awesomesauce88 wrote:

He is the one I want I didn't say I do not do other things or enjoy other things. I m sorry but if he has done something with someone there I wil no longer pursue him as I feel like he has no feelings of caring towards me what so ever. He can't say I love you and stuff seem like he has an agenda to ask me to be his girlfriend and then sleep with someone else. Am I suppose to be ok with that? Am I suppose to say oh sure your coming by to see me now and you want to keep things going but in between that you slept with someone else and that's ok? Curious on this. I mean it's not like he has been gone a year and we hadn't talked or expressed any feelings. So if that happened it means he did this during the process and I'm suppose to disregard it?

Wait a minute, are you attacking me? I am not the one who is hurting you. You do realize this right?

I can't decide for you whether you should pursue this man or not. When I suggest dating other men, just for the sake of fun not sex, you made it clear, "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else." When I told you to move on with living your life, you still insisted again, "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else." Since you insist over and over again, "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else," then it really shouldn't matter to you if he has sex with other women or even how many right. Because "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else."

If you had absorb the words in my previous posts you would not be coming at me like this. Instead you would be working on creating your life using deliberate creation. You have issues and I am not in the profession of being a Therapist.

If him sleeping with other women bothers you so much here is my best advice to you awesomesaue88. LET HIM GO FOR GOOD. But I know you will still say in the end, "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else." So there really is nothing else I can do or say that will be of any use to you. Peace.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

awesomesauce88 wrote:

He is the one I want I didn't say I do not do other things or enjoy other things. I m sorry but if he has done something with someone there I wil no longer pursue him as I feel like he has no feelings of caring towards me what so ever. He can't say I love you and stuff seem like he has an agenda to ask me to be his girlfriend and then sleep with someone else. Am I suppose to be ok with that? Am I suppose to say oh sure your coming by to see me now and you want to keep things going but in between that you slept with someone else and that's ok? Curious on this. I mean it's not like he has been gone a year and we hadn't talked or expressed any feelings. So if that happened it means he did this during the process and I'm suppose to disregard it?

Wait a minute, are you attacking me? I am not the one who is hurting you. You do realize this right?

I can't decide for you whether you should pursue this man or not. When I suggest dating other men, just for the sake of fun not sex, you made it clear, "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else." When I told you to move on with living your life, you still insisted again, "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else." Since you insist over and over again, "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else," then it really shouldn't matter to you if he has sex with other women or even how many right. Because "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else."

If you had absorb the words in my previous posts you would not be coming at me like this. Instead you would be working on creating your life using deliberate creation. You have issues and I am not in the profession of being a Therapist.

If him sleeping with other women bothers you so much here is my best advice to you awesomesaue88. LET HIM GO FOR GOOD. But I know you will still say in the end, "He is the one I want, I don't want anybody else." So there really is nothing else I can do or say that will be of any use to you. Peace.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

First I am not attacking you. I honestly can say when I see my name on your post constantly I am going to respond. I can only say that if I m using this book am I not using it for the same reason everyone else is? I don't feel like I have to go on dates with others it's not something I desire so why should I. I'm simply stating that if something happened I would not be able to get past that. You have assumed that he already has. I have no knowledge yet. I really am tired of feeling like everything I am saying is wrong. You don't realize that some of the posts about me you have posted come off like I'm being attacked because I am havin a bad day or I am not choosing to react the way you do I'm wrong and it is not going to turn out the way I want. As my friend said yesterday when we we out talking (yes I was out with a friend last night.) sometimes you just need to let emotions out so they don't stay there and brew. Sometimes venting is all you need. And I'm sorry that the cabin trip has been an extremely difficult thing for me. I just think it is wrong if he does thag while we have been doing our thing.

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Marz wrote:

I think the secret to being successful with this technique is to let go of resistance. We all experience it sometimes, but we need to be more "free flowing" instead of being so rigid. 
I know that the moment I started to feel resistance and/or anxiety about my love is when I got the very outcome that I was worried about, he didn't even do any particularly wrong, but I saw myself getting back into that old way of thinking/behaving and I stopped it immediately. 
Another thing about being too rigid/resistance is that this will naturally chase anyone away, especially men. Relationship or no relationship - a man has to always feel like he's free. I learned this the hard way
Anyway, just my 2 cents, I hope it helps, awesomesauce. The group is here to support you <3

This is why giving men ultimatums has never worked and never will. And why women still do it, is beyond me. The man will always choose the option that will break your heart even more. Stop doing that. The second a man feels that you are trying to lock him down he runs and leaves his shoes behind. Men treasure their freedom and that's one of main reasons so many women are heart broken. Remember men have to choose between two options. Their freedom or you. And if they can keep you around and still have their freedom, they won't hesitate to string you around like a love, sick puppy. You must show him that you are the better option as opposed to being a man running around freely with no aim in sight. Never give a man what he wants until he has chosen you.

I can't recall the name of this book. However the who is a guy told a story about a friend of his back when they were in college. His room mate met this wonderful girl and spend as much time with her in the beginning. But then he spend less and less time with her as he returned to his favor hubby. He own a several cocks and would participate in cock fights. I wonder why men love that sport so much. Could it be the name? Anyways, his new girl threw out a ultimatum. It was either her or the cocks. Do I really need to tell you what his choice was? That girl left the dorm room in tears.

I hope awesomesauce88 doesn't go demanding answers from the guy about the cabin trip. I see it ending in disaster if she does. I have told her many times to let it go. It's the only way she is going to be and feel happy. She will only keep on manifesting events that she does not want as long as she remains in panic mode. And also telling herself that she can't be happy without him is a big NO, NO.

Ladies please don't do this. Your ex may be a wonderful man, but there are other wonderful men in the world that can also be yours. I know your goal is to get your ex back and I support that. But keep in mind that this world have an endless number of possibilities for us to enjoy. This is why we live here on earth.

Use Lanie's Pussy Whip to your fullest advantage.

Best Regards,
Shana Jahsinta Walters.

And let the church say "Amen"! Amazing, Shana!

Hi AwesomeSauce88,

Firstly I do think it is very understandable that you feel bad about what your guy is doing. These kinds of things can be terribly painful and they really can make you go crazy, speculating about what may or may not be happening, etc.

But whatever happens (and it probably won't be as bad as you think it is in the end) I think you need from now on to put the topic of the cabin trip out of your mind. What's done is done and that can't be changed, but if you keep your mind focused on it, then all that will happen is that it will snowball right in front of you. Stop putting your energy into this upsetting stuff and start working out a plan for yourself that will lead to getting him back.

So let's just turn over a new page now.  try to relax now. Dry your tears, if you have them, and hold your head up high. Remember, you are a queen. Do the techniques and then let it go and put the subject of him out of your mind, if you can. Try to focus on things that you enjoy doing and if he does pop up in your thoughts, remind yourself that what you want is already yours and it's just a matter of time before you see this in your reality. 

 

Last edited by Anna1408 (2/13/2016 12:05 pm)

Anna1408 wrote:

Hi AwesomeSauce88,

Firstly I do think it is very understandable that you feel bad about what your guy is doing. These kinds of things can be terribly painful and they really can make you go crazy, speculating about what may or may not be happening, etc.

But whatever happens (and it probably won't be as bad as you think it is in the end) I think you need from now on to put the topic of the cabin trip out of your mind. What's done is done and that can't be changed, but if you keep your mind focused on it, then all that will happen is that it will snowball right in front of you. Stop putting your energy into this upsetting stuff and start working out a plan for yourself that will lead to getting him back.

So let's just turn over a new page now. Please believe me when I tell you that Lanie's methods are incredibly powerful, and if you apply them regularly, they will work for you. There is just something that happens when you do them that makes the guy want you like crazy. I don't know what it is, but it's happened to me and it's happened to a whole lot of other people, too. So try to relax now. Dry your tears, if you have them, and hold your head up high. Remember, you are a queen. Do the techniques and then let it go and put the subject of him out of your mind, if you can. Try to focus on things that you enjoy doing and if he does pop up in your mind, remind yourself that he is already yours and it's just a matter of time before you see this in your reality. Forget the past and have faith in these methods, because you really can mould your future with this guy exactly the way you want it to be. That's the bottom line, and that is really all that matters. 

 

thank you, well he did not hook up with anyone so i like that but i do not like my behavior. I was so good for months and calm and awesome and that was what all my friends liked was that i grown. even they think i have regressed. I want them to be proud of me again and to like me. and for me to like me. I want to use her technique for him but for them too and to use loa for all of my life stuff. i am so mad that i regressed. The thing is that that worry and anxiety are sooooo powerful sooo and it is very hard to shut it off. I have not figure out how to get myself out of that. I try to apply the techniques at that time and its like they get shoved away. I really want to grow again and have the life i want with my friends back and an awesome enjoyable job, lots of money. I really need to finish my  continuing education for my job and its alot i need to get it done by  2/10. So i am trying not to stress there. I really just want all those things and for my attitude to be something so many people want to be around not just my guy but my old friends and everything i want to manifest them back.