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Well, men are mostly stupid and don't think about feelings most of the time. It's unfortunate but true.
But you need to realise you are the one with the power – Lanie's methods are perfect for realising this. Her techniques are pro-active and powerful. Just take a step away from the situation for a bit.
This is clearly not doing your mental health any favours, and no man is worth spending hours fretting and worrying over. Go to a movie, go out with friends, go and distract yourself, read Lanie's books or any other LoA books you have to soak some positivity up. You could do some much more amazing stuff with your time than worrying about him. Maybe have some fun manifesting small stuff like a free donut or a discount at a store.
Please re-read all the amazing advice you've been given on this forum and others. It's there to help you.
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I'm not ignoring it I take it but no one seems to remember or understand how hard his is. I state again if he has slept with someone else I cannot manifest being with him Roght now because it would devastate me that he did that knowing we have been sleeping with each other. After him being romantic sometimes? After him knowing how it would hurt me.
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You're creating the "he's slept with someone else" story in your head already, regardless of if it's happened or not. You need to rewrite that story. And why would you want to manifest a relationship with him if you're convinced he's the type to go off and sleep with someone else? That paranoia and those doubts is not the foundation for a healthy relationship and those vibrations from women break down relationships. I've seen it time and time again.
Read Lanie's books again and feel how powerful you are. He should (and can) be the one desiring your love, not the other way around. Chill out and make it happen.
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Difference is though if he was with me like officially he would not do that and he is commited. The panic then goes. But when he is romantic one minute and then tells me how he doesn't want to be In a relationship because he can do what he wants without worrying. He told me like a month ago that if this girl texted him to sleep with him he had the option to go and do it. Do you see my where my panic stems from now?
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awesomesauce88 wrote:
No dates do not want any dates. I want to work on this and getting him back.
Side note he posted a photo of a wall hanging thing that states what happens at the cabin stays at the cabin. Trying to not be negative...
Just because you date other men does not mean that you have to get sexual with them. I don't put dating and sex in the same category. Why? I am all about having a commitment. For me it's all or nothing. No grey areas in between when it comes to love. What you are using these guys to do essentially is to help boast your self-confidence and self-esteem. By refusing to date others, you are possibly pushing away a guy who may very well be more suitable to you than this guy is. But you can't see that because you are so attached to him. This process takes time honey.
Just because you go out on a few dates certainly is not telling the Universe that you don't love your guy. Look at it this way. You are saying, I love myself. I love him. I will manifest a new relationship with him. But at the same time I don't need him to be happy. I am happy now. I will explore what else the world has to offer me until I have him back into my arms again.
Do you really think it is a bad idea to go and have fun? If you see it that way then, I don't know what else I can tell you, except that you are looking at this all wrong. Take that guy off the pedestal you have him on. Stop thinking about what he is doing and who he is doing it with. You are only hurting yourself.
you brought this man into your life without consciously thinking about him. You need to be in that place again so he will be all yours. Once you detach your energy from him, he will feel it. Then he will be the one thinking about you and wondering what's going on in your life. He will come to you when he can't take it anymore.
The guy who is my test subject, I am certain he is with a woman right now as I'm typing this. However she is no deterrent to my process. Why? Because I have a weapon that she does not know how to use like I do. You have that same weapon too. Do everything in your power to give yourself the fullest advantage over every woman who he is involved with or crosses his path.
That message he posted really bothers you. If I walked down the street right now and saw my test subject hugging up and kissing up on another woman, I would Shake It Off. Take Mariah Carey's advice girl.
Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.
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pectinase wrote:
You need to treat negative thoughts less as something to panic and push away and rather something to work *from*. So rather than going "I'm thinking negatively, bad things will manifest!" think "OK, I'm having a negative thought – it's time to replace it with a positive one then" and calmly find a good thought, and go to a slightly better place.
It's just about working your way up, not going instantly from "negative" to "positive" because it's really difficult to do that. Actually *recognising* that you are thinking in a negative headspace, and maybe even rolling it around your head for a few minutes, will help a lot.
The important thing to remember is YOU are in control of your thoughts. Not the other way around.
I hear you.
Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.
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awesomesauce88 wrote:
It really feels out of control and now with the way everyone is talking it likes the cabin trip may have manifested into my worse nightmare.
You manifested this. Now use this as your opportunity and take control. I got your back.
Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.
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awesomesauce88 wrote:
1) still in the process of changing my mind set no one is perfect
2)I am working on getting him
3) if they were not at this trip and I didn't see the things that I have seen on these things I wouldn't be as panicky
(1) I'm not perfect my dear. None of us are. That is no excuse to stop us from getting what we truly desire.
(2) Bring him back to you without effort You manifested him into your life unconsciously now you are doing it with deliberation creation. That's all.
(3) The best time to work on changing your life around is when everything seems to be going bad. This is the true test from the Universe to see just how badly you really desire what you claim you want. It will show you all the things that are in your way. It's now up to you to either change your ways or fall back into your old patterns.
Him being on this cabin trip and doing God knows should not put you in a state of panic. Next thing you know you might come back here to tell us that he told you he met the girl of his dreams and he's going to marry here this week. What are you going to do then?
Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.
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I would probably want to jump off a bridge. Ifk. Don't say an awful thing.
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pectinase wrote:
Awesome, I understand sometimes things are frustrating but it feels like you're not acknowledging any of this advice people are taking the time out to give to you. Reading it, and really soaking up other LoA information right across the web (maybe even reading some of the Secret's success stories) will help you out and just chill you out a bit.
It's good to remember sometimes there are a *million* other worse things that are happening in the world right now, and a *million* other worse things that could happen to you personally. You have a house, friends, a job, and are healthy. Isn't that amazing? You need to remember you're great, go away and practise a tonne of self-love for a few days and just try and forget about him for a while. That's the time he'll start coming back. You're powerful.
She is powerful and she needs to take whatever amount of time it takes to know and use that power. This is why focusing on this guy right now is not the way to go. He loved her once. She should take comfort that he can and will love her again.
Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.