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6/15/2019 7:17 am  #11


Re: Things seemed to be going BEAUTIFULLY, and then...

Sweetsong wrote:

Nocturne wrote:

I figured I’d give you all an update since I often see posts like these, etc. but more often than not I never know the outcome. Therefore, I figured I’d share with you all.

Days, then weeks, then months passed, and I hadn’t seen my POI again. From what I was gathering on social media, he and his girlfriend have only gotten more serious. Because I didn’t want to be attached to the outcome yet I had no luck at all when it came to dating around, I just figured it was best to not meditate as much. I pretty much stopped but when I did it I just felt like my heart just wasn’t in it as much. Me not seeing my POI at all in two months really did me in as well as his own relationship that seemed to be getting stronger.

That said, I just let it go completely. Turns out he’s moving out of state anyway and taking the girlfriend with him. Not that I wanted to interfere with their relationship, but I was also having the hope that maybe this was going to be short lived between him and her as my tarot cards kept saying they would end by summer and a few psychics said the same thing. In the end I just moved on. I’m actually not really sad and I wasn’t upset because I had been detached from the outcome, which is something I wanted. If anything I will say that I do feel some kind of way about the fact that the key thing I’ve always heard when it comes to the law of attraction and a specific person and applying it. I’ve always heard that if you’re okay with not having that person and open to having someone better, the universe would very likely bring it to you. On one hand I’m proud of myself because this is the most I’ve ever been detached from an outcome, considering that I really wanted to be with this guy and have the opportunity to explore my connection with him (we had one that I really felt every time I was around him, no lines were ever crossed). Yet on the other hand I’m scratching my head over the law of attraction when it comes to this. I did everything right and it still didn’t happen. I’ve decided to move on because he is gone now out of state and hopefully my luck will turn around and I will meet someone new and rather sooner than later. I’m definitely open to it, just having my doubts unfortunately.

Sorry to hear that.  I was reading your story from the beginning and was hoping for some positive, cheerful outcome.  What really makes me sad is that it seems only women feel like fighting that extra mile for a man. As I wrote in my other thread, all the books, advice, psychic reading, tarot, meditation etc. are only addressed to women when it is obvious it is men who should get some emotional education.  How come it is only us who seem desperate?  It is 21 century; we work, drive, vote, fly space shuttle, have free will, but still we feel incapable and powerless when it comes to getting the man who deserves us?  What are we: second class citizens?  We need to meditate, attract, work all the time to get man's attention.  I am sorry, but I think that something is not right with the whole Universe then.  Why don't men need to do anything?  They pretty much just wait there..quite useless.  They don't stress about anything.

I have a couple of male friends who claim they live in unhappy marriages.  Apparently, each of them has that one women who went away and they still love her.  Did they ever went online to get an advice how to win love of their life back? Of course no!  Did they ever talk to their sisters, best female friends, or any other female to ask for a different perspective and opinion? Of course no!  They got married with their wives (apparently, their wives were so pretty??? ok, that's a number 1 reason to get married, mind my sarcasm), got children, whine around and still don't do anything to maybe get divorced and look and try to win the loves of their lives back.  Since there is no urge or interest on their side to change anything, I doubt they are so "unhappy" as they claim.  They would just never do anything as major and as intense as us, women, would do for men.  I would really like more women to give their opinion on this subject.  What is wrong with our feelings and why do we feel so below men when it comes to love?  And when there are going to be books and advice, meditation, spells etc for men?  Why don't they need to do that extra mile, which each of us is doing here?

To repeat myself, it is just sad how many women suffer (including me), wants, desire, goes over highest mountain for a man...why? 
 

You definitely hit the nail on the head. This is so true and incredibly frustrating. Perhaps it is because women in general by nature are more emotional, but it definitely seems to be the case for the most part that men rarely have anything to worry about. We as women have to do this, not do that, live up to all of these expectations, etc. and men just have to exist and things seem to fall into their lap.

“As I wrote in my other thread, all the books, advice, psychic reading, tarot, meditation etc. are only addressed to women when it is obvious it is men who should get some emotional education.  How come it is only us who seem desperate?  It is 21 century; we work, drive, vote, fly space shuttle, have free will, but still we feel incapable and powerless when it comes to getting the man who deserves us? “

I relate to ALL of this. I feel like I’ve tried everything at this point. I mean, even when I met my POI I was in a great place in my life, the most confident I’ve ever been in a long time, and the happiest I’ve ever been being single. I wasn’t even looking and he came from out of nowhere. I really wanted this one to happen and I felt like it would. But alas, it didn’t. I did ask the universe for him or someone better. I just hope that “someone better” shows up soon.

Thank you for all of your kind words. It means a lot and makes me feel less alone. Grated I’m not upset over it not happening, just annoyed because the pattern still held of nothing coming of anything despite making all of the changes and doing things “right” per se. But I would like to see it happen for women like us, that’s for sure.

6/15/2019 7:46 am  #12


Re: Things seemed to be going BEAUTIFULLY, and then...

"even when I met my POI I was in a great place in my life, the most confident I’ve ever been in a long time, and the happiest I’ve ever been being single. I wasn’t even looking and he came from out of nowhere."

Same happened to me. I rarely date as I simply don't find men interesting enough and I want "the real thing." Then he came out of blue and in 3 weeks of knowing each other we already spent every day together.  It is interesting that maybe 3 months prior to that I was sitting home, was sad and thought "oh, I probably won't even kiss ever again..." as nothing had been happening in my life for more than a decade. 

I just don't know about the Universe and all of what we are desperately trying and searching in this moment.  I never heard of PW or way to attract somebody's mind (apart from intellect), and can't say I was unsuccessful of having guys before.  So, life was happening before "secret methods"  too.  Btw. I woke up in the great mood day, and there is no way I want him back.  He lost the most amazing woman he could ever have, so why on the Earth should I feel down and cry???  Maybe we should all respect ourselves a bit more.
I wish you good luck!  We can do it, we are women! 
 

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