I haven't seen any activity on this forum.  I just read this book, and I am very excited to get my ex back. Has this worked for for many of the ladies in this forum?  Would love some feedback.



Thank you 

Dear Lanie,
I have read all your books several times and they have been real eye openers for me! Lots of things I should have realised decades ago I learned from your books. I realised that I was a doormat and after reading that no man would ever commit to a woman when he was getting everything he wanted without commitment made me realise that I was tolerating behavious no woman should tolerate from the man I was seeing. I tried what you said, saying we want different things etc, he was enjoying his freedom and I was open to a more committed relationship. He had said some really hurtful things that he couldn't remember saying that made me realise he regarded me as a nothing.  He wasn't very happy, and he also told me, 'the thing is, I can't cope with your children' (They're not that bad and they're almost grown up - 15,16 and 19) I tried no contact and we met again after three months and he held my hand for all of the ten hours we were together, giving me hope, but he has since met someone else and is having another tropical holiday but this time with her - 'his new girlfriend' This is particularly hurtful as he never ever considered me as his girlfriend. he 'didn't want to be anyone's boyfriend' or to be in a 'serious relationship'.  He let me know in an exceptionally cruel way that he had met someone else and was cold and hateful I think he just wants me to disappear, probably because he knows he has treated me badly and he doesn't want to think aobut it. He's twice admitted to treating me cruelly but keeps on doing it.. I have had over two and a half years of hot/cold torture with this man and really thought we were meant to be together - if only he could see it - he's a widower - (never again) but now I feel like rubbish. I have tried your techniques Lanie and one Saturday I had him and the love of my life from 30 years ago both ring/text on the same night. I have tried your techniques since but they don't seem to be working for me anymore and I am not sure if this is because I can't focus properly and I lack the conviction, but now I'm not sure he deserves me! I had such high hopes but they've all been dashed! I have not responded to his last message and in a way, I'm so angry that the work has finally turned!
 

Thank you Lanie, I know what you said makes sense. Co-incidentally, this man once casually said to me, we could buy a house nearby for your children as you'd still want to see them sometimes! I think he was joking and I didn't respond, but he was trying out scenarios in his mind, but ultimately, he didn't want me enough, I didn't tick all his boxes, and his head ruled his heart.

Thank you for your response to mine, particularly as reading mine back, I realised it didn't make total sense - I meant 'this worm has finally turned'!  Your books have actually changed my whole approach to life, and if I ever have another relationship - (unlikely!) I will do so with a whole new mindset, thanks to you. I just wish I could have read them thirty five years ago!  Thank you! And I love your meditations too!
 

lynt wrote:

Hi Lanie,
I just want to thank you for your books, your work, everything. A week ago my 28 year old daughter was unexpectedly dumped by a guy we all really adored. The break up was a painful gut punch. Yes they are young, and only been together 6 months, but they'd had bigger plans - many of them he had driven. The past week has been a full on grief process.
The very first night I found your books. I bought (and reviewed 2 of them). The tough love parts were hard. All we wanted was him back for her. Today she took your books and is applying them. She leaves the country for school in a few weeks. She is using all her positive power to fill her days (in the past 24 hours) with soul healing. 
As the mom who is also grieving, I found such comfort and hope in your words. Thank you. Bless you. 

I'm so sorry about your daughter's breakup and so glad you both found solace in my books.  She's lucky to have such a loving and supportive mother who is there for her.  It takes a while to recover from the loss of a loved one, especially since it was unexpected, but on the positive side she will be fully free to enjoy herself at school. If she can learn to meditate it will expedite the healing process.   Love to you both. xoxo