ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

awesomesauce88 wrote:

Because I want my results. I have build a life for myself thank you. Great job my own apt etc. he has seen this yet where is my commitment?

OH MY GOD girl, you just made me laugh.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

Made you laugh? Why because I have my own apt take care of myself? I have done this stuff for about a year now. I m not sitting here eating ice cream all day.

awesomesauce88 wrote:

Made you laugh? Why because I have my own apt take care of myself? I have done this stuff for about a year now. I m not sitting here eating ice cream all day.

I will tell you why I'm laughing. Because it's obvious that you are fighting and forcing the Universe to move things and that's just not the way it works. Great of you to take care of yourself. So let me ask you this then. You're boasting about what you have. But are you really happy within yourself?

And what's wrong with eating ice cream? I mean I don't eat it all day everyday.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

LoveYourself wrote:

Hi Awesomesauce, I am also trying to attract a specific person to me since the middle of last year. I can understand the pain and frustration that you're going through, but unless you're happy and giving positive energy to the universe then you won't get what you desire. If you can't be happy, then maybe you need to seek out a self help group for depression and anxiety.
The key is first and foremost to be happy with yourself and love or like yourself. Read self help books and pages on the internet for advice on how to do this. Only then can you attract back the love of your life
If you give the universe negative energy then guess what? you get back negative energy, it's simple Give the universe happy vibes and things will start flowing to you, including your specific person Learn to practice mindfulness as well, that will help with your anxiety. I do this and it really helps, I also suffer from anxiety and depression.
Whilst I have not yet attracted back my specific person, I know that he is on his way I am carrying on with the above techniques until the universe lines everything up for me. Forget about "how" it will happen, the universe will sort that out for you Just send him good vibes and positive energy whenever you think about him. Sending him negative energy will only bring more of the same.

Hopefully she listens to you, because she is determined not to take anything I say seriously.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

Can you not be that way?it really comes off insulting and like you are talking down to me. I have been on this loa journey for a year I am sorry if I want some Results. I had a bad day yesterday and I hate this cabin trip. Reason why? I have been on 2 and have seen the type of things that can happen. So it's not like I am just guessing. I really want this cabin trip to be different I mean my god te girls parents are supposedly there.. So that is why the cabin trip is a bother. I want to be wrong I do. It's a little easier when I know what has happened there. I'm asking the universe to throw me something on this today to calm my nerves. It would be a bit easier knowing he is at home.

awesomesauce88 wrote:

Because I want my results. I have build a life for myself thank you. Great job my own apt etc. he has seen this yet where is my commitment?

I've been reading this thread and thought I would add my penny's worth.
 
@awesome - I feel your pain and anxiety, but before you reply to any more messages I would make a suggestion and that would be to go back to the beginning of the thread and reread it and try to absorb the advice you have been given.

It's like you are standing at a pedestrian crossing and shouting to everyone that you can't get across the road and everyone is shouting back yes you can all you have to do is wait for the lights to turn red, the cars stop and you can cross. It's really that easy.

Now the irony is that I know exactly why you keep shouting and how you feel because I'm not that far from where you, but I can see you have a slightly wrong thought process as to why your processes aren't working.

Firstly congrats that you have your great job,own apt etc but that is so for, your accomplishments are for you, not for any man. You need to be happy for you, not to make him come back quicker, but because you are meant to be the focus and source of your happiness everything else is a bonus.

Ask yourself honestly as you are right now would you want to be in a relationship with you. Please don't take it as a critism because it's the same question I am asking myself, I know where my insecurities are and I'm working hard with EFT, meditation and CBT to work through them. We need to really focus on the self improvement and awareness part of LOA more to understand that's where the power lies. When you can say with unwavering confidence "I have a great job, my own apt... And this man isn't falling at my feet...well I'll show him" then a few evenings (or maybe longer but we live in high hope) of Lanie's techniques and he will be putty in your hands -because you have reclaimed your power back.

Stop focusing on this man, if he wants to sleep with anyone that's his business. Concentrate on your own mindspace and why you are attaching such a huge amount of need to this man, because the root of you need is not this man it all comes from within you. When we are craving ice cream it's not because we need the ice cream to live it's because either we have low blood sugar, we are feeling low and the ice cream appears to be the feel good solution or its hot....so many reasons , but none of this reasons are because of the ice cream itself.

Your desired relationship with this man is not going to happen today so there is nothing left for you to do about what's past. Wake up tomorrow morning and create a plan on how you are going to manifest first yourself with a calm peaceful mindspace back and then your desired relationship.

And know that whilst I'm writing this too you I am instructing myself the same instructions. The only thing is I know it can work cause I have done it but it only works if you clear the stress and anxiety and go for it.

Look at it this way right now the way you are going is not working so should you carry on and make yourself even more miserable and not get what you want. Or should you change the approach take the lighter easier approach (work on inner self it's sooo important) and enjoy the ride knowing he's on his way back.

Good luck and know that all the advice you get from these amazing woman only comes from a place of love and they have lived the truth so listen to them.

Cheriesymone wrote:

Thank you Shana.

That's easy for me to do. Cuz I hadn't contacted him for over 2 months. That's why I was kicking myself for doing it at this time. I do have a life outside of him. I actually do a good job living without him. I only tried to get back with me cuz I couldn't fight the feeling to not give up. I have to stop thinking negative

I affirm everything eventually turns out for my good. And here was a situation that I have now decided to find things to be grateful for in it.
1. He replied. Because that's not something he usually did after we broke up. Obviously the technique worked to open him up to being courteous.
2. He said he was seeing someone. I am grateful for the honesty. That's something I had written I wanted in him and I admire it because if I was the girl I want him to let other women know he's involved.
3. I reacted positivit. I left that imprint on his mind. Vs when we broke up.
4. I realize the power of my thoughts in creating what I don't want
5. Neville Goddard says you will go through the furnace but continue in faith. So if I can t would have strengthened my faith. Even if I don't get the man. To grow in faith is A HUGE WIN

What I am co Concerned about are the "feelings I get" goose bumps and elated where when I do technique and to not give up. Vs sad and cloudy when I think of all the reasons not to.
I remember the secret said " feelings" guide you. I feel so amazing that I wonder "is it because I want him" or are the feelings because I have connected. I still have goose bumps from the am technique

You have a beautiful insight about what you are creating. I too made a revelation early today. Which reminds me I need to go and write it down in my Gratitude Journal.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.