Oasiscalm wrote:

awesomesauce88 wrote:

Because I want my results. I have build a life for myself thank you. Great job my own apt etc. he has seen this yet where is my commitment?

I've been reading this thread and thought I would add my penny's worth.
 
@awesome - I feel your pain and anxiety, but before you reply to any more messages I would make a suggestion and that would be to go back to the beginning of the thread and reread it and try to absorb the advice you have been given.

It's like you are standing at a pedestrian crossing and shouting to everyone that you can't get across the road and everyone is shouting back yes you can all you have to do is wait for the lights to turn red, the cars stop and you can cross. It's really that easy.

Now the irony is that I know exactly why you keep shouting and how you feel because I'm not that far from where you, but I can see you have a slightly wrong thought process as to why your processes aren't working.

Firstly congrats that you have your great job,own apt etc but that is so for, your accomplishments are for you, not for any man. You need to be happy for you, not to make him come back quicker, but because you are meant to be the focus and source of your happiness everything else is a bonus.

Ask yourself honestly as you are right now would you want to be in a relationship with you. Please don't take it as a critism because it's the same question I am asking myself, I know where my insecurities are and I'm working hard with EFT, meditation and CBT to work through them. We need to really focus on the self improvement and awareness part of LOA more to understand that's where the power lies. When you can say with unwavering confidence "I have a great job, my own apt... And this man isn't falling at my feet...well I'll show him" then a few evenings (or maybe longer but we live in high hope) of Lanie's techniques and he will be putty in your hands -because you have reclaimed your power back.

Stop focusing on this man, if he wants to sleep with anyone that's his business. Concentrate on your own mindspace and why you are attaching such a huge amount of need to this man, because the root of you need is not this man it all comes from within you. When we are craving ice cream it's not because we need the ice cream to live it's because either we have low blood sugar, we are feeling low and the ice cream appears to be the feel good solution or its hot....so many reasons , but none of this reasons are because of the ice cream itself.

Your desired relationship with this man is not going to happen today so there is nothing left for you to do about what's past. Wake up tomorrow morning and create a plan on how you are going to manifest first yourself with a calm peaceful mindspace back and then your desired relationship.

And know that whilst I'm writing this too you I am instructing myself the same instructions. The only thing is I know it can work cause I have done it but it only works if you clear the stress and anxiety and go for it.

Look at it this way right now the way you are going is not working so should you carry on and make yourself even more miserable and not get what you want. Or should you change the approach take the lighter easier approach (work on inner self it's sooo important) and enjoy the ride knowing he's on his way back.

Good luck and know that all the advice you get from these amazing woman only comes from a place of love and they have lived the truth so listen to them.

THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU. That's all I can say.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

Lanie Stevens wrote:

I think the feelings come from ALL the wonderful things you are attracting to yourself.  To me it feels like a total and complete "universal hug" and I get chill bumps, tears and a heart opening that makes me literally feel like I am floating on air for the entire day.  That's probably the reason I absolutely love to do it twice a day.  What you go to bed thinking about will affect your dreams and draw things to you that you desire.  It's when our subconscious mind manifests because it doesn't have to fight the conscious, ever negative mind.  

I'm going to tell you what happened to me last night. The last thing I watched before going to sleep was a Korean drama called, First King Four Guards - The Legend. Watch it cause it's really good. Guessed what I dreamt about before waking up? This drama. However in my dreams events happened a little differently. It's fine though. I love this drama and it gives me a feel good vibe. The weird part is, I have watched this so many times, but last night is the first time I'm actually dreaming about it. Lesson ladies, be careful what you put into your mind before going to sleep.

And this is why I have not watched or listened to the news in more years than I can even remember. Some people say that is irresponsible. But if there is a hurricane coming, someone always let me. So it's all good.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Lanie Stevens wrote:

I think the feelings come from ALL the wonderful things you are attracting to yourself.  To me it feels like a total and complete "universal hug" and I get chill bumps, tears and a heart opening that makes me literally feel like I am floating on air for the entire day.  That's probably the reason I absolutely love to do it twice a day.  What you go to bed thinking about will affect your dreams and draw things to you that you desire.  It's when our subconscious mind manifests because it doesn't have to fight the conscious, ever negative mind.  

I'm going to tell you what happened to me last night. The last thing I watched before going to sleep was a Korean drama called, First King Four Guards - The Legend. Watch it cause it's really good. Guessed what I dreamt about before waking up? This drama. However in my dreams events happened a little differently. It's fine though. I love this drama and it gives me a feel good vibe. The weird part is, I have watched this so many times, but last night is the first time I'm actually dreaming about it. Lesson ladies, be careful what you put into your mind before going to sleep.

And this is why I have not watched or listened to the news in more years than I can even remember. Some people say that is irresponsible. But if there is a hurricane coming, someone always let me. So it's all good.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

Yes, I've been accused of not being "involved" in what's going on around the world because I refuse to watch the 10:00 PM news before I get into bed.  I watch or read uplifting things because my subconscious mind, the mind that doesn't know truth from fiction, will create in my life what I have imprinted it with.  Death and destruction is not something that feeds my soul.  Watch or listen to the news during the day when you have a million other things going through your head and are less likely to attract or resonate with negativity.  

Lanie Stevens wrote:

Yes, I've been accused of not being "involved" in what's going on around the world because I refuse to watch the 10:00 PM news before I get into bed.  I watch or read uplifting things because my subconscious mind, the mind that doesn't know truth from fiction, will create in my life what I have imprinted it with.  Death and destruction is not something that feeds my soul.  Watch or listen to the news during the day when you have a million other things going through your head and are less likely to attract or resonate with negativity.  

I stay away as much as possible. I depend on others to fill in the blanks. My emotions are best directed into creating the life of my dreams. And the dream I had last night was thrilling. You should have seen me. I was kicking butt and doing kung fu like Jet Li. I can only do this in my dreams, since I don't know martial arts.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Marz wrote:

I think the secret to being successful with this technique is to let go of resistance. We all experience it sometimes, but we need to be more "free flowing" instead of being so rigid. 
I know that the moment I started to feel resistance and/or anxiety about my love is when I got the very outcome that I was worried about, he didn't even do any particularly wrong, but I saw myself getting back into that old way of thinking/behaving and I stopped it immediately. 

Another thing about being too rigid/resistance is that this will naturally chase anyone away, especially men. Relationship or no relationship - a man has to always feel like he's free. I learned this the hard way
Anyway, just my 2 cents, I hope it helps, awesomesauce. The group is here to support you <3

This is why giving men ultimatums has never worked and never will. And why women still do it, is beyond me. The man will always choose the option that will break your heart even more. Stop doing that. The second a man feels that you are trying to lock him down he runs and leaves his shoes behind. Men treasure their freedom and that's one of main reasons so many women are heart broken. Remember men have to choose between two options. Their freedom or you. And if they can keep you around and still have their freedom, they won't hesitate to string you around like a love, sick puppy. You must show him that you are the better option as opposed to being a man running around freely with no aim in sight. Never give a man what he wants until he has chosen you.

I can't recall the name of this book. However the who is a guy told a story about a friend of his back when they were in college. His room mate met this wonderful girl and spend as much time with her in the beginning. But then he spend less and less time with her as he returned to his favor hubby. He own a several cocks and would participate in cock fights. I wonder why men love that sport so much. Could it be the name? Anyways, his new girl threw out a ultimatum. It was either her or the cocks. Do I really need to tell you what his choice was? That girl left the dorm room in tears.

I hope awesomesauce88 doesn't go demanding answers from the guy about the cabin trip. I see it ending in disaster if she does. I have told her many times to let it go. It's the only way she is going to be and feel happy. She will only keep on manifesting events that she does not want as long as she remains in panic mode. And also telling herself that she can't be happy without him is a big NO, NO.

Ladies please don't do this. Your ex may be a wonderful man, but there are other wonderful men in the world that can also be yours. I know your goal is to get your ex back and I support that. But keep in mind that this world have an endless number of possibilities for us to enjoy. This is why we live here on earth.

Use Lanie's Pussy Whip to your fullest advantage.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

He is the one I want I didn't say I do not do other things or enjoy other things. Using her book to my advantage is getting my ex back. I mean that is the man I want again law states you get your desire well he is mine so I will be using this book for that. Doesn't mean I m not enjoying watching the history channel right now in my pjs on a Sunday afternoon because he is not here. However I m sorry but  if he has done something with someone there I wil no longer pursue him as I feel like he has no feelings of caring towards me what so ever. He can't say I love you and stuff seem like he has an agenda to ask me to be his girlfriend and then sleep with someone else. Am I suppose to be ok with that? Am I suppose to say oh sure your coming by to see me now and you want to keep things going but in between that you slept with someone else and that's ok? Curious on this. I mean it's not like he has been gone a year and we hadn't talked or expressed any feelings. So if that happened it means he did this during the process and I'm suppose to disregard it? Since I have been flucating in emotions the last 3 days I don't know what has happened so that is why I'm saying if because I can't go back in time and change it. Even if I'm positive right now I still don't like the fact that if he did . I wouldn't be able to get past that.

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