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9/24/2019 4:42 pm  #1


My POI is such a rock head

I know he's receiving my messages, I've gotten confirmation on more than a few occasions...

It's just like pulling teeth to get him to act on them. He was a lot more receptive to my PW when we were on better terms of course. I know he's scared to reach out, but damn, what can I do to get him to be more assertive? 

I already know some of his attention is on another girl. He usually ignores me a bit me when his sights are on a new shiny toy, smh 

I really just want an apology out of him. He's always been to proud to apologize even when he's clearly in the wrong. I think I'll have more satisfaction from this situation if I can at least PW him into apologizing.

I'm just venting more than anything. Any feedback/tips is of course appreciated. 

Last edited by Jess (9/24/2019 4:50 pm)

10/02/2019 8:32 pm  #2


Re: My POI is such a rock head

Maybe just just let it go for a while.  Then come back to one of the techniques...go live your life and get him out of your mind

Last edited by queenstarfish71360 (10/02/2019 8:33 pm)

10/02/2019 8:50 pm  #3


Re: My POI is such a rock head

Yep, that's the route I've chose. I know I'm at least on his mind.

I'm losing interest in him though so my PW sessions have gotten fewer and farther in between. I know there's better out there. 

I will keep you all updated though!

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10/03/2019 9:42 pm  #4


Re: My POI is such a rock head

I think I need to avoid PW for the rest of the month. I was doing great for almost a week now (not really thinking about him, not checking his social media). I've just been focusing on me and my career. I did a PW session last night though because I figured I was due for one (it had been awhile since the last one), but I've noticed something about PW makes me become obsessed with my target the next day or two later. I'm not sure what the cause of that is... I'm not sure if it's a subconscious eagerness to hear from him after doing PW or if it's his emotions that I'm feeling... I don't know, but it really does set me back. For the past week I've actually convinced myself of why I'm better off without him. Like I could list 101 reasons why. But for some reason, the day after doing PW, I miss him again and actually started tearing up and reminiscing about all the good times together. I don't understand how my emotions can shift like that unless I'm not as over him as I thought. I think a few of you have experienced this phenomenon as well... It's just so frustrating because i know in order for this remote influence to work, you have to be able to let go. 

I think I'm going to refrain from PW for the rest of the month even though the idea of losing control over him pains me. I know my POI is talking to other women while keeping me in consideration, so I don't want him to forget me. I know being too passive is not going to pay off in regards to winning him over since the other women are competing hard for him, but I can't help but feel like a man that I have to "fight" for is just not worth it anyway. 

Anyway, I'm gonna avoid PW for at least the next week and see how I feel. I tend to feel fine for days when I don't do it, but once I pick it back up again, I relapse into a depression (if not depression, than a deep arousal for my POI). I'm tired of feeling like this. A part of me wants to move on and work on myself so I can be ready for my ideal partner, but a part of me still wants to hear from this original POI. I'm still trying to at least manifest an apology... 

Another vent session lol. Thanks for reading. I guess this is my official progress thread. 

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10/05/2019 10:01 am  #5


Re: My POI is such a rock head

Hi Jess, on another forum someone mentioned the side effects of PW/RS is you end up becoming more obsessed....hopefully Lanie can address this!!

10/05/2019 3:56 pm  #6


Re: My POI is such a rock head

Yes, one theory is that the target's feelings (after being remote seduced) are transferring to you, but I'm not entirely sure... I know that I'm the obsessive type in general (especially after a break up and before I knew about PW), but something about this time feels different. Like, how can I seemingly move on from someone and then start pining and even become sexually obsessed with them all over again??

I'm currently trying to put myself out there and date new guys to see if that helps me move on

Last edited by Jess (10/05/2019 3:58 pm)

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10/07/2019 11:16 am  #7


Re: My POI is such a rock head

Jess wrote:

I think I need to avoid PW for the rest of the month. I was doing great for almost a week now (not really thinking about him, not checking his social media). I've just been focusing on me and my career. I did a PW session last night though because I figured I was due for one (it had been awhile since the last one), but I've noticed something about PW makes me become obsessed with my target the next day or two later. I'm not sure what the cause of that is... I'm not sure if it's a subconscious eagerness to hear from him after doing PW or if it's his emotions that I'm feeling... I don't know, but it really does set me back. For the past week I've actually convinced myself of why I'm better off without him. Like I could list 101 reasons why. But for some reason, the day after doing PW, I miss him again and actually started tearing up and reminiscing about all the good times together. I don't understand how my emotions can shift like that unless I'm not as over him as I thought. I think a few of you have experienced this phenomenon as well... It's just so frustrating because i know in order for this remote influence to work, you have to be able to let go. 

I think I'm going to refrain from PW for the rest of the month even though the idea of losing control over him pains me. I know my POI is talking to other women while keeping me in consideration, so I don't want him to forget me. I know being too passive is not going to pay off in regards to winning him over since the other women are competing hard for him, but I can't help but feel like a man that I have to "fight" for is just not worth it anyway. 

Anyway, I'm gonna avoid PW for at least the next week and see how I feel. I tend to feel fine for days when I don't do it, but once I pick it back up again, I relapse into a depression (if not depression, than a deep arousal for my POI). I'm tired of feeling like this. A part of me wants to move on and work on myself so I can be ready for my ideal partner, but a part of me still wants to hear from this original POI. I'm still trying to at least manifest an apology... 

Another vent session lol. Thanks for reading. I guess this is my official progress thread. 

I think this is wise!! Work on loving your self!! Loving your self is very important!! I truly belive that we can't  really and truly love another until we learn to love ourselves>

Iam working on my self now and doing PW a little.. with no presure!! I know my SP has a lot to work on also! I consentrate on living my life and working on me!!
 

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