By doing Lanie method , I managed to get back one of the exes. This jerk had blocked me out of the blue. So I did cutting the cord to get my power back  and I did it only once. Then within less than a week he unblocked me and called me. That's when I let his petty ass have it. I wiped the floor with him and he was stuttering and nervously laughing trying to change the subject. I told him people like him who act holier than thou are shit and than I blocked his ass. That's when I truly became a Goddess. I love standing up for myself-its just so powerful.