I'd been feeling before.

Just wondered if others had had this experience, or if I'm kidding myself about having picked up on my ex. 

    

 
Sweetie are you doing Lanie’s CTC mediation? That is critical to your PW’s because they feel that disconnect and it draws them closer to you! At first I didn’t do it because I didn’t want too but then it got really hard for me to disconnect because the psychic cord was really strong and it wasn’t good for me because I felt every mood he was in or I thought he was in. Actually my relationship took a hit for that and now I make sure I do it every time and everything is soooo much better and it definitely drew him closer to me!😍

Thanks for responding McLeanie - I've read a lot of your posts (thank you!). I started off doing the CTC but stopped because I got a bit scared about cutting the cord completely. I've started doing a kind of "unplugging the cord" instead just at the end of the meditations, but admit that sometimes I forget.

The thing is, there's a part of me that wants to pick up on him, if that's actually what I'm doing. And although I don't want him to be unhappy the feeling that he's upset and missing me enough to feel sad is affirming if you know what I mean. Bit selfish, isn't it?